Page 3 | Those of you with husbands aged 55+, are they grumpy old men?

Sfuandtired · 2021-10-04T19:45:26+00:00

Just that really, obviously a big generalisation I know, but this seems very common among people I know, when they get to this age it’s as if a switch is flicked and they turn into grumpy moaners.

DustyMaiden · 04/10/2021 22:06

Been grumpy since 16

EwwSprouts · 04/10/2021 22:06

Sadly yes. The glass is always only a quarter full.

MrsDThomas · 04/10/2021 22:06

Yes. Turning into his father as each day goes by.

Potters in the kitchen - i hate that. He plays in the sink like a kid. Rinsing, washing, rinsing pots etc, driving me fucking mad.

Naps when we watch a programme together. But when its his show, well he’s wide awake,

Grunts at music in the car, especially my music (and my singing as its really good)

Prefers ordinary food. Doesn’t like to try new stuff

Something makes me love him though

SirChenjins · 04/10/2021 22:11

Yes. He’s 58 and becoming very curmudgeonly. I am 52, perimenopausal and losing tolerance for his grumpiness.

MissyB1 · 04/10/2021 22:13

Yes I’ve been noticing it recently, he’s 54 and becoming very negative and often grumpy. But he’s a hospital Dr and to be fair his job is a fucking nightmare! I’m not sure if he would be so negative and grumpy if the NHS wasn’t in such a shit place.

Seainasive · 04/10/2021 22:14

Yes, regular Victor Meldrew

NotChristine · 04/10/2021 22:17

DH was born grumpy I think!

I have a killer statement I use when he’s getting into one of his grumpy tizzes:

“I didn’t have a cochlear implant just to listen to you grumbling.”

Repeated use of this phrase has largely trained him out of it.

NeedWineNow · 04/10/2021 22:19

No far from it. He's 67 and still makes me cry with laughter. He's kind and generous to a fault and will chat away to anyone - one of our friends once said ' I love Mr Wine, he'd talk to a broom with a hat on'

He has his moments - don't get him started on this Insulate Britain mob - he has his aches and pains and is fonder of slobbing in front of Sky Sports more than I'd like, but we've just celebrated our Silver Wedding and I wouldn't change him for the world.

Sarahlou63 · 04/10/2021 22:26

Nope. 67 - works a 12 hour day (WFH so can take the occasional cheeky nap), does all the DIY/maintenance on the farm, cooks a mean cheese sauce, helps around the house and still has time to listen with sympathy when I need a moan.

I am very lucky.

Chewbecca · 04/10/2021 22:30

Yes, he is very negative indeed. Ranting about insulate Britain protestors right now

That isn’t all of him though, he is still funny and he definitely isn’t lazy.

ClinkeyMonkey · 04/10/2021 23:36

God yes. Yakking on about Brexit, Covid, Boris, builders, plumbers, carpet fitters - any tradesmen really. ALL DAY LONG. At least the daily Donald Trump rant has now ceased. I wear my headphones a lot, listening to audiobooks. Ssshhh, don't tell anyone, but sometimes I just pretend I'm listening to my audiobook to get some fecking peace.

I'm grumpy too, but I grump inwardly!

MissyB1 · 05/10/2021 10:48

@JaninaDuszejko

DH at 50 seems to be turning into FIL

, he's getting pompous and grumpy. He was so lovely and easy going in his youth. My Dad was lovely and easy going his entire life so this is a shock to me.

Yea my dh is slowly but surely morphing into Fil, I’m not sure I can cope 😱

Bullsh · 05/10/2021 10:51

He can be mardy and so like his 94 year old dad, he would explain the ins and outs of a cats arse if not stopped. He is also a great bloke, funny, loving and caring and I fancy him rotten.

Anycrispsleft · 05/10/2021 10:54

DH is 48 and I'm not looking forward to a future where he continues to get more grumpy at the rate he is doing now. It's a pure bad habit - we have a nice life, and in fact we got some awesomely good news a few weeks ago, DH was visibly happy about it for three or four days, now back to moaning about everything.

