Things you thought were normal/harmless until joining mumsnet

[Antsinyourpanta]

(Lighthearted )
lots of things that I thought were quite normal /fine/harmless before I joined MM seem to be quite abhorrent to a large percentage of posters. I often find myself wondering about whether my perceived normal is actually the minority. Some examples

Home made food or cakes - I bloody love home made cakes and think they are always nicer than shop bought - my first thoughts when offered one is usually yum, a cake! I've never given a moments thought to whether the person owns cats or dogs or has a hygeine certificate.

Ensuite bathrooms - I've got an ensuite bathroom. It's used for any instance where you may need a toilet. Apparently this is very very wrong.

Eating carbs

Bayliss and Harding toiletries - I would not be offended by this as a gift unless it was from my husband

(I'm with you on Thorntons though - they are nasty)

Answering the door to someone - if I see ex criminals selling stuff door to door, I dont answer, otherwise I dont have a problem with answering the door, and i get on with all of my neighbours.

Speaking to and socialising with work colleagues - i speak to, socialise (outside of work) and am friends with most of my work colleagues. I'd count many of them as friends. We buy each other birthday cards and presents and sometimes bring in cakes. (See point 1)

What are the things you've been educated on since joining MN?

I think people don’t find this stuff controversial or offensive in real life but when you post on the internet there’s no filter. That and people like using MN as an outlet for a bit of moral outrage.

I was educated on peeling eggshells🤷🏼‍♀️ Good advice to be fair

[quote Sgtmajormummy]@Luckyelephant1
I now realize what a fool I must have seemed!
It was more like the sewing nerd in me thinking: “I’ve made this thing, now where can I wear it???”
And yes, I’d be perfectly capable of wearing a kimono to a Japanese restaurant…
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Haha fair enough, good on you for making it yourself! And for what it's worth, definitely not offensive just rather funny, would have been fine if it was an actual event rather than just Friday night at the local Indian!

I took my English friends shopping to buy an Indian outfit for my wedding. They wanted to get one and I was touched that they wanted to tbh. Don't understand this cultural approach nonsense unless it's people taking the mick.

Under 16s should not be left at home unsupervised because they are likely to die/access porn/‘steal’ food from cupboards. They have no say as I am the parent

18 year olds are adults and should be treated as such. I should not do anything for my 18 year old child as should be independently function and self sufficient.

It’s a tough two years on Netmums.

God forbid that you actually are the only one in the house to cook or do housework, MN would hunt you're partner down

This may not be an MN thing...but having the washing machine in the kitchen.
It's something I really notice now...we're house hunting at the moment.

God, where do I start

I have a hot tub
I have a loo brush
My 19 year old DS still lives with me and I love it, and still do stuff like his washing
I have tattoos
I have blue hair
we don't have personal towels, just use what's hanging in the bathroom
I have fake grass

I could go on but think it's best I stop there lol

giving children whole grapes or sausages

Before I came on MN I thought literally everyone had a loo brush and had never come across objections to them before.

Nor had I ever come across the idea of washing underwear/‘grottier stuff’ separately. It’s lights and darks and maybe a separate wash for towels but only because they don’t want fabric softener. I wash underwear, DP’s cycle to work clothes, hankies and face masks all in together with everything else and we survive.

However, I have always had a thing about not leaving washing out overnight and never been able to explain why it just feels fundamentally wrong to me. My NDN leaves hers out overnight up to several days sometimes and we are still friendly despite this crime on her part 🤣

@Dozycuntlaters

God, where do I start

I have a hot tub
I have a loo brush
My 19 year old DS still lives with me and I love it, and still do stuff like his washing
I have tattoos
I have blue hair
we don't have personal towels, just use what's hanging in the bathroom
I have fake grass

I could go on but think it's best I stop there lol

Out!

Enjoying food. It's a gateway to single handedly demolishing the NHS and committing murder.

Having a toilet brush
Using bleach in my loo (only occasionally when needs must but apparently I am chucking toxic substances around with gay abandon}

I'm not the only one who dislikes weddings

There are some nice people on here and some really nasty ones

The standard of written and spoken English is in decline

In all seriousness there was a while after DS was born and I was extremely fragile, and I took all this stuff seriously and was running myself into the ground trying to do things Properly and despairing because my house wasn't clean enough and DD ate toast for breakfast, sometimes while watching CBeebies, and I wasn't a fucking size 8. It was really bad for me.

Happily my mental health is a lot more robust and I'm happy being a slovenly, tv watching carb-pusher

@Birdkin 🤣

Loo brush

I have to admit I don't take a lot of notice of what everyone else does/thinks is not normal (I have two kids with ASD so long ago gave up on normality ).

You go ahead and do whatever fits in with your particular lifestyle/beliefs. Life really is too short!

Me and DH often do the grocery shopping together. He doesn't drive yet does the cooking and is genuinely better at it than me so we go together. We've even taken the kids the odd time. No its not a family day out. Sometimes we might be on our way home somewhere or sometimes they genuinely want to come.

@EllieSattler Yes, I had to be really careful about which threads I clicked on when DS was little and I was feeling mentally fragile. There were a few that made me feel like a complete and utter failure, tbh.

I'm going to save this thread for a settle down time and a coffee as I've just seen the leave my washing out one haha. I do that too. I'm new to MN x

Enjoying alcohol more than once every third Christmas makes you a raging alcoholic.

If your husband or partner looks at you in a funny way then you should LTB

If you wear an item of clothing once then you should absolutely not put it back in the wardrobe but should set it aside in a special area designated for worn once items.

Didn’t know about the bleach thing!

The loo brush hate on MN is absolutely weird.
Never letting anyone in your house ( even friends) because it's private is another one that amazed me.

I thought it was ok to exchange small talk with strangers, heaven forbid even male strangers.
I've even been known to pass on compliments to other people, didn't realise me saying I like those shoes, would necessitate years of therapy for some MN's.
If you live in a semi detached house, terrace, flat then you should expect noise, its ok for your neighbours children to be screaming on a trampoline 12 hours a day, or moving their lawn at 6:00 am Sunday morning, you either need to move to the middle of nowhere, or buy noise cancelling headphones.

My kitchen fitter. (Who's doing a fantastic job) mentioned that he'd let my neighbours mum use my toilet when she was tidying up her sons front garden. I do not have an issue with this!

@Toddlerteaplease

My kitchen fitter. (Who's doing a fantastic job) mentioned that he'd let my neighbours mum use my toilet when she was tidying up her sons front garden. I do not have an issue with this!

You mean he opened the front door!!

My parents are semi normal people. They are not controlling or narcissistic. We get on well. My sister is also lovely, as is my brother in law.
I have two very happy indoor cats, and a toilet brush!