Things you thought were normal/harmless until joining mumsnet

[Antsinyourpanta]

(Lighthearted )
lots of things that I thought were quite normal /fine/harmless before I joined MM seem to be quite abhorrent to a large percentage of posters. I often find myself wondering about whether my perceived normal is actually the minority. Some examples

Home made food or cakes - I bloody love home made cakes and think they are always nicer than shop bought - my first thoughts when offered one is usually yum, a cake! I've never given a moments thought to whether the person owns cats or dogs or has a hygeine certificate.

Ensuite bathrooms - I've got an ensuite bathroom. It's used for any instance where you may need a toilet. Apparently this is very very wrong.

Eating carbs

Bayliss and Harding toiletries - I would not be offended by this as a gift unless it was from my husband

(I'm with you on Thorntons though - they are nasty)

Answering the door to someone - if I see ex criminals selling stuff door to door, I dont answer, otherwise I dont have a problem with answering the door, and i get on with all of my neighbours.

Speaking to and socialising with work colleagues - i speak to, socialise (outside of work) and am friends with most of my work colleagues. I'd count many of them as friends. We buy each other birthday cards and presents and sometimes bring in cakes. (See point 1)

What are the things you've been educated on since joining MN?

Oh, eating snacks in Teams meetings/Zoom calls is apparently unacceptable...
...I NEED MY 10AM BANANA!

Years ago now, but going for a wee and shutting the bathroom door leaving toddler DC unsupervised in the living room for a whole minute or two.

Yes the I can't pee in peace I always think why not I rarely had children In the bathroom with me!

And children at weddings. People I know don't seem to mind if a wedding is child free, even if we are parents ourselves. As someone who had a wedding full of kids (including my 3 own dc) , I can see the attraction of not having any to deal with.

@Sparklingbrook

I do my 19 year old’s washing. Well I don’t , I bung it in the machine with mine and press ‘start’. Terrible I know.

Including underwear? You need to call an ambulance immediately, suspected bubonic plague.

I love going to weddings. I like celebrating with friends/family.

Telling someone that they "look well" when I met them and think they looked nice. I never had a hidden agenda.

@NotPersephone You own a silk rug? How much did that set you back? I quite fancy a silk rug!

@brazenandstrange

Not educated bu this at all. But I am horrified that MN in general thinks no man in the whole world can ever ever change and modify their previous behaviour.

People make terrible mistakes, learn from them and grow into better people mostly. But never on MN. No man ever gets a second chance.

Unfortunately, a glance at the Relationships forum will show you that Mn is crammed with second-chance, fifth-chance and twentieth-chance men, and the women who suffer from them. Hence the advice.

Having a white front door. I have never got over someone saying this was common

I’m a MiL and have a lovely relationship with my DiL 😮😮😮😮

We do our laundry separately - we have separate laundry baskets. It isn't inefficient and doesn't result in lots of mini loads because we wait till we have a full load and don't separate into thousands of different categories for no good reason

Until I'd come across Mumsnet, I had no idea that the beautiful ivory coat I've worn to several weddings could have caused offence/leave me open to ridicule. Frankly, I still find it baffling that anyone could think I'd been trying to upstage/imitate the bride (surely she's the one standing at the front, taking the vows).

Also, the recent thread about when you should turn up if invited for dinner at 7pm really opened my eyes. It astonished me that anyone would consider it acceptable to arrive before 7.10pm!

wearing my bra for a few days in a row

If your kid drinks fizzy juice it’s as if they are drinking alcohol on here!

Also screen time, you automatically are an awfully incompetent parent if you allow a device or television to babysit your child.

We do our laundry separately - we have separate laundry baskets. It isn't inefficient and doesn't result in lots of mini loads because we wait till we have a full load and don't separate into thousands of different categories for no good reason

This honestly makes no sense me but if it works for you

Letting your (adult) children choose their own career... especially something like Armed Forces...

Unfortunately, a glance at the Relationships forum will show you that Mn is crammed with second-chance, fifth-chance and twentieth-chance men, and the women who suffer from them. Hence the advice.

But this is a bit like saying a discussion forum on car repairs proves that all automobiles are non-functional

The worst probably my attitude to dogs and animals generally- I think 'kill shelters' are sensible and also most animal charities are hugely overloaded with money.

Kill Shelters?

@Mrsjayy

We do our laundry separately - we have separate laundry baskets. It isn't inefficient and doesn't result in lots of mini loads because we wait till we have a full load and don't separate into thousands of different categories for no good reason

This honestly makes no sense me but if it works for you

It seems to be incomprehensible to most of Mumsnet. I honestly find it a lot more efficient than having to separate out everyone's when it comes to putting away

Also, the recent thread about when you should turn up if invited for dinner at 7pm really opened my eyes. It astonished me that anyone would consider it acceptable to arrive before 7.10pm!

I'm confused. This seems like a trick question. What is the right answer...?

Can you tell I dont get invited for dinner very often?🤣

Dogs barking and staring, I thought it was just normal dog behaviour.

I've been on many hen dos.

And enjoyed them

Spending christmas or other holiday-type events with actual family and/or friends. I thought that was completely normal until MN where I discovered apparently it's outrageous for in laws or even your own parents to think they can interrupt "our little family christmas".

@HerRoyalRisesAgain

I have 2 loo brushes... the horror

I dont have 50:50 custody arrangements with my ex despite him being a sahd for years while I worked. (He has them as little as possible)

I have indoor cats. Apparently this is cruel.

lol... I have just had to enclose one of my cats to the house for his own good, and whenever I have lived in towns etc always indoor ,Cruel is expecting them to survive with cars etc. See the threads on cat deaths here. Not been on the forum very long so not come across many ...oddities,,,, At my advanced age...