If your boyfriend promised you a nice night away and took you to a premier inn.....

[neettfeet]

Would you be disappointed?

@notacooldad

If premier inn was just the base and it was a good city break I wouldn't be bothered.

This

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard I'm not going to let it become a tradition; for the wedding night we're staying in the penthouse suite at a very naice hotel

(We will always return to that Travelodge when we're back in the same city though)

@neettfeet

I'm deffo not being ungrateful. I just fancied a nicer hotel that's all. I would pay for a hotel but I've just bought us concert tickets for next year and that was £200. Trying not to waste money or use credit card.

The reviews for hotel du vin were good and they have gorgeous rooms so I got a bit carried away

You sound extremely ungrateful....

And you want 'nicer?'

As in you'll stay awake all night to swoon over the decorating and furniture?

@neettfeet

I'm deffo not being ungrateful. I just fancied a nicer hotel that's all. I would pay for a hotel but I've just bought us concert tickets for next year and that was £200. Trying not to waste money or use credit card.

The reviews for hotel du vin were good and they have gorgeous rooms so I got a bit carried away

I've stayed in a few HdVs. Some are great. Some not so much. A particularly traumatic memory is a night in the Tunbridge Wells branch where we might as well have been sleeping in the car park and it was dirty. My review is still on Trip Advisor. At least Premier Inns are consistent.

I like Premier Inn. Stayed in the budget version of Hilton one time and it was a total shit hole compared to the Premier Inn just down the road from it that we'd stayed in before. Premier Inn all the way next time, especially if you're going to be out sight seeing a lot and only using it to sleep.

It depends- is he very wealthy, do you always spend a lot on hotels and is that not typical of what you normally do?

If you wanted a specific hotel, would have been better to say something.

I would be fine with this, also you say you have spent £200 on concert tickets, the Premier Inn plus dinner and drinks will come to that, surely, if you don't have excess cash then this seems to me a lovely treat!

A bed is a bed, and Premier Inn beds are lovely, so personally this would be fine for me! I wouldn't want to pay £££ on a hotel unless money literally didn't matter to that person.

I think some people tend to take a more practical and un-emotional approach to things like holidays.

Many people think, "we will only be there to sleep. It's a place to lay our heads. As long as it's clean and comfortable it will do."

Especially as it's a city break and you intend to be out in the evenings. His reasoning of having more money available for other things on the weekend makes total sense and it sounds like he is more pragmatic than you. He sees paying double the price or more for a fancier room as a waste of money. Most men do not appreciate differences in decor or furnishings. They'll barely even notice.

Other people want the height of luxury and to feel like they are being spoiled rotten.

I think communication is important.

Is a weekend away for a romantic, loved up, couples break where you intend on spending alot of time in bed, sleeping in, getting massages or using the pool together? If so, don't book a Travelodge.

Or is it an active city break where you intend to get up and out early doing lots of things and return after 11pm or more like 3am? Don't go to Champneys then.

Maybe you want different things from this break. And maybe you need to reach a compromise and discuss all your options together then book.

I've stayed in the Premier Inn and hated it. Was a baking hot weekend, no air con, if we opened the window we could hear all the street noise. It was about 10 years ago so maybe it's better.

We've had too many bad nights in Premier Inn's and now both hubby and I refuse to stay in one, so much so we went to a wedding a few years back and I offered to not drink and drive us because the only close hotels were Premier Inn or holiday Inn. We picked somewhere 30 minutes away and it was pure luxury and so worth not drinking for.

@neettfeet

He said the less money he spends on the hotel the more he will have for nice food /drinks. Which I do understand I had set my heart on the malmaison or hotel du vin.

TBH @neettfeet I've stayed at the Malmaison in Newcastle and it's a bit flash but rooms are really just meh/ok-nothing fabulous at all unless you upgrade and get a room over looking the Quayside which is both pricey and hard to book..

The Premiere Inn is a fab location and I'd rather spend the money on a nice dinner and lovely cocktails!!!!

I would pay for a hotel but I've just bought us concert tickets for next year and that was £200.
Trying not to waste money or use credit car
Right so you just paid for £200 concert tickets. He's just paid around £170 for a hotel, easily £50 for dinner, £60 on drinks but he's in reasonable for not spending another 200-250 on a hotel room that's fancier than yours

You will enjoy it better at a premier inn ! I have stayed in hotel d bin in Bristol it was wayyyyy to posh and stilted for me personally!! And rooms very dark x

There is no point making a big thing about this op just enjoy the bloody weekend!

