Do you know of anyone not very nice but seems to have a lot of friends?

[Poetrypatty]

Just pondering this really. I vaguely know someone who in my own experience has been quite unpleasant to me but seems to have lots of friends. Just wondering if this is a common thing really. Maybe it's that that person just has a problem with me and is nice to others. Or do you think sometimes people can be not that nice but still have quite a few friends?

@Booksandwine80

Yes. Everybody thinks the sun shines out of her arse but she’s a snidey, two faced adulterer

A name?

@Whitechocpizza

Riada The type of people who hang on to these popular but not very nice people are actually blinkered/intimidated/uncritical. Usually a mix of the three. I'm obviously not the only person who can see through them or OP wouldn't have started the thread.

Isn’t it also possible that the ‘popular but not very nice’ person is perfectly nice to his/her friends, but doesn’t make any particular effort with someone who visibly dislikes him/her?

It seems just as likely as them being surrounded by sycophants while only one clear-eyed individual gets to pride themselves on being unduped, unlike the sheeple.

@Skyla2005

People stay friends with them cause they are scared to be on the wrong side of them

Absolutely

I think you are overthinking this OP. I have come to the conclusion that people live their lives unconsciously until they gain some reflection about themselves. I was certainly very unaware that I had an effect on other people until I read a few ‘self help’ type books and became more reflective about my behaviours.

I had to deal with a narcissistic member of my team who seemed undermine everything I tried to do. I realised in the end that she had no idea how manipulating she was but rather she was living her life by her own limited and self-serving rules.

And I also believe that many people judge others by their own standards and failings. ‘She’s bossy and gets people to run around after her’ could just be that that’s way people react to her without her being consciously aware of it.

Most people are just trying to have a nice life and being themselves and it takes all kinds to make the world.