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DP and his deep set phobia of running out of bread. Just a thread to rant really

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CarrotSticks19 · 15/11/2021 13:32

DP has bought more squash. We have squash, its in the cupboard. We actually have loads of fucking squash because he keeps buying it. As soon as it goes in the cupboard he forgets it exists and buys more. How does he not know the squash is in the cupboard? I thought Id sorted this problem by letting him chose the squash cupboard, but no hes still buying squash.

He does this with toothpaste, constantly buying toothpaste. The bathroom cupboard is full of toothpastes he has bought, because he refuses to remember we have toothpaste unless he can physically see it.

Why? Why cant he remember thwse things are in the cupboard? Is it laziness? Its causing him more bother to constantly go to the shops to buy toothpaste.

The absolute worst though is the bread. every single time he goes shopping he buys more bread. He thought we needed bread because he hasnt bought any in a while. He actually bought some yesterday and theres already 4 loaves in the freezer and 4 in the bread bin. The worst bit about it is he doesnt even eat bread! Why does he have this deep down phobia of running out of a food he doesnt even eat?! Does it fucking matter if we run out of bread!

Anyone else have these small things that really annoy you? Ive tried dealing with the problem. The only solution is to keep the spare toothpaste/squash/bread on display so he remembers it exists, but fuck me Id really like it if he could learn how cupboards work so my table decoration doesnt have to be a tube of toothpaste!

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TawdryBrush · 17/11/2021 21:40

This is weird because my DH is like this, and both my children have inherited it too.

If something is in a cupboard they completely forget it exists, and this includes all sorts of belongings not just food and toiletries.

It's literally like if they can't see it, then it doesn't exist.

See also looking skills, for example they open the fridge door looking for cheese and if it isn't immediately visible they claim we don't have any. It doesn't occur to them to look at the back of the fridge or move things out the way to look.

It drives me mad.

lottiegarbanzo · 17/11/2021 22:27

I've been thinking about this thread because I realised that I know someone who I think is like this about object permanence.

They certainly do the so called (sorry) 'boy's look' if looking for something in the fridge for example (gaze in a static manner, do not move head up, down or side to side, do not move objects in fridge to see what is behind).

What this person also does is keep very, very few things in their house. Few, tidy, objects.

It has only as a result of this thread occurred to me, that their inability to look for things and their obsession with throwing stuff away, so to keeping a simple, tidy house, are part of the same thing. (Obvious isn't it?!) They need to be able to see every thing they have. Well duh.

lottiegarbanzo · 17/11/2021 22:29

So in this case, is obsessively tidy (and constantly, obessively throwing stuff away, including important stuff and other people's stuff), because everything important must be visible.

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