Shamed at the Duck pond.

[GiveMeAUserName123]

Took my kids to the duck pond today as we accidentally let close to a whole loaf of bread go mouldy. Instead of waste it I thought we could give it to the ducks…..well!

Got there and there was a mum, who if you was to judge on the spot came across as one of those perfect, kind, loving hippy mums with polite kids, she was handing her children what could only be described as real duck feed, they were pellet like and brown.

Also there across the pond was a dad with his young kid, about 4, throwing in peas from a brown kfraft box that has obviously been recycled.

Then us, I’m married, but if you was to judge there and then, a single mum, standing there with her two kids throwing bread into the pond out of the plastic wrapper, with (very slight) mould. Completely inorganic and clearly not saving the world.

The young 4 year old said “ducks don’t eat bread” to his dad who was in ear shot of us, he replied that they do sometimes eat bread as he was obviously being polite to us.

Since when did parents become so perfect?

Just felt like a huge fail as we crossed back over the bridge to read a sign that said “bread kills ducks.”

(My kids didn’t notice the sign thank god!)

🤦🏼‍♀️ Fail

It's not small amounts of bread though, is it. Not if everyone feeds their left overs to them. And mouldy to boot

@Bluntness100

I read 'shamed at the duck pond' to the tune of 'stranded at the drive in'.

Oh god now you’ve me ag it

Shamed at the duck pond
Branded a fool
What will they say
Monday at school….

😂😂😂

Ducky, can't you see I'm in misery? We made a start, now i'm apart There's no bread left for me

No bread thrown
All alone, I sit and wonder why
Oh, why you left me?
Oh, Ducky

🤣🤣

Duck pond shaming is a thing!!! I got tutted at for bringing bread to the ducks by another mum at the pond who had a load of seeds! I can tell you though, the ducks preferred the bread😂 I was never aware it did harm giving them it but maybe times have changed and I didn’t get the memo. I’m sorry to say I won’t be buying seeds especially for them though.

Mouldy bread is not good at all for ducks. If you had ducks at home, you would give them proper duck food. Some bread in ponds, gets left to go all mushy in the water, and is not good for the ducks. Try some mouldy bread for yourself, and see if you like it.

When I fed ducks and yes bread, it was at the edge of a large lake over here by a castle with a cpnnecting stream

Sp they were feeding on the lake and banks; unlike a pond in a park where there is little else.
I read that in some cases the bread compacted in their crop

@Yummymummy2020

Duck pond shaming is a thing!!! I got tutted at for bringing bread to the ducks by another mum at the pond who had a load of seeds! I can tell you though, the ducks preferred the bread😂 I was never aware it did harm giving them it but maybe times have changed and I didn’t get the memo. I’m sorry to say I won’t be buying seeds especially for them though.

I just serenaded my husband to shamed at rhe duck pond. He looked bemused,,😂😂😂

This is a perfect 'wind em up, watch em go thread'. And it goes as expected, the repeated offence, the bristling, the 'I don't understand...', the same thing being posted, almost word for word, over and over again. Welcome to Mumsnet by numbers. Nobody is even aware how broadly parodic they are being.

You sound like the one doing the shaming op

I'd like to see this thread title made into one of Alan Bennett's Talking Heads series... it has that ring to it somehow.

@midsomermurderess

This is a perfect 'wind em up, watch em go thread'. And it goes as expected, the repeated offence, the bristling, the 'I don't understand...', the same thing being posted, almost word for word, over and over again. Welcome to Mumsnet by numbers. Nobody is even aware how broadly parodic they are being.

Chill. 😂😂😂

Well actually!!! Because of these well meaning city types the swans near me are all starving to death for the last 2 winters as none was feeding them bread

RSPB we're asking people to feed them bread or whatever!

The only place for mouldy bread is the bin - certainly not in a poor duck's stomach. It is irrelevant what you or the others at the pond looked like.

I'm a single parent. Please tell me what you think i look like OP as obviously in your eyes there is a look! Just want to make sure I'm doing it right and not getting above my station. FFS.

@Branleuse

you are massively overthinking this. Noone will have cared that you looked like a single mum and tbh, noone will have cared particularly that you fed ducks bread. Even if it was slightly mouldy - im assuming it wasnt completely green?

But what do single mum's look like then? Three heads? Cyclops eye? Why do people keep using the term looking like a single mum but no one can define the term.

Exactly @Fashionesta. How do I look like a single mum?

@Mariell

More embarrassing for me is the outrage my dog has that anyone could throw perfectly good food into the water and the first time I fed ducks with him, he looked panic stricken and plunged into the water to retrieve the bread and devour it!

Oh god that sums up this obsession with perfection doesn’t it. The need to be perfect, the need to get everything just right for fear of offence. Instead it causes a whole other problem, fear of communication leads to no communication , fear of feeding ducks wrong leads to no food at all.

And why am I judged for being a single mum and yet the dad wasn’t?

You were judging yourself.

I'm judging your grammar (not your spelling).

Oh, and when everybody stopped feeding the ducks bread a few years ago they started to starve, so we were told bread is better than nothing.

I'm sure you can up your duck feeding game for next time if you give it enough thought.

@Doggiedementia

And why am I judged for being a single mum and yet the dad wasn’t?

None of it really makes sense, thr op even forgot to write who shamed her. So it’s all a bit odd.

You sound judgemental

Mamaaa, I just killed a duck
I threw it some old bread
It ate it now it's dead.
Mamaaa, if I had thrown some peas
It's could have eaten them and have flown away
Mama, ooooooooooh,
Didn't mean to make it die,
If it's not back in this park tomorrow,
On the pond, on the pond, it'll send me totally quackers...

I see the little silhouetto of a duck
Daffy, Donald, Scrooge McDuck, will you do the flamingo!
etc

Nobody shamed you.

No idea why you mentioned who looked like a single mum, who cares? You obviously.

I seem to care too much what people think of you, this can be debilitating, get over it.

Yep....so now you know you should've feed bread to ducks.

You judgemental arsehole.

From a lovely hippy type single Mum of 24 years who often spent hours at the duckpond.

Guess what? I was then overcoming agoraphobia! Any glance of judgement from you would have had me going home and set back for weeks.

Oh but do judge away because you feel superior for some reason to these people who paid no attention to you.

When we take little Gdcs to feed the ducks it’s always brown bread, but I’d never give them mouldy bread - not only because I don’t suppose it’s very good for them, but also because Gdcs are apt to eat quite a bit of it, too.

It's hilarious because you felt people assumed you were an underclass single mother whereas really you are respectably married and just didn't know the latest trends in duck feeding. Is that right?

Embarrassing. You starting this thread I mean, not the duck pond.