She hates my glasses

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My wife hates my glasses. I need them more as I’m getting older and I actually think they are ok. I’ve asked others who also think they’re ok. But my wife tells me they’re awful every time I put them on. Everyday sometimes several times a day. It annoys me and sometimes it leads to an argument. She thinks it’s fine to constantly tell me and that I should go and get some different ones. She also says others are just saying they’re ok and they aren’t being honest? Is it me? Because it’s really annoying me

They look totally fine. My DH used to insist on buying really cheap reading glasses that magnified his eyes and made him look like Benny hill. Then he'd wear them all day. I honestly couldn't look at him when he was wearing them, they were so distracting. I told him they didn't suit him, but when they broke he got another pair the same. And another. I still talked to him though. Thankfully he did finally realise that other glasses were available. If he'd got a pair like yours, I'd have done a little happy dance

The glasses look fine.

Refusing to speak to someone because you don't like their glasses makes her sound like a sulking toddler, to be frank. It's not exactly adult behaviour is it?

Well thanks to you all. I thought as much but good to get the opinions of people who can be completely honest. Not sure of the reaction I’ll get when I break it to her, ha! 😂🤓😃👍

I've never asked DH's opinion when buying new glasses for myself and nor has he ever asked for mine when he needs some. It wouldn't occur to either of us to do that.

I've occasionally had my now adult DDs with me at the opticians, and might ask their opinion before making a final decision, but that is only because once I have taken my existing glasses off to try on other frames I simply cannot see myself properly in the mirror. I'm still capable of making a reasonable decision by myself if I need to though.

OP, the main opinion that matters is yours. You have to wear them and be comfortable in them. I'd be telling her to wind her neck in.

They are ok.

This isn't about the glasses though OP, it's about how she's speaking to you. It sounds really horrible.

I've looked at your pictures and I think your glasses are absolutely fine. They suit you and frame your face well.

I wear similar glasses. I like this type of frame because I need bifocals and they do ideally require lenses of a certain size.

Tell her to back off.

I’m so disappointed! They are a totally normal pair of glasses that suit you fine. I was expecting mr magoo or dame Edna

I think you look really nice in them. She is being mean

Personally, I think you could get away with lighter coloured frames,as you have quite light colour hair
My very trendy,blond DGD wears this style and my DD trendy 30 year old exP

You look good to me.

I wonder what your wife's reaction to this thread will be. 🤣🤣

Those are incredibly non-offensive! They look very nice and you suit them.

I wore contacts for the whole of mine and DH’s relationship, only putting my glasses on at night. Then covid struck, I’ve been WFH since March 2020 and I didn’t bother spending money on lenses. I’ve rediscovered a love of glasses and have bought several different styles over the last 18 months. I know DH prefers me without my specs on but he’s never rude about it - your wife is really out of line being so mean about how your glasses look.

Nothing wrong with them you look handsome

We all wear glasses in our family - me DH, and 2 teens. I don't think I have ever been with DH to choose his. He has never been with me. I have been with the DCs - only to monitor the price, never the style. Glasses are a very personal thing, especially if you wear them all the time. I am amazed that others seek approval from partners before buying!

OP your glasses are absolutely fine

For a start, your glasses are fine.

Even if they weren't she's being incredibly rude. DH came back from the opticians once with a frumpy wire pair that were not particularly flattering and looked 10 years out of date. There wasn't much point in saying anything at that point and certainly no point in regularly going on about it. Frustratingly his nicest pair are the reading glasses that I never see him in.

Has she explained what she thinks is wrong with them? I can't see any problem with them at all.

They look fine! Maybe not the most perfect flattering shape/colour for you but definitely nothing wrong with them at all!

Refusing to speak to you while you’re wearing them? That’s more concerning.

Tell her you’ll only speak to her if she’s wearing (trousers/heels/trainers/pick a random choice) that you approve of and see how that goes down...

They look fine.

Id be taking every opportunity to criticise what she wears, hair, make up the lot. Im extremely petty tho and not very nice.... Seriously stop taking this shit that's got you so paranoid your posting on a mums group asking for reassurance ! It isn't ok for her to treat you like that.

Actually, ignore that... you NEED your glasses, she’s being ridiculous even if you had Dame Edna frames!

I just took my glasses off and realised how blind I am without them, dodgy cheap frames that make me look like a suspect for America’s Most Wanted and all

Aargh, sorry @MobyDicksTinyCanoe I meant ignore my pp, sadly I’m very slow at typing

Just wear what you want, you are still an individual even if you are married.

The glasses are completely fine, perhaps a brown frame would suit you even more, but honestly, you look fab.

Right, so you're not Tommy Mallet then?

Might have a bit idea of what she was talking about in regard not liking them, if you were and she was very consevative. Then even if that were the situation, her behaviour is unexpectable.

Looks fine to me.