School saying not appropriate lagunage for a child

[Buzlightyear1]

So I came to pick up my son today hes 4 and half. The teacher asked to speak to me she said my son had been taking part in the siging they were doi g nursery rhymes. Then he told the teacher that he does this at lovey lovey time. Meaning bedtime. The teacher was concerned as she said the language s not appropriate for his age and wanted to check everything was OK at home. It is its just myself and my child. Now I'm concerned she may think there is a problem at home I have no problem with them talking to my son. She also mentioned him using the toilet more today which I said of course I will keep a eye on him and if needs I will take to the dr and could they please let me know what he is like tomorrow. Do you think they will do anything else ? I felt very strange with the situation. It was a weird situation where she did it in front of other parents and teachers to as u don't go near or in classes due to covid

I actually think it’s a really weird name for bed time and doesnt sound appropriate to call it that! My mum use to call it beddy byes, I mean lovey lovey sounds like something entirely different
What if it's named by the 4 year old because that's when he has a lovely time with his mum when they sing nursery rhymes and have a cuddle before bed? It sounds really sweet and school are not there to spoil innocent family fun.

@Benjispruce5

No I didn’t , I was referring to a poster that wanted to put it back on the school for even raising it . Back off!

Back off?

It's a discussion forum. If you don't want to converse then don't, but you don't get to tell other adults what to post and not post.

You said " I totally agree as I said upthread but there’s no need to turn the content back on the school. It’s about the child’s safety not one-up-man-ship!" in response to my post saying that safeguarding conversation shouldn't happen in front of other parents.

You also said "Or you can get offended and ignore or attack the school." not in response to anyone complaining about the school flagging up issues.

I really hope you don't work in a school

If a teacher thinks a child is being abused at home why would they confront the parent? All that does is put them on notice. She could have cheerfully asked the child, as in, ooh Ethan, lovey lovey time sounds fun, what do you do at lovey lovey time?
Asking the parent in public is unprofessional and likely to do more harm than good.

@FreeBritnee

What's sad? Safeguarding children? I think "lovey lovey time" to mean bedtime would definitely ring alarm bells...it's quite odd terminology. Obviously I agree, it's not a conversation to be had in front of other parents.

You don’t think it’s sad that when a child says something that sounds exactly like a young child ‘baby talking’ it’s immediately construed as an abbreviation for sexual abuse. I’m sure you’re right about safe guarding but it’s bloody sad.

When DS 14 was 2 we were in a pub garden, he was in the buggy, randomly opened his legs and said "I want to play!" Some woman started saying he'd been abused. Luckily, our friend was a trainee SW and told her in no uncertain terms that she was talking bollocks and to wind her neck in. It is sad that an innocent comment by a young child can be turned into something dirty by some adults.

I thought he’d been swearing !
I would not complain
And chances of anyone hearing with all the distraction is low
And what would anyone gossip about ? A kid saying lovely and gong to the loo ??
Anyone repeating that would be met with ??? And marked a bitchy weirdo

A decent Head Teacher will appreciate a heads up at how badly handled it was.

the teacher doesnt sound experienced. she dealt with it very wrongly.
is she a new teacher?

DD went to 2 preschools and one of them reported me to social services because she was 'covered in bruises'. She wasn't. She had a few normal bruises that any 3 year old would have. I mentioned it to the other preschool and they were as horrified as I was. I took her out of the preschool that reported me.