60. I am never going to feel like an adult, am I?

[Orangejuicemarathoner]

Maybe no one ever does, and everyone else is just better at pretending than I am!

To me it would be understanding politics, having a clean enough house for unexpected visitors, knowing how to make myself look smart and sophisticated, eating and sleeping at sensible times, regularly.

But maybe, there are adults who do all those things and still don't feel like an adult, and think the things I have done are more adulty!

Or maybe we are actually all fully adult, and part of being fully adult is wondering if everyone else is more adult than you are....

I always end up following the more 'adult grown up' in situations that I am not too sure about, my Body is aching more I am more tired and want to snuggle up in a blanket rather than go out but my god I come out with some immature stuff, I still love a mum cuddle and I don't know what I want to be when I am a grown up. Good job my DH is a little more mature than me and makes sure we have house insurances etc etc.

@Daleksatemyshed

Ha ha! I am at the moment planning for my funeral and thinking of life insurance!!! I have already found out I cannot just have my ashes scattered willy nilly in the New Forest. My Councillor brother told me there are rules. Excuse me...what is the point of having a councillor brother if the bugger won't bend or break the rules for me??!!!!

I'm 31 and having children pushed me to be the adult. If I didn't have them, I am not sure I'd ever feel that way.

ssd

I'm also not pretending to be younger and more interesting than i am. Now thats sad

Some people make their way through life never in their heads being anything more than a teenager.
The only pretending is the pretending to be an adult.

@Deathraystare, brothers, what are they like? Get a friend to take a pocket full a day and by the end of a fortnight you'll all be gone, and your DB never needs to know....

This is so, so me (and DH thank God). We took DD1 to university last weekend and I noticed I wasn't really dressed like many of the other (proper adult) mums who were in smart blazers and low heeled shoes ( I was in a huge Zara jumper, ripped jeans and Vans).

DD1 and I agreed it would be a good idea for me to ride in the cage trolley as she pushed it down the corridor, just for shits & giggles. Surprisingly no other proper Mum availed themselves of this fun form of transportation???

Oh god. I'm 37 and clicked too in the hope someone had posted the secret of adulting. Terrifying to realise that my parents properly DIDN'T know what they were doing when I was growing up...!

Oh I love this! I'm mid forties but still feel 25. I love fashion and wear what I like (my teens are always raiding my wardrobe so I must be doing something right), I'm never going to be an old frump. My friends and I still love partying, clubbing and moshing to metal. My husband is just the same. We work and pay our bills and raise our kids but we still don't feel like 'real' adults. My friends mum is in her 60s and still loves to drink, party and socialise. You only live once!

My bestie has always said my house is like mum and dad’s house because we are never out of toilet roll. To her that is the marker of adulthood 🤣 DH and I have lived together since we were 19 and my friend has said it since those days! I definitely don’t feel like it, if anything having kids has made me regress. We are early thirties now and I feel like I’m constantly playing catch up with my organised mummy friends who take their children to lots of well rounded activities, are never late, give them lunch at the exact same time every day..

It’s like that line from Alice Through The Looking Glass “We are but older children dear, who fret to find our bedtime near.” It’s so true. We are all just playing at grownups and we are all just grown up children really, who still don’t want to go to bed or do the boring grown up things. It made me think of my grandma and how child like she seemed at the end of her life, like she came in a full circle.

I'm 53 tomorrow and don't feel much different in my head than I did at 25. Though we have tickets for the Human League next month for Dare 40!!! and I find it hard to believe it's that long ago. Dh is currently in the process of buying a Lambretta and I am off to Lisbon with the girls in a couple of weeks where we will be atrocious, covid rules permitting.

@Orangejuicemarathoner.
Thank you 👍. We must get together and drink beer 🍻 (hooray). Or you could visit me and we could drink tea 🫖☕ (boo).
You will have to excuse the mess though cos ..we are decorating (I am supervising)
Bugger, I've used that one this week. 🍭

Chicchicchicchiclana

I am in my late 50s and a lot of my life is totally winging it - much as it was in my 20s. I never look groomed, my house is never visitor ready. Icwork, pay my bills, am present for my DC, keep up relationships with friends and family, have some hobbies and interests. I bumble along ok but don't feel particularly grown up.

Change it to ‘early 50s’ and we are the same person!

@Blackopal

I absolutely understand this. I am old and still scared of real adults! Following with interest

Omg that is so funny!

Speaking from experience 60 is a very good age for realising being an adult is not all it's cracked up to be and the less of it you can do the better. My regression into childhood is progressing nicely

@Daleksatemyshed

Luckily I also have a non councillor brother. I will ask him to accidentally on purpose tip my ashes in a woodland or by the sea!

When looking after my mum, she admitted that inside she felt much younger which pleased me as she had had three kids and before that had had to be "the grown up" when her mum and dad died when she was 16. She also had to try to reign in my dad's spending so I was surprised but pleased when she said that.

Over the years we have married, saved money and given time to volunteering.
Can't do gardening and my tools are scattered over garage and shed. But two screwdrivers are in the bedroom, did I do a job with them or was I going to do something.
But it is still 1969 and I am working out what to do when I grow up.
Yesterday I discovered a Folk Group I had missed (Cockersdale).