Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

What makes you sad every time you think about it ?

248 replies

Imaybeacat · 29/10/2021 20:33

There’s been a lot of sharing story threads so i’d like to start one - to start such a sad one Blush
What story or fact about somebody/something etc makes you sad whenever it crosses your mind ?
For me it’s a late singer named Tiny Tim… I watched a video about him a few days ago and it’s been bloody depressing me . Whenever he pops into my head I have to go take a break and do something distracting!! Poor guy. Sad
Need to feel better. Am I alone in this ?

OP posts:
languagelover96 · 30/10/2021 14:55

Holly and Jessica
Grenfell Towers

TheVolturi · 30/10/2021 14:58

I had never heard about some of these recent cases (Arthur and Star) and after googling I wish I hadn't. I agree that if reading things like this affects you, then you really should avoid them. When my youngest children were born I had pnd, and I used to read the Daily Mail as a news app (yeah I know 🙄) and there seemed to be so many cases of child abuse. I affected me so badly reading them so regularly that I deleted the app and now I honestly avoid the news, apart from current affairs. I have been way better mentally for it.

BeyondShrinks · 30/10/2021 15:47

The woman who was shipwrecked recently, and managed to keep her two kids alive by breastfeeding them, while she died.

honeylulu · 30/10/2021 17:10

When my first child was a baby and I was struggling hugely with being an exhausted new mum I read an article in a magazine about a couple whose baby had been killed in a car accident. The baby was a girl (mine was a boy) but she looked just like my baby and I was so upset by it. I kept the magazine in a drawer and I kept going back to it and crying over it obsessively. My son is 16 now and I still have the magazine (it has moved house with us) though I've not looked at it for many years. Even thinking about it makes me feel devastatingly sad.

Also a friend from work whose son took his own life jumping in front of a train aged 14. She and her husband are the most brilliant parents you could imagine. I was heartbroken for them but more selfishly I was also terrified. If parents like that can still have that happen what hope is there for those if us doing not such a great job.

Fritilleries · 30/10/2021 17:32

I watched Unreported World: Georgia's baby factories. Absolutely ripped me in two to see a man pushing down on a labouring woman's belly to force out a baby which was then left on its own to scream and scream. In full earshot of its mother who looked so haunted. I feel sad every time I think of the world my toddler has entered and the absolute chaos that will unfold as climate change wreaks its ruin upon us all. Genuinely, everything is too much. Slaughterhouses, wet markets, trafficked pregnant dogs, children being murdered, the women in Afghanistan. Animals being shot for sport. The fact that Greenland has lost its last glacier.

lollipoprainbow · 30/10/2021 18:32

@DueyCheatemAndHow I said 'slightly obsessive' where did you get weirdly obsessive from ????

ALongHardWinter · 30/10/2021 18:56

I always feel sad when I think about a gorgeous rescue cat that my late DM took in. They called her Twiglet because she was asleep in a Twiglet box when my DM and brother went to pick her up. She developed a cancerous lump in her neck and had to be put to sleep at the age of 9 months. Even my brother cried about it. This was 29 years ago and I still well up thinking about it.

HarryBlackberry1 · 30/10/2021 19:06

I'm nearly 50, but when I was about 14 I saw a hidden camera documentary. It was set in China and showed terrified dogs waiting to be skinned alive. It has stayed with me forever. Makes me unbelievably sad that people could make animals suffer deliberately. Those poor dogs knew what was happening.

LiJo2015 · 30/10/2021 20:22

My biological family.

Hearwego · 30/10/2021 23:00

What troubles me is the fact that a some of these people that murdered the people mentioned on here are free, carrying on with their lives.
We could pass them on the street with our children and have no idea.

Hearwego · 30/10/2021 23:03

I remember the Rebecca murder in Wales about ten years ago.
To think that young man who brutally killed her will probably be out in a couple of years time and he’ll still be a young man.
Another man who’s a danger to women out on the streets, but hey ho has anyone cared about that in the justice system?...

HailAdrian · 30/10/2021 23:29

My mum died on Sunday of cancer. I feel like I've been punched in the stomach every time I think about her. It's awful.

