Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

I know you aren’t ok bloody white cat

If I could wish one thing for you (apart from this never happening to you both in the first place) it would be that you could find peace enough to sleep.

You are so busy battling that it must be hard to let your mind settle enough to sleep. And you need it.

It would be an honour if we could mind your worries as you sleep. I know they will return to you in your waking hours but if we could mind them enough to let you sleep?

That would be my wish for you each night. Because magnificent warrior women need to sleep.

Sending love and strength and light in your time of need. 🌻 ✨ x

@SheldonesqueTheBstard thanks so much for commenting about my DD.
She's having a much much better week - school are discreetly keeping an eye on the mean girls now and she seems happier.

@bloodywhitecat sending you lots of love

Thank you Sheldonesque. I slept.

maitre

I’m so glad that things are easing slightly for your wee lassie and that her school is keeping an eye out.

I think I’m a fairly strong person nowadays. If I’d have been blessed with bairns I think I’d be so busy worrying that I wouldn’t notice what was under my nose.

You have a bairn with a warrior mam. You’ve noticed her pain. You are helping her through it. And I truly hope that is what she will carry with her into adulthood rather than the mean girl stuff.

Sending blessings and love and light to you both going forward. 🌻 x ✨

blue

I’m glad you managed a wee sleep.

I hope that in other thread subjects you find the help you need with your home situation. And the support in ‘life limiting illness’ with regards to your dad.

Just know that we are here - like little worry dolls - to let you sleep and give you a gift from the bag of dreams.

We are always here in some shape or form. And can carry anything and everything. And it can help when things seem too burdensome.

Wishing you strength and hope and a lightness in your soul. 🌻 x ✨

Hi. Can I ask if any of you have heard from/about Becca19962014? She was a frequent poster on another thrread that I am part of, but I have not seen her about or heard from her since before Christmas. If anybody is in touch with her I would be grateful for some news, either on here on by personal message. Thank you

@Dutchoma I too have been worrying about @Becca19962014. She was here really often for a while, then went silent.

If you are around, Becca, come on over and let us know you are okay. We miss you and worry about you.

@bloodywhitecat sending you strength and love

Hi all. I remember Becca mentioning that there was a possibility of her phone causing problems with her ability to access Mumsnet at some point due to not being able to update.
I hope she’s doing ok, I was thinking about her recently too.
Should anyone need to leave their problems for the night, me and the cat are still here to take control of them for you, just drop them off with me and I promise I will take good care of them for you while you sleep.
You can collect them when you feel you are ready to collect them.

Me and the cat will guard them until you want to pick them up, however, I can’t guarantee that they won’t have been chewed up into unrecognisable bits.
Havelock has a tendency to eat problems. Sorry, not sorry.

I checked in with Becca and she not posting right now, but responding to PMs. I sent her our best and reminded her that we are always here if she needs us.

Thank you @2018SoFarSoGreat
Becca if you can see this, I hope you are doing ok, please know that people are thinking about you and hoping you are doing ok. Take care of yourself and if you feel able to, let us know if you are ok. You are missed and important to us!

I have managed to get the OT to review his bed as he is a tall man and his broken leg is constantly pressing against the footboard, she is going to sort out a new bed but our difficulty is that the bed comes from a hospital in the next county and they use a different company to our county. Of course, one company may not want to dismantle another company's bed and the room is too small to allow two beds to be put up in it (we live in an old cottage with tiny rooms). The GP sent out the friendly paramedic who makes lots of their house calls and DH is now on antibiotics but he is not right, he is putting on a brave act but something is wrong.

I was looking back to see if I could see an update from Becca so I am glad there is news.

@bloodywhitecat here's hoping that the new bed is delivered fast, and provides some relief where the leg is concerned. Antibiotics need to do their work too; I like to imagine them racing around looking for the culprit making us unwell, then gathering their forces and jumping in for a melee until it surrenders.

