Those of you with husbands aged 55+, are they grumpy old men?

[Sfuandtired]

Just that really, obviously a big generalisation I know, but this seems very common among people I know, when they get to this age it’s as if a switch is flicked and they turn into grumpy moaners.

DH is 60.
Absolutely not grumpy! There isn't a single day that he doesn't make me giggle!
Even when I'm feeling a bit down he can lift my mood.

God yes! It even annoys the kids. I’m hoping it’s a phase because the warranty ran out a long time ago!

Yes. Much grumpier and more moany than Victor Meldrew who was a beacon of light compared to my husband!

No. Not particularly.
He'll have a bit of rant at something on the news (so will I) occasionally, but he's very much less grumpy than me. 🤔
Unless it's windy.
He hates the wind.
Then he gets very Eeyore and doom n gloom "My poor roof"..."I'll need new fence panels"...or if we're out "I'll never see my house again"

Yes and they get worse with age

Mine is an extremely well dressed trendy version of victor meldrew. I kind of used to find it funny- but actually it's really wearing after a lot of years.

So grumpy...but then I'm no peach either!

No, DH is 66 not grumpy and fed up with calling FIL because he’s been grumpy since DH was a toddler.

Mine's 69 and he has his moments but by and large I'm more grumpy than he is (I'm 60). He's kind, generous, incredibly supportive and sees the good in most things and people. Sure he's happy as Larry tucked up on the sofa watching Sky Sports, but then is the life and soul at a party or get together. I love him loads.

57, rapidly gammoning more and more since 50. I glaze over quite a lot.

No, he's about to turn 57 and is lovely, smiley and progressive and sexy and not grumpy at all, unlike me. It may help that we've only been together 2 years, don't live together and both keen on having sex a lot. Hard(er) to be grumpy in that situation.

I think setting the grumpy ones free to find a younger model if they can is always an option. I do feel there should be an 'empty nest' clause in the marriage vows which says if you've had enough of each other once you've raised the kids, why not move on?

Also bear in mind that there's a nice hobby for the gammony ones, an acquaintance who got divorced recently and turned 60 is going to stand for the Reform Party [vom] That should keep him out of trouble.

Yes he's very grumpy but he has less testosterone now because of his age. Likes to talk about sharing his feelings a lot more...his feelings about the many things I don't do right. I still can make him laugh and he does a lot round the house. I wouldn't want him to have more hobbies, less would be better

I'm a husband in that age bracket. This thread has already made me grumpy since it's a zombie revived today for no reason.
I live up to my username.
🤣

I’m 46, my partner is 67. Thanks to the perimenopause I’m the grumpy one, although he certainly has his moments.

My husband is 64, always in a good mood. He's really laid-back, doesn't get angry or irritable.

Sometimes.

His hobby makes him grumpy

DH is only a mere 51 yet and still retains his boyish charm thank God. But he's become much more fretful about leaving the house empty for long periods of time. He's obsessed with those plug in timer switches for indoor lights, we must have a dozen of them.

Footie fan?

Yikes. Mine is 54, will be 55 in a couple of months, should I get prepared? 😱No sign of any grumpiness yet, though. I'm more grumpy as I have chronic health conditions!

I read somewhere recently that they do get a fall in testosterone levels post 70, which does lead to grumpiness
Mine is 71…
He is a miserable old git some of the time but does revert into being his usual ridiculous cheerful self mostly. So far.
He is definitely not lazy, sawing all the wood for the stove, seeing to the dogs and has a retirement job, not to mention making me tea every morning before I get up.
I think I probably irritate him far more than he irritates me, with my ways.