Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 19: Calmly through the day

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Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 18: Calmly through the day

Oh yes, you are celebrating Thanksgiving (25th is it?) - here there still are 3 different days of mourning and penance (Trauertag, Bußtag, Totensonntag) and then with the 1st Advdent the proper preparation for Christmas starts.
Apart from baking, tradition demands a deepclean, a sorting through things and a straightening out of paperwork, so I will be busy.

Prok, you will be very busy! If it's just immediate family here I'll tidy up but nothing out of the ordinary. Thanksgiving is on the 25th this year. It's the last Thursday in November.

The brownies are out of the oven and the whole house smells of chocolate.

Back now from hospital, thanks so much for all good wishes, means a lot, not told anyone in real life apart from DH and DD now knows. Unfortunately it is cancer and I get a treatment plan in 7 days when they also get biopsy results so can tell type and stage it. They mentioned surgery, chemo, radio but wont know until Friday. Did mammogram, physical, ultrasound, 4 biopsies, meeting with doctors. Dh did go home but came back for when over and they let me wait inside. Said dont think in lymph modes but cannot be sure and there are skin changes. Bit shell shocked but at least they are on to it, even mentioned dont assume will operate on Friday so not sure if they may operate. My head was a bit in shock by then though at least female doctor warned me, just a shame got male doctor in June. I should have gone back to though they said they often see women who have been told its nothing and they dont go back until its much later.

Silkie That is truely shit! But they are doing something about it!

I am still here 20 years after and so is a mate who postponed her treatment until her pregnancy was past 25 weeks - and treatment has improved a lot.

(all my doctors were male by the way)

Silkie I'm so sorry it's not good news. I can imagine you'll be in shock.
Praying it's as good news as it can be next week

Silkie, I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. They won't decide what to do next until your results come back from the pathology lab and a radiologist reviews your scans. A lot of new and better treatments have come out in the last ten years, so they will have options. It sounds like your hospital has a good oncology team.

It's okay to be in shock about it. It's a lot to process.

That must be such a massive shock, Silkie, I'm so sorry. To be positive, though, I have several colleagues who've had completely successful treatment and are fine.

It will take a while to get your head round. There's a very good support thread on here, certainly worth checking out.

Oh @Silkieschickens, I’m so sorry and if I’m honest, in a little bit of shock on your behalf. I will keep everything crossed for next week’s appointment now and wish you well until then xx

I am so very sorry @Silkieschickens it is ok to be in shock. Take a second to breath. Don’t think of the should haves think of the moment and getting through the next few days.

If you need anything please just ask.

Thanks very much everyone. The hospital there is linked a lot to Cambridge University so some of the brightest doctors in the country, they said the world. My only concerns were would there be delays but they said not and that delays are affecting other departments but not them and whether the NHS funds the best treatment but I need to know type and staging first but they said they have world leading treatments there. So hopefully fine. They said could be any stage from 1 to 4, they dont know at the moment but will know more on Friday. They said definitely surgery and cancer but that is all that is sure at this stage. It is a fairly big lump to me at least, about 1.5 inches square but they did not give me measurements just said the lump looks huge on our screen but its enlarged. Nothing can do but wait and take treatment offered, will try and stay distracted until then. Just had a chinese.

Dh just said he was coming to bed so he could be with me and Silkiecat heard and started howling that she needed DH more so guess who he is with but its fine. DD has also been ranting to me about her English teacher and then about the car.

Poor DD had 2 mocks, 1 English speaking assessment and found out about my cancer today. And the government have announced schools should do 3 sets of mocks incase they cancel exams last minute. I have not told DD that. At least she has 1 lot pretty much done now which is main thing.

Oh @Silkieschickens I’m so sorry it was such shocking news. Be super kind to yourself over the next couple of days, it’s your news to share as and when you feel ready to. With prayers and love for the coming days and weeks.

Oh hey, Silkieschickens, that is a shock! Sending love to you. And if there’s anything I can do to help, let me know. I may not know you well but I’m here for you.

Bloody hell @Silkieschickens that's just a bit shit. More than a bit. Lucky that you're going to be treated at a facility alongside Cambridge University, they really are at the cutting edge. The complex around Addenbrookes is most impressive. I wish you all the best.

On Monday I need to phone my GP to book a blood sample so it can be sent away to see whether there is a connection between DD2's diagnosis of Nail Patella Syndrome and me. I'm pretty sure there is, so if I can help other members of our family then I'm fine with that. I just want her to be well. That's it.