ParkheadParadise · 30/10/2021 23:56

So sorry for your loss @HailAdrian
Take care of yourself.

jamandmarmalade · 31/10/2021 01:07

@HailAdrian

Flowers Brew i am very very sorry for your loss xx

TinctureThis · 31/10/2021 01:53

When I see views of the earth from space and think about how beautiful our planet is with it's oceans and rivers, it's forests and waterfalls, snow capped mountains and lakes. It's quite possibly the only planet of it's kind in the whole of the universe and we are so privileged to get a chance to experience it.

It looks so majestic and peaceful and yet it's littered with rubbish and filled with hateful people waging war, polluting and destroying it and doing horrific things to one another. There's people with more money than they could ever spend in several lifetimes and others dying of hunger.

HollyGoLoudly1 · 31/10/2021 08:29

@Imaybeacat

I also read about a little girl once who was stuck in some sort of volcanic mud pool and couldn’t get out , even with help from rescue teams. So they just left her there until she died, comforting her all the way Sad There’s photos and she was turning blue from hypothermia , even her eyes were black. Every now and again i’ll think of that little girl. I remember as it was the first time i’d had a proper cry since my uncle passed Sad
I looked this up and it's stayed with me since. Absolutely haunting and heartbreaking.

I do not recommend googling it Sad

Asking4Advice · 31/10/2021 08:36

Aberfan and Dunblane.
Also, an awful, awful graphic post on here a while ago about a cat that was run over. It was absolutely horrific and I hid the post immediately so I’m not sure whether it ever got taken down. I comfort myself with the conviction that it was so graphic that it must have been someone posting it for kicks, but it probably was real Sad

ElvisPresleyHadABaby · 31/10/2021 12:31

Yes, the school shootings. We're relatively lucky that in the UK Dunblane is our hardest memory, my heart breaks for parents in the US who's children are so at risk, and nothing is being done. Those kids, the survivors, will never ever be the same again, their friends and classmates murdered in the place they are meant to be happy, safe and learning. And the knowledge it could happen again. I don't know how the parents who have lost children to such senseless tragedy continue to advocate. I'm a coward.

Galaxyinmypocket · 31/10/2021 19:30

Two more that spring to mind, having read the updates are the Alesha macphail murder and Daniel Perry's suicide. Heartbreaking

IHateCoronavirus · 31/10/2021 20:07

We used to live overseas with DH’s work. I used to walk down the same old road of jaunty houses each week to go to the market , hand in hand with my beautiful toddler DS.

One day an old man hurried out of his home calling after us, hunched over and stiff in his joints. He had in his hands a very old picture of a toddler boy, smiling at whoever was taking the picture. He looked identical to my own son. The old man smiled and pointed between the photo, himself and DS. The likeness was remarkable.

I got home and cried like a baby, touched by the happiness of the old man, saddened by the way old age had ravaged his body. It was a bit like jumping into the future and seeing my tiny boy as an old man.

My DF is now old and dying and I have that familiar sense of sadness for the little boy he once was. Sad

BlameItOnTheBlackStar · 31/10/2021 22:01

Oh wow, that's very moving

MyLifeNow20 · 31/10/2021 22:25

Madeline McCann, think about her everyday.
sarah Everald, poor thing, very scary and my eldest has moved into uni so I have tried to make her aware, not that she will get arrested but its quite shocking. '
Now, Cleo Smith, cant stop checking in with the news

TheBestForLast · 31/10/2021 22:29

Hollie Wells and Jessica Chapmans parents 😞

WillyWollyWandy · 31/10/2021 22:37

The murder of a little girl called Toni-Ann Byfield. Her dad was shot by a rival drug dealer and said drug dealer murdered her so as to leave no witnesses. She was about 4 years old. It was back in 2003 and I’ve never forgotten her.

Somethingsnappy · 01/11/2021 13:25

[quote DueyCheatemAndHow]@Puffalicious I totally agree, I've struggled recently.

@lollipoprainbow its not a very nice feeling to be discussed like you have just done and called 'weirdly obsessive'. Just saying.[/quote]
Yes, that was uncalled for. The thread on Arthur has turned into something of a safe place for posters to share feelings about the recent cases. Not cool of lollipoprainbow to dismissively throw that comment out there like that...

Swipe left for the next trending thread