The thought of him putting on a brave act made me get teary eyed. Bless him. He sounds like such an amazing man, in such horrendous circumstances. It is just so bloody unfair when you look at all of it piling on him, and on you. I can't say enough how sad and mad and sorry I am for all of you.

bloodywhitecat I absolutely echo 2018

Keeping all crossed that the bed arrives without delay and that the antibiotics help him.

Just thinking of you x

I didn’t intend to worry anyone. Sorry.
Things are really bad and it’s not something I can put online as it’s very identifying.

Thankyou for thinking of me. It’s appreciated.

@Becca19962014 you do not have to apologize to us! We're here for you!

I'm sending love and strength and support in whatever way you can take it. And a strong back and broad shoulders to lean on, as you need it. And a hug.

We're always here to hold your worries and fears, you are family to us, your Worry Warriors.

I learned yesterday that the man I
have loved for many years is dying of cancer. Its a LDR (& complicated rship) he's said its too difficult for me to visit. There's no one in RL I can talk to. I'm in pieces. I have teenagers in exam years so I have to keep going for them but I can't believe he will be gone (soon).

@52andblue oh that is terrible news. I'm so sorry. I hope you can see him one last time. Either way, how terrible to have to keep this to yourself.

For now, leave it here with us. I will hold that love and fear and pain tenderly, while you get some sleep. You can park it here for as long as you need to, there is always someone here to lean on.

Sending hugs and 💐 and a wish for a few hours of rest.

@2018SoFarSoGreat
Thank you for your kindness. I think I'm scared to go to sleep because when I wake up I'll need to remember it again.

That is true, but once you have a little sleep you will have just a tiny bit more strength to deal with it. I hope! Try it? You can always come back here if it doesn't work.

Thank you for the wonderful vibes. He woke this morning looking grey and clearly not feeling well, he was reluctant to even take his tablets and refused breakfast. I had an email from his OT saying a bed would be with us today and it was! By 2pm he was well enough to sit in his chair for 40 minutes while the technician dismantled the not-fit-for-purpose bed and assembled the new longer bed. Once he got back into bed he ate three quarters of a sandwich I plonked in front of him made him with loving care. He then chatted to the toddler when he climbed up onto DH's bed and had a chat with the baby. He also managed a few mouthfuls of omelette for dinner tonight. This evening he looks yellow but less grey and he has been awake for most of the day so I am hoping he will sleep tonight. I have also heard that Marie Curie hope to be able to offer us a night on Sunday so I can have a whole night in a proper bed!

@bloodywhitecatwhat a difference a day make is playing in my head. I'm so so happy to hear all of this update. I'm absolutely delighted for this one good day. Hold it tight in your heart and think back to it when you need it. Now that you've written it here, it will never be forgotten.

Finger crossed for Marie Curie to come through and for your bed to be big and soft and comfy and delightful. You can snuggle in and sleep; and if the missing of your DH feels too much to bear, holler over here and we'll hold that while you sleep. In fact, we'll get on that right now, just to practice. We want it to be one perfect night for you, you so deserve that.

And today we are back to where we were on Thursday. My daughter came over today, she has done my weekly shop and has made me several cups of tea as well as finished of making the lasange for dinner. I hate seeing him like this. I hate the idea of him dying but I also know this is not how he, or anyone, would want to live because he isn't living is he.

Hi I'm new and not sure if I just put this question on here or a different section but here goes...

My partner's daughter took my son to her house for a sleep over, she has a daughter.
When I asked how they were geting on she sends back a photo of my son who is 3 and her daughter who is 2 naked on the bedroom floor, just out of bath. I am absolutely fuming and when I asked my friends am I over reacting iv got mixed views.
I feel uncomfortable about this , if her phone was stole there's an indecent Image now in her phone of our kids.
Plus she didn't even ask my permission, i feel extreamly angry and don't know how to approach this situation.

@bloodywhitecat I hate this for you all. It's really not what anyone would want. Your daughter sounds lovely, and I'm glad she came. Someone looking after you for a little while.

Tonight, we'll hold you and your DH in our thoughts, and send little prayers into the ether for comfort. You can try to rest now. We're holding what we can for now. ❤️