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I want to live in a rural village and be a primary school teacher

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MrsCremuel · 21/11/2021 11:52

Or something of that ilk? I have a DH, baby and toddler and want to overhaul our lives. I’ve never really done anything drastic in life, mainly because family (parents etc) circs but I’ve always hankered after a different sort of life.

I hate the southeast. So busy and over priced. I desperately want to live somewhere rural. DH could take redundancy, sell a flat he owns and we could live mortgage free. I’m planning on retraining anyway so could get a job so could do anywhere. We recently had 6 weeks off together with the new baby and it was bliss. After wfh stops DH will be back to being out of the house from 7.30-7.30 4 days a week with one day wfh. I don’t want to go back to that, it’s been so good for our toddler and me to have him around more!

Anyone done something drastic to overhaul their lives? Am I being a whimsical fool?

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Zzzsotired · 22/11/2021 19:29

My friend lives in a rural village and is a primary school teacher - she loves it ! Her partner travels a lot with work, they moved north and have a huge detached house instead of their old flat. My friend walks to the local school and their child also attends. They are a lot happier. The only downside she says is seeing all her class of children all the time outside of work ha ha

mamabear715 · 22/11/2021 19:38

Follow your heart.. :-)

pollymere · 22/11/2021 19:40

You sound like you have a form of depression actually. Suicide can mean wanting to end the life you have rather than ending everything. Primary School on a Scottish Island appealed to me; or those isolation challenges on FB. I realized that I was just desperate to run away from everything. I had the same when mine were born...I wanted to live on a desert island. It sounds like you need to sit down and discuss what you need to do as a couple. You can live well in a rural-type area with strong transport links to places you might want to go. You can live rurally and still have a tube station! A rural area may have better schools and smaller classes. But be prepared for being snowed in and fewer facilities. Redundancy can provide an opportunity to really think about you both really want. Why does moving appeal to you? I also did a Masters degree when mine were tiny which gave me new job opportunities so think about training.

Londoncallingme · 22/11/2021 19:45

Isle of Wight?
Beautiful, cheap property, real sense of community, amazing place to raise kids. - just make sure you escape when kids hit teenage years as the prospects are grim and there is NOTHING to do.

Tigger1895 · 22/11/2021 19:48

@FrancescaContini

You’ll regret being in a rural village once your children are older. There’ll be nothing for them to do.
Or she’ll be a taxi dropping off/picking up.
browneyes77 · 22/11/2021 20:00

@Chipsahoy

Research research research. Honestly there is nothing wrong with your dream at all. We have left the city and moved to middle of nowhere in Aberdeenshire. Well worth it. Completely different life. It’s taken a year to make the move with a stop in rental in between but it was another year before that making the decision. Don’t rush but also don’t be put off by negative comments.
I agree with all of this.

I would give my right arm to be able to move to the countryside in a little place of my own. Renting a flat with 25 years worth of noisy, selfish, ignorant neighbours, just makes me want to run away to peace and quiet!

My job is field based and wfh, so I can move anywhere - I just can’t afford to do it yet!

If you can, as Chips says, do your research so if you make the move you can make the move to somewhere that suits you best. Life is short, do what makes you happy!!

LowlandLucky · 22/11/2021 20:07

MrsCremuel Scotland needs you, desperate for teachers here so come and do your training here. I moved from the Home counties to S.W Scotland and don't miss the traffic, the noise or the prices. I am really rural but can still be in the centre of Glasgow within the hour. Go for it

33goingon64 · 22/11/2021 20:15

Don't lose heart over the replies. As you say, forget the school teacher thing unless you have a clear desire to do it (it's very hard work!). There are so many ways you could both earn a living in a rural area - it IS possible! The village we live in is absolutely lovely - gorgeous countryside, many amenities, easy access to a big city. When DC are older they will be able to get the bus or share taxis to the nearby town or train to the big city for excitement. Our quality of life is almost perfect I would say. I work from home PT and DH works blended WFH and train to big city. Family country walks at weekends. Loads of friends, clubs, places to eat/drink a short walk away. Just do it!

gospelsinger · 22/11/2021 20:49

It's not much money but a job as a TA may be a good start. If you're looking for a simpler life with more family time, this is a good option. You can potentially train as teacher later if you like it.
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HermioneWeasley · 22/11/2021 20:53

@MrsCremuel it’s a heck of a leap from London to living rurally.

I grew up in zone 2 and now live in a northern city. It feels like the countryside compared to my childhood and I’m 20 mins from real countryside, but there’s also things for my teenagers to do.

HarrisMcCoo · 22/11/2021 21:07

Village part sounds fab. Teacher bit sounds stressful, rural setting or otherwise!

Howshouldibehave · 22/11/2021 21:11

My aunt was a primary school teacher in a village and it was a lovely job-she did it till she was a ripe old age. This was pre 1980 though-I don’t actually think the job is recognisable as the same one as today!

