How many days of the week do you or your DC have "commitments"?

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I'm not talking about school or work but other commitments - hobbies/sports clubs.

I'm feeling frazzled at the moment despite my one DC being a teenager and wondering if it's due to too many commitments.

At the moment one or the other of us has a club every day of the week except Monday and Thursday. It feels too much but I'm not sure if I'm being a bit pathetic!

[quote Moomarre]@daisypond I totally understand it! I hate having to go out again once I’m home in the evening (and worse having to go out again later on to pick them up again!) I’d much rather just chill at home all evening (says the person who has just agreed to let dc2 and 3 pick up another commitment each 🤦🏻‍♀️)[/quote]
They’re teenagers, though. I wouldn’t take them or drop them off anywhere. My DC always go on their own by public transport if it’s too far to walk. We don’t have a car, so that’s the way it’s always been. I only turn up for any special events - a couple of times a year.

Seven days!
4 DC activities include:
Cubs, Scouts, Swimming lessons, Swim Club, Gymnastics, Jazz, Ballet, Tap, Pony Club, Riding lessons, Football training, ditto matches, Church.

Both DH and I work full time so both kids are at after school club 5 days a week. Eldest has piano lessons at school but also goes to drama class on Mondays and Brownies on Wednesdays. Youngest doesn't do any other clubs. We try to go swimming as a family over the weekends.

6 days a week at the moment - gym, cubs, football, more football training, matches, drama and rugby. But it's too much. Plus I'm a single mum who works ft
Planning to cut down after Xmas.

Sundays free for 6 months of the year. That's it. But Saturdays are done by 1pm so still time to go out after.

DD6 has something every day apart from a Sunday. It’s a lot and I’m hoping we can drop something soon but she has so many hobbies and interests and loves them all equally at the minute.

@daisypond that’s great that you can do that. One of my teenagers does a sport but you’re not allowed to leave them there without an adult so that’s one of us there for the duration twice a week. Then the other one is in a theatre group but has to be signed in and out by an adult each time. It’s a pain!

2 kids, 1 swimming lesson a week for eldest, 1 forest school session for youngest

This is potentially the most middle class thread I’ve read in a long time.

Honestly kids don’t need all these activities, madness.

Only one evening for each.

Used to be a very busy person, then I had a rethink, now I have a lovely time. We do an awful lot of great stuff with our spare time - but it is almost all optional and we have no pressure or stress.

I grew up in a very busy house - looking back it was shite.

We have Sunday and Monday free, the rest are filled with clubs. It’s exhausting.

@OnceuponaRainbow18

This is potentially the most middle class thread I’ve read in a long time.

Honestly kids don’t need all these activities, madness.

I'm working class. I never had the opportunity to do activities as a child. So I want DS to have access to whatever activities he wants to do. He does 5 altogether including swimming lessons. His choice, he wants to do them and he can stop any of them at any time apart from swimming which isn't negotiable until he's a strong swimmer.

Mine are 9 and between them do music lessons, orchestra practice, singing lessons, belong to an athletics club, a science & maths club and swimming lessons. They both asked to do basketball but I had to say no as their schedule are so busy. I enjoy seeing them happy and taking part in these things.

hahaha @Waxonwaxoff0 I'm (partially) MC, my DH is (decidedly) MC, we both feel we did too much as children, we wanted our kids not to have so much on

@rrhuth

hahaha *@Waxonwaxoff0* I'm (partially) MC, my DH is (decidedly) MC, we both feel we did too much as children, we wanted our kids not to have so much on

irony!

Everyday except Sunday - unless he's competing on a Sunday!

Just the one sport!

That's 8 times a week including before school 3 times and weekend early morning! Plus every weekday evening.

Is it too much? Not really for ds because he loves his sport and is national level. I've found a way to manage it but do make sure I have downtime to recover.

Eldest - part of a team so training Tuesday and Saturday and Sunday for match. Tbh the coach is very good with clear start and finish times. The weekend stuff is usually done and dusted in time to change for lunch and go out.
Plus he goes school club on Friday followed by swimming.
Youngest swimming Friday and football same time as brother Saturday morning.

So yes only three days off but the weekend doesn’t feel shortened if anything it’s lengthened because it gets us up and out - we are not a morning household! And as they start slightly later than school I still feel I’ve had longer in bed!

Oh and if we must bring class into it - we are a working class household which should be obvious as it’s football not rugby

Mon, Wed, Thur, Fri, Sun. Between the 5 of us.

Monday (but it's remote, so done on iPad at home), Tuesday and Friday. But then we only have one DC. Would be hard if we had more!

Before the first lockdown the only day we had nothing on was a Friday night, we had this for 5 years. Middle DD had clubs every night and we got home 9.30 most nights except sat/sun where clubs were morning and afternoon. During lockdown DD got ill and wasn't allowed to exercise and never went back to her club. I now only have 2 nights a week with youngest DD's clubs and although I would love Middle DD to still do her sport I absolutely love the lack of commitment we have now!

2 dc, we only have Monday night free from commitments.

They both do a good range of activities and enjoy them all - so it’s hard to know what we could give up. The rush back from work then out again is a pain but is what it is.

We only have Wednesdays free, including the weekend. It’s bloody ridiculous tbh but it’s our own fault. Very difficult to pull back though once the kids are involved in clubs they enjoy.

Don’t think it’s a class thing. Ds (9) does footie, rugby and cricket (winter nets at the mo). He’s clearly very confused class wise 😂. Dd (6) does a ridiculous amount of dancing but she loves it. Lives for her dance days and never complains she’s tired. Maybe that’s posh. Who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m a teacher and grew up in a working class household so I’m definitely not posh.

It might not be a class thing necessarily but all the clubs cost money and therefore you have to have a decent amount of disposable income for your children to attend so many!