Sorry to hear that @Silkieschickens, it must be a tough thing to hear the diagnosis even if part of you was expecting the news. Take care of yourself, it sounds like you're in very good hands.

Hey Silkie
Phone has been off so just caught up on your news.
You must be in shock.
Is your Mum or any other close female friends nearby? X

Kitchen and baking utensils freshly scrubbed for the first round of baking this afternoon.

Thanks very much everyone. Its only DH, DD and schools so kids can be supported who know in RL, NC with Mum as she has been violent and she would be horrible as she would see this as a failing. We are awaiting more information before deciding what to do but I much prefer it as private as possible so I can enjoy being at home with my family and pets.

We had those storms yesterday too MissC - yikes! The freeway was an interesting experience.

I've just been starting to think about Thanksgiving. DD2 is hoping to head home from college in Mass on the Tuesday I think? She did mention something about her morning math class having been cancelled but she still has an afternoon class so she'll come home after that. Bit worried about what the roads will be like but I'm not sure she has much option.

She says she's going to drive back on Saturday rather than Sunday, to avoid the traffic.

We have some UK family who will be here too, so it'll be fun to introduce them to Thanksgiving.

I usually get a big turkey breast from Wholefoods, batter it till it's flat, make a sausage stuffing, spread that onto it, roll it up, then roast it. But I'm not sure that will be enough food this year, and we do have a huge piece of beef leftover from a big meal a while ago, so we might well have that instead.

DD1 is not coming home, she's going to see her boyfriend instead. It'll be my first Thanksgiving without her. Very sad, but she is coming home at Christmas, and hopefully he'll come too.

DS will be here, and it'll be nice to spend some time with him as he's been so busy with school and work.

I'm so ready for a few days off.

Have your two made their plans to get home for the holiday MissC?

@Silkieschickens

Back now from hospital, thanks so much for all good wishes, means a lot, not told anyone in real life apart from DH and DD now knows. Unfortunately it is cancer and I get a treatment plan in 7 days when they also get biopsy results so can tell type and stage it. They mentioned surgery, chemo, radio but wont know until Friday. Did mammogram, physical, ultrasound, 4 biopsies, meeting with doctors. Dh did go home but came back for when over and they let me wait inside. Said dont think in lymph modes but cannot be sure and there are skin changes. Bit shell shocked but at least they are on to it, even mentioned dont assume will operate on Friday so not sure if they may operate. My head was a bit in shock by then though at least female doctor warned me, just a shame got male doctor in June. I should have gone back to though they said they often see women who have been told its nothing and they dont go back until its much later.

Oh gosh, what a shock. Lots of gentle hugs.

Happy baking Prok.

Good luck with the blood test DoctorTwo

Just having a ploughmans for lunch. Need to distract myself until Friday.

Hope you have done ok today @Silkieschickens.

Have you things you can do to distract you? I’m sure it will feel like a long week. If we can do anything let us know.

DS has conjunctivitis I think from swimming. He is feeling sorry for himself. Also have child I am a PA for over fir a sleepover which is fun but hard work,

I hope you are doing okay today Silkie. Stay in and relax as best you can.

ZZ, is it a boneless turkey breast you get from WH? I guess it must be if you pound it flat. The Butterball turkey breast I got is on the ribs, so I roast it just like a whole turkey. That's good because I get enough drippings to make gravy, and it wouldn't be Thanksgiving dinner without gravy. That's great that you'll have some UK family visiting. I find that on MN there's a lot of curiosity about the holiday and the traditions around it.

DS is driving himself home next Saturday. I'm driving up to MA to pick up DD, probably on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. It's only 2.5 hours from here if I leave at the right time. Traffic heading towards you Tuesday evening will likely be heavy. Definitely go around Boston, as I'm sure you know. My problem will be getting through Hartford.

Thanks ZZ and lemons That's nice to be planning a nice Thanksgiving ZZ.

Sorry your DS has conjunctivitis lemons

I'm OK thanks Lemons Bit strange at the moment half the time I think its not real and do things like Duolingo, watch trash TV programmes etc, do bit on work projects. Then sometimes you get a panicky feeling but at least the next appointment is quick and they are good doctors there.

DD brought me the rabbit and we fed him carrots and apple, you have never seen a creature eat apple so fast, he was the world's happiest rabbit. DD was asking me questions.