EnidSpyton · 22/11/2021 21:29

@Crystalgirl90

7.30 to 7.30 is 12 hours, 5 1/2 of which are outside school hours. Sorry to all the hollow laughing teachers but it strikes me as pretty inefficient if you really are working all those extra unpaid hours.

If you don't work as a teacher, you have no idea what you are talking about. Absolutely no idea.
I get to work at 7.30 every morning, my class start at 8.30. My class go home at 3.30, I leave work at 6 after tidying the classroom, marking books, answering emails and meetings with adults in school about children's provision,
I go home at 6pm. I cook and eat tea and I am now sat doing school data on the laptop. This is most days.
As I say, if you don't work as a teacher - you have no idea.

The way I always try and explain this to people who are so stupid as to think that teachers swan in at 9am and swan out at 3pm and have all those lovely long holidays is that every hour in the classroom generates a minimum of one hour's work. While I am in the classroom with the children, I can't do anything other than teach them. So that is 'trapped time'. Rather like being in a meeting.

Imagine if you were in meetings that went back to back 9-4 every day (average secondary school hours). And each one of those meetings generated a minimum of an hour's worth of work.

So when are you going to do the work generated during those meetings?

Obviously after the children leave for the day.

Hence the hours we work.

I used to get two free periods a WEEK. I taught seven classes of 33 students. Most weeks I had 100+ essays to mark, as well as 23 lessons to plan and prepare for, a form to look after with all the associated admin, several meetings to attend as well as wider departmental activities - running a lunchtime club, organising trips, dealing with parent emails, discussing individual students and coming up with action plans with other teachers, etc etc etc.

Teaching is easily a 60 hour a week job. There literally aren't enough hours in the day for us to do our work because most of our days are spent with the children we teach.

I really struggle to understand how people don't understand this.

Being in the classroom with the children is marvellous. But eventually the workload becomes unmanageable - especially the marking. I taught English, so the marking was insane.

I loved many aspects of teaching and I don't regret having trained as a teacher. It certainly has made me a better person. But is it a family-friendly, work-life balance giving job? No. And I do think it is only right that we are honest about this to those thinking of entering the profession. Unless you work in a lovely little private school with small class sizes and teach a low marking subject like Art, you will find that you spend your evenings and weekends working. It is how it is. And it won't change until the government wakes up and realises that schools need more money for more teachers and much reduced class sizes.

Crystalgirl90 · 22/11/2021 21:56

*The way I always try and explain this to people who are so stupid as to think that teachers swan in at 9am and swan out at 3pm and have all those lovely long holidays is that every hour in the classroom generates a minimum of one hour's work. While I am in the classroom with the children, I can't do anything other than teach them. So that is 'trapped time'. Rather like being in a meeting.

Imagine if you were in meetings that went back to back 9-4 every day (average secondary school hours). And each one of those meetings generated a minimum of an hour's worth of work.

So when are you going to do the work generated during those meetings?

Obviously after the children leave for the day.

Hence the hours we work.

I used to get two free periods a WEEK. I taught seven classes of 33 students. Most weeks I had 100+ essays to mark, as well as 23 lessons to plan and prepare for, a form to look after with all the associated admin, several meetings to attend as well as wider departmental activities - running a lunchtime club, organising trips, dealing with parent emails, discussing individual students and coming up with action plans with other teachers, etc etc etc.

Teaching is easily a 60 hour a week job. There literally aren't enough hours in the day for us to do our work because most of our days are spent with the children we teach.

I really struggle to understand how people don't understand this.

Being in the classroom with the children is marvellous. But eventually the workload becomes unmanageable - especially the marking. I taught English, so the marking was insane.

I loved many aspects of teaching and I don't regret having trained as a teacher. It certainly has made me a better person. But is it a family-friendly, work-life balance giving job? No. And I do think it is only right that we are honest about this to those thinking of entering the profession. Unless you work in a lovely little private school with small class sizes and teach a low marking subject like Art, you will find that you spend your evenings and weekends working. It is how it is. And it won't change until the government wakes up and realises that schools need more money for more teachers and much reduced class sizes.*

This! 100x over! 👏🏻

Crystalgirl90 · 22/11/2021 21:58

*The way I always try and explain this to people who are so stupid as to think that teachers swan in at 9am and swan out at 3pm and have all those lovely long holidays is that every hour in the classroom generates a minimum of one hour's work. While I am in the classroom with the children, I can't do anything other than teach them. So that is 'trapped time'. Rather like being in a meeting.

Imagine if you were in meetings that went back to back 9-4 every day (average secondary school hours). And each one of those meetings generated a minimum of an hour's worth of work.

So when are you going to do the work generated during those meetings?

Obviously after the children leave for the day.

Hence the hours we work.

