How many days of the week do you or your DC have "commitments"?

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I'm not talking about school or work but other commitments - hobbies/sports clubs.

I'm feeling frazzled at the moment despite my one DC being a teenager and wondering if it's due to too many commitments.

At the moment one or the other of us has a club every day of the week except Monday and Thursday. It feels too much but I'm not sure if I'm being a bit pathetic!

We only have Thursday without anything. Incl the weekend. I’m starting to think it might be too much!!

We only have extra curriculars on two days of the week.

I’ve cut it down here. It was Tuesday, Wednesday and all morning Saturday. I’ve taken a new job on though so I’m axing the Wednesday commitment until summer though. Yes think yours sounds a lot but if they’re a teen it is best to keep them very busy to avoid them getting into mischief

DD has 3 commitments. One is a club at school, so no extra work for me. It's about ok, possibly one too many for her (age 5)
I have one evening commitment after bed time, plus ad hoc things. It feels enough!
No weekend commitments

There is only one night that nothing is booked in, but one of the DC usually needs a lift to something ad hoc. I just accept it is how life is - my DC are teenagers and imo their hobbies are part of the reason they are on the straight and narrow as it were. I have been lucky that they both found sports they like and it makes getting pissed in the park less appealing. Plus we get to chat during the lifts I give them.

DD (13) has clubs at school but they are at lunchtime. I have none-I’m too tired at the moment!

DS has after school clubs twice a week. He’s going to start a weekend club in the New Year (if DH ever gets it organised).
DH has one evening thing a week.
That feels like enough.

Because I work mon-thu and children at Childminder’s until 5.30 for many years they could only do fri eve and sat morning. Dd has just started thu eve as it is late enough for me to take her after work. Yes it means there are things they would love to do that they can’t but also feels like a good balance. They do swimming and two others - ballet/choir/rainbows/beavers

DS has one day a week, DD 5 over 4 days and one or half a weekend day a month. It's a lot tbh, and only just manageable. We'll stop one of the days at Christmas.

DDs each have three... fortunately the same days at the moment, but that could change.

I have none as they are too young to be left alone

5 days here. Nothing on a Thursday or Sunday regularly. I have 3 kids age 10-15 though so on the 5 days it can be 2 or 3 activities each day/evening. We split the running about between DH and I fairly evenly so we all muck in and it's not all down to one parent.

We've essentially said if any of them want to do an activity, if we can facilitate it, we will. (Kind of regret that one the 3 or 4 Sundays a year when dc2 needs to be at a place 2 hours away at 7.30am on a Sunday morning! Then collected again at 4pm) In the grand scheme of things it's only for a few years before they spread their wings and won't need us so much any more.

Mon - both to running club
Tuesday - one to trampolining
Wednesday- one to Judo then a 45 minute drive to get out to swimming lessons
Thursday - tutoring
Friday - nothing

Every day currently (2 teens).
Monday-music lesson #1
Tuesday drama group #1
Wednesday musical theatre #2
Thursday gym #1, drama #2
Friday gym #1, technical club #2
Saturday orchestra, music lessons #1, theatre school #2
Sunday Church (me and dh)

DD who is almost 8 has clubs on 5 days a week, one club each day. It's a lot. 3 yr old DS just does one "club" a week on top of childminder and nursery. I do wonder how we will fit in whatever ds wants to do when he's older.

At least one every day of the week (2 teens). Between them they do football, swimming, hockey and archery, all at 2x or more. It was worse when they were younger and also did Scouts, Guides and drama. I do yoga classes, book club, 2x committee so at least one night a week on those too. Now they are older they get themselves to some of the closer activities themselves which helps. It does get a bit frazzling, they don't go to every session every week, especially at the moment when we are in the middle of college and uni open days / applications and GCSE and A level mocks too. I go to work for a rest.

DS has a club monday, Me and DD both on tuesday, DD has another Wednesday and then Friday night -sunday night our business is open so we are there all weekend.

DC1 has football on Mondays after school.
Tuesdays I have a long-standing commitment to provide after school childcare for a friend who works late.
Saturday mornings DCs 1 & 2 have football.

English class on Monday, swimming and Chinese class on Wednesday, ice hockey on Saturday morning and ski lessons on Sundays (not yet started this season; will commence again next month). They are 3 & 5 so we’re probably making a rod for our own backs here! Ice hockey is the biggest pain as it’s a 30 min drive (1 way). I should say my husband picks up more of the slack than I here, currently. I’d struggle to do it all on my own.

It feels ok at the moment as we’ve got into a routine, but if it becomes too much then we’ll have to re-evaluate.

It doesn’t really matter if other people do more/less - if you feel frazzled then cut down!

We have Fridays and Sundays free at the moment, but busy all of Saturday which feels a bit much at times. A couple of DD1’s clubs are straight after school so she just gets back late, which doesn’t feel as much hassle (although does mean she has to get her homework done later).

It all feels very busy after lockdown!

Every single day. Three kids who do some of the same activities and some individual. I also do two "extra curriculars' myself.
Eldest 15 has an activity Mon, Tues, works after school Wed and Thurs, activity Wed evening, Friday evening and both days at the weekend.
Middle, 13 has activities Tues, Wed, and both days at the weekend.
Youngest, 11 has activities Wed Thurs Fri and one day at the weekend. I'm out two nights a week, one working, one at an activity.

So yeah it's pretty busy.....

At the moment - zero - DD doesn't have the bandwidth.

We only have Monday nights when we are all home. I'm in and out every night taxi-ing! It's all things they have pushed for, and mostly linked to their future careers.

We cut down after covid because we were all a bit frazzled with all the extra curricular clubs.
Now dd (13) has drama Mondays, youth club Wednesday, scouts Friday.
Ds has music Tuesday and scouts Friday. So only Thursday with nothing for me but much less running about and nothing at weekends.

Between the three of them spread through the week:
6 x rugby
4 x music lessons
1 x music school
2 x orchestra

Too much but they're happy.

Monday: free
Tuesdays: family pizza/movie night. Optional drop-in singing group beforehand for me. School play rehearsals for both DC.
Wednesday: Duke of Edinburgh followed by sports club for DD, evening class for me.
Thursday: DH's games night.
Friday: Music lesson for DD, sports club for DS.
Saturday: Orchestra for DD, club for DH
Sunday: Church. I also volunteer at a drop in centre in the afternoons every 2-3 weeks.