Brickskithouse · 05/10/2021 16:09

@anycrispsleft I feel the same a bit. We joke about it at the moment but the thought of the future stuck with Eeyore and no cheery kids around does feel a bit bleak at times.

SirChenjins · 05/10/2021 16:21

@ClinkeyMonkey

God yes. Yakking on about Brexit, Covid, Boris, builders, plumbers, carpet fitters - any tradesmen really. ALL DAY LONG. At least the daily Donald Trump rant has now ceased. I wear my headphones a lot, listening to audiobooks. Ssshhh, don't tell anyone, but sometimes I just pretend I'm listening to my audiobook to get some fecking peace.

I'm grumpy too, but I grump inwardly!

Oh god yes - the same moans here, plus Scottish independence and why it won't work.

He's great fun when he's not moaning and I love him loads, but wind him up and off he goes...

coffeepleeease · 05/10/2021 16:22

My husband is 43 and a grumpy old man!

Fairyliz · 05/10/2021 16:31

@ClinkeyMonkey

God yes. Yakking on about Brexit, Covid, Boris, builders, plumbers, carpet fitters - any tradesmen really. ALL DAY LONG. At least the daily Donald Trump rant has now ceased. I wear my headphones a lot, listening to audiobooks. Ssshhh, don't tell anyone, but sometimes I just pretend I'm listening to my audiobook to get some fecking peace.

I'm grumpy too, but I grump inwardly!

@ClinkeyMonkey I might have thought we were married to the same man except for the fact that mine sits on the settee all day so he can’t possibly be also married to you. Let this thread be a warning to you young women attracted to that dynamic older man. Judging from the results an exciting 45 year old has an 80% chance of being a grump in 15 years. You have been warned!

Floralnomad · 05/10/2021 16:35

My husband is early 60s and not particularly grumpy , his late father and his mother were / are both miserable fuckers so he gets picked up on any Victor Meldrew behaviour as soon as it begins and it’s nipped in the bud . If he wasn’t living with myself and our daughter I’m sure he’d be a total misery .

BasiliskStare · 05/10/2021 16:37

No DH just looks at little birds feeding , cats , takes the dogs out , laughs at stuff - more going to gym - I actually think he is more joyful . ( This is not a comprehensive list )

shiningstar2 · 05/10/2021 16:37

Not exactly grumpy. He is quite happy and cheerful chatting away to others but puts a damper on things he doesn't want to do. It's quite manipulative really because over the years I've found I don't arrange as much for us as a couple. If left to him we would never get a holiday or a short break away arranged but he always enjoys them once we are away.
He is a kind, loving husband in other ways and you have to take the rough with the smooth I suppose. We still laugh a lot together and he is a loving dad and grandad. Both aged 69 and happily married 47 years. You have to take the rough with the smooth I suppose and he puts up with my grumps as well

Floralnomad · 05/10/2021 16:37

My BIL on the other hand is 75 and he’s been a grumpy old man since I’ve known him which is 30+ years , whenever you see him now you just get a lecture about his various ailments .

DoYouLikeOwls · 05/10/2021 16:38

@BrilloPaddy

Yep. He was 58 this year.

He's like Basil Fawlty on steroids.

Mine is not grumpy. He doesn't act or look his age.

KateTheEighth · 05/10/2021 16:39

No

My dh is 58

Not at all grumpy and still a lot of fun

DoingDoingDone · 05/10/2021 16:40

Yes definitely! I’m late 30s but noticed this with my friends’ dads who were lovely, cheerful types (the ones who’d pick you up from parties at 1am age 17) but now will barely say hello and find their own grandchildren irritating.

(Meanwhile my grumpy, workaholic dad has totally mellowed and is positively delightful in his late 60s! I guess he got it out of his system early)