I used to get two free periods a WEEK. I taught seven classes of 33 students. Most weeks I had 100+ essays to mark, as well as 23 lessons to plan and prepare for, a form to look after with all the associated admin, several meetings to attend as well as wider departmental activities - running a lunchtime club, organising trips, dealing with parent emails, discussing individual students and coming up with action plans with other teachers, etc etc etc.

Teaching is easily a 60 hour a week job. There literally aren't enough hours in the day for us to do our work because most of our days are spent with the children we teach.

I really struggle to understand how people don't understand this.

Being in the classroom with the children is marvellous. But eventually the workload becomes unmanageable - especially the marking. I taught English, so the marking was insane.

I loved many aspects of teaching and I don't regret having trained as a teacher. It certainly has made me a better person. But is it a family-friendly, work-life balance giving job? No. And I do think it is only right that we are honest about this to those thinking of entering the profession. Unless you work in a lovely little private school with small class sizes and teach a low marking subject like Art, you will find that you spend your evenings and weekends working. It is how it is. And it won't change until the government wakes up and realises that schools need more money for more teachers and much reduced class sizes.*

This!! 100x over! 👏🏻

Sheerdetermination · 22/11/2021 22:17

Follow your heart, OP. Teaching is only hard in the first year or when you switch year groups. After that you fall back on the previous year’s lesson planning. Primary teaching is a delight - the children make it. Do some work experience in a local school to get a taste for it.
Good luck with your new life adventure!

Sheerdetermination · 22/11/2021 22:18

Oh and you can take your marking home.

Kanaloa · 22/11/2021 22:29

@LowlandLucky

MrsCremuel Scotland needs you, desperate for teachers here so come and do your training here. I moved from the Home counties to S.W Scotland and don't miss the traffic, the noise or the prices. I am really rural but can still be in the centre of Glasgow within the hour. Go for it
Where are you that’s really rural and an hour away from central Glasgow? I grew up in Glasgow and can’t think of anywhere I’d consider really rural that’s an hours drive away?
Topsyturveymam · 22/11/2021 23:53

I moved from a busy city to a semi rural village about 10 years ago. It was a great decision and I haven’t regretted it for a moment. I work in the local town centre and feel relieved when I start to go home and the busy roads turn into fields.

Foxylass · 23/11/2021 00:12

What a fab idea, and how lucky to be in a position to try it!

I'd suggest have a long holiday (min' 1 month) in the kind of setting that you think you'd like to live in and see how it goes.
This way you will get a feel for 'living' somewhere.

We did a massive change of location/direction 24 years ago and are still loving it!

Fleshmechanic · 23/11/2021 00:29

Plan it and then do it. It's as simple as that. If you don't like it then change the plan. It's your life to live.

StolenAwayOn55thand3rd · 23/11/2021 05:22

@Kanaloa We’re on the other coast but the Trossachs are within an hour of Glasgow?! Our friends are outside Drymen which is about 45 minutes and their house certainly feels rural. Unless you want rural like two hours from a supermarket as described upthread…

Kanaloa · 23/11/2021 05:28

[quote StolenAwayOn55thand3rd]@Kanaloa We’re on the other coast but the Trossachs are within an hour of Glasgow?! Our friends are outside Drymen which is about 45 minutes and their house certainly feels rural. Unless you want rural like two hours from a supermarket as described upthread…[/quote]
I think that’s the thing on this thread, there’s a bit of confusion/difference of opinion. I wouldn’t have called Drymen ‘really rural.’ It is a village, but not very rural.

When I think very rural I think quite remote, far from town etc. That’s what I thought op was considering by her first posts.

Oftenithinkaboutit · 23/11/2021 06:03

@Fleshmechanic

Plan it and then do it. It's as simple as that. If you don't like it then change the plan. It's your life to live.
Not quite as simple as that. Practically every big life decision I make - my first and overwhelming priority is my children. In fact scrap the word “practically”

EVERY life decision

Darlingx · 23/11/2021 06:37

MrsCremuel

You should go for it. If life has taught me anything you need to make the changes to head in the direction they can start anywhere and you can recalculate as you go along because guess what life sends you curve balls anyway. So me pre pandemic wanting desperately to move away from the over inflated SouthEast but jobs wise we couldn’t make it happen. Pandemic we both lost our so called secure jobs in the SouthEast. The thing is you need to built those networks community as u call it because that’s how you find a way of making it work. So if the chance of partner having redundancy gives you that stepping stone take it. Worst case u go back to the SouthEast to the jobs market there. We moved to Switzerland in the Pandemic as it was the only place my partner could find work we had to move back when the contract ended and I am back in overcrowded land of grey concrete only to hear people who pooped on my plans to move to the country are wanting to move there. They were the ones saying you will get bored etc. Even if it’s not your dream situation to start with you can evolve it in the right direction you want to be heading in.
Whenever I have achieved my goals I had to put them as priority to make them happen you base your choices on making it happen thats how u make it happen . You bias it into becoming your priority to steer everything in that direction to get there.
Good luck in achieving the life you wish for xx How exciting !