Do you ever come across someone "everyone" loves but you don't?

[QualityChecked]

This is a woman in her 30s, very beautiful and very lively. Good fun, accomplished in her career, got lots of nice things to say to people.

People don't just like her, they think she's absolutely wonderful. People (men and women) are always telling me what an amazing person she is.

I find her manipulative. She can get anyone to do anything for her, hardly ever pays for a drink or a meal, agrees to go to everything but often doesn't show or leaves very early because she has some other thing on the same night.

It's just me though, everyone else seems to think it's fine for the opportunity to bask in her light. Probably I sound jealous, but it's not that, I'm just baffled why others see her so differently to I do.

I know a man who is a very charismatic, hearty, hail fellow well met type. Everyone adores him.

He once accidentally broke something small of mine, no problem, I wasn't bothered, and he went into a furious rant at me because I wouldn't apologise to him. Wtf. Since then he's been just a bit snidey to me. Twat..

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I've worked with someone like this, fortunately peripherally. Queen Bee, huge friend list on FB, cultivates people who can do her favours. Some of it I find admirable, as it takes an energy I just don't have. I had nothing to offer her so she treated me with the barest level of politeness possible. However, when she left loads of folk came out of the woodwork saying she was actually a bit of a bitch and not that good at her job.

Stormy,was just so I didn't get accused of being jealous! This is actually a bald man,in his 70s,folk keep telling me how lovely he is. Although fit and healthy he always manages to get everyone running round to his every whim

@furbabymama87

'Yeah a mum at the school. She's very bubbly, chatty and kind. She does charity work and is a good person but my heart sinks when I see her. She just talks at you and not to you. She doesn't listen to a word you say and doesn't come up for air. You can hear her gasping for breath as she's rambling on. She is also religious which is fine, but I feel like she tried to press her beliefs on me, when mine are different. I just say hi when I see her now and hurry ahead as I just find her so annoying.'

I feel like a lot of people would describe me this way.

In reality I am highly anxious, running on coffee, fags (no one would believe I smoked!) and adrenaline. I give so much to other people that we are in bad financial trouble ourselves. I suspect my family find me very difficult to live with because I can't say no to anything I'm asked and my brain never switches off from thinking about other people. Very minor events keep me awake all night, second guessing my words and actions. I'd hate anyone to ever find me lacking and so I am always smiling, always chatting, always offering help and always trying my best to make other people feel special. It's exhausting, I don't know what's wrong with me. I have never felt 'worthy'.

Others would describe me as very popular, kind, easygoing and as having the perfect relationship and family life.

Oh yes, a relative. Those of us in the family who've known him since he was a child are the only ones who seem to know his 'true' self. Which is cruel, manipulative and borderline psychopathic.

But he is always posting on SM travelling the world with a bunch of friends. He spent about 6 months of the first lockdown with the same group of friends, they hopped from lavish location to lavish location (he associates himself with people with a lot of money). I don't know how anyone can stand to be around him for a minute, let alone go on holiday with him. He gives off very Patrick Batman vibes.

My only explanation is that his friends must be as self-absorbed and smug as he is.

But with regards to your OP, I think that 'pretty privilege' is at play here.

@cleocleo81

There's a school mum like this. Everyone loves her, new parents say how nice she is at the pta meetings etc. She's popular, smiley and fun.successful in her career.

I don't like her that much, I think she's cliquey and only tells to those she wants to who she deems as popular enough. In the early days I made an effort and she made it clear she wasn't bothered, then on a night out everyone was laughing uncontrollably at a joke of hers which o didn't find funny. No- I am not jealous though, I have my own lovely group of friends. I don't loose anymore sleep over it though.

Is her name Amanda? 😂

@ISpyCobraKai

Actually MN has/had a prime example...

Is this 'BatShitCrazy' or 'DontGiveAFuck' or something like that? There was a thread once about 'prominent' posters and a similar type of user name kept popping up

@Hollyhocksarenotmessy

I know a man who is a very charismatic, hearty, hail fellow well met type. Everyone adores him.

He once accidentally broke something small of mine, no problem, I wasn't bothered, and he went into a furious rant at me because I wouldn't apologise to him. Wtf. Since then he's been just a bit snidey to me. Twat..

@Hollyhocksarenotmessy

Wait, what? Why did YOU have to apologise to HIM, if HE broke something of yours?

“something doesn't add up,smiley happy mum yet needy nasty children”

Maybe the child’s dad is nasty and bitchy? Why does everything have to be mothers’ fault?