I could never afford this, neither could dp. Weve had a new born baby, been through horrible times, and would be desperate just to sleep in a caravan quite frankly if that mean some quality time together.

You are missing the point of this time together. Book a nice hotel for next time. For now just LET IT GO.

If it's the one at Royal Quays it's about a 5 minute walk to the Metro stop and right next to the outlet village. We've stayed there a couple of times and would again.

It would very much depend on the circumstances of the tune away.

Is the hotel the main element? Or just somewhere to crash having been out and about all day?

So if it was a city break with meals out booked, activities arranged for during the day, etc and the PI was just somewhere to head at bedtime then it'd be fine.

But it is been expecting a hotel based night away with a meal at the hotel, drinks in the lounge/bar I'd be hoping more for a spa hotel or luxury hotel range, and a PI wouldn't be the right place.

@neettfeet

Sorry everyone I fell asleep 🙈 The plan is to go to Newcastle next Saturday for the day /night. It's the one on the quayside. Going for food and cocktails around Newcastle. He said he booked as it's in a good location.

So yes, I'd be fine with that as your weekend away won't be hotel based. And it is a good location - we stayed at a Malmaison in the same area and the location was perfect.

@neettfeet

I'm deffo not being ungrateful. I just fancied a nicer hotel that's all. I would pay for a hotel but I've just bought us concert tickets for next year and that was £200. Trying not to waste money or use credit card.

The reviews for hotel du vin were good and they have gorgeous rooms so I got a bit carried away

So you're paying for concert tickets and you think £200 is a lot.

But it's not a lot when he's paying, even though his money is covering a hotel (plus breakfast), dinner out and cocktails - which will come to MUCH more than your £200.

In the nicest way, you need to get a grip. You can spend £300+ on a hotel room yourself if it's so important

We are going away in 6 weeks to Manchester for his birthday and that hotel for 2 nights has cost £305 so the £200 I've spent for the concert tickets has led to a expensive month.

I won't be in hotel much really In Newcastle as he has to be up at 7am to drive to work the day after so it will just be me on the morning having breakfast etc

Trying not to waste money or use credit card.

So stop whining about the Premier Inn! Or is it just YOUR money that you don’t want to waste - his is fair game? 🤨

@neettfeet

We are going away in 6 weeks to Manchester for his birthday and that hotel for 2 nights has cost £305 so the £200 I've spent for the concert tickets has led to a expensive month.

I won't be in hotel much really In Newcastle as he has to be up at 7am to drive to work the day after so it will just be me on the morning having breakfast etc

You must have got an amazing deal for that Manchester break - two nights in the Malmaison Manchester for just over £300!

Or is it just the Malmaison when he’s paying? 🤔

Me and my partner feel the same about hotels: mostly a base so we stay in cheap and cheerful and actually have stayed in lovely places. We stay in B&Bs when we visit the lakes each year. Even stayed in hostels ( own room). For city breaks we would rather the spending money to be honest. We aren’t high earners so it works for us and we can have more breaks/trips away.

We’ve stayed in nicer/expensive places as one offs but I’m not that fussy over hotels. As long as it’s clean, reasonably modern and good location!

I think some people like more expensive places as they are more insta/Facebook/tik tok whatever friendly. More bragging rights than a premier inn. ‘My boyfriend took me to this expensive hotel/drinks etc I’m such a lucky girl’….

@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross it is actually the malmaison in Manchester
It's £305 for tonight's with the genius discount

*two nights

Tbh the standard rooms in malmaison won't offer much more than a PI aside from slightly better decor. Especially if you don't plan to use the facilities (eg spa treatments which come at an extra cost). It's nice for a birthday treat especially if its a suite (at 300 for 2 nights it certainly isn't) but aside from a special occasion it makes much more sense to stay at the PI, even more so if you are planning to go out for meal and drinks and half of your party is rushing off in the morning unable to even use the breakfast. Why on earth would you want a posh hotel in those circumstances

[quote neettfeet]@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross it is actually the malmaison in Manchester
It's £305 for tonight's with the genius discount [/quote]
Does he know you’ve booked the Malmaison in Manchester?

Change it to the Premier Inn.

Don’t feel you have to treat him more than he treats you.