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What petty resentment are you holding on to years later?

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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 10/09/2021 11:37

Mine is that I was put in for Foundation level GCSE Double Science despite having good grades on my coursework, only found out when I got into my exam and saw the Foundation paper in front of me, and was therefore capped at a CC. Twenty years ago 😂

What's yours?

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torquewench · 10/09/2021 11:54

My sibling went to a private school and was encouraged to join in all sports and other activities/trips and then go to university, whilst I had to make do with the local comp which did zero extra curricular stuff in the 5 years I was there and gave "maybe you could be a hairdressser" as the sum total of career "advice" (not saying hairdressing's not a worthwhile career, my stylist is fantastic and I know I don't have the talent or personality for it). It was one of those green/white computerised printouts, not even a chat with anyone about career advice. Sibling now a high flyer with an interesting career. I'm doing OK but am equally as intelligent as them but was never afforded the oportunities the old school tie network gave them. It's been a lot harder for me to get where I am. Also, thinking about it, I never even got given any dinner money, whilst my parents spent thousands on one child's education. I don't really have any relationship with my sibling and get the impression that they view our parents and me as an embarrassment as we are all very much working class, whilst they're living it up in First Class.

As an aside, it probably doesn't take a genius to work out which sex my sibling is (I'm female).

pinkyredrose · 10/09/2021 11:56

When i was four my mum made me give the little boy next door my toy cars because 'little girls don't play with cars, little boys play with cars'. Still stings.

citycitycity · 10/09/2021 11:57

@torquewench I don’t think that’s petty at all!

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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 10/09/2021 11:57

That doesn't seem petty to me at all, I'm pissed off on your behalf!

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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 10/09/2021 11:58

@pinkyredrose

When i was four my mum made me give the little boy next door my toy cars because 'little girls don't play with cars, little boys play with cars'. Still stings.
:( I'd have been devastated to lose my Tonka trucks
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Borka · 10/09/2021 12:02

When I was in year 7 we had a self-marked chemistry test. Afterwards the teacher asked the 'genius' boy in the class if he'd got all the answers right. Because he hadn't, the teacher said nobody could have got full marks and we would have to revise again. I had got all the answers right!

TossieFleacake · 10/09/2021 12:02

At a primary school friends party in the summer, her grandad had put out the sprinkler for us to run through.
I saw another girl jump and accidentally land on the sprinkler and break it.
I went over to see if I could fix it when the grandad came over and went ballistic at me.
I tried to explain that I didn't break it but was trying to fix it but he wouldn't listen and I got sent home from the party.

Still very resentful over that incident 35 years on.

Hellocatshome · 10/09/2021 12:05

Me and my brother got a joint Christmas present. It was a TV is lived in my brothers room, I never got to watch it.

Councillorbrian · 10/09/2021 12:09

@torquewench It was a running joke at my school that if you were a girl, the careers advisor would either suggest hairdressing or floristry. When it was my turn for the interview I looked her dead in the eye and said I needed information on how I could become a mortician. Funnily enough she only had information sheets about hairdressing and floristry to hand in the room and had to go away and do some research. I didn't have any interest in forensic science as a career path, but I did make her move her lazy bones and do some work for once!

AtillatheHun · 10/09/2021 12:11

Someone ran into my lane in the hurdles race on sports day when I was 10 and cost me victory. Still fuming she wasn’t disqualified.

Lobelian · 10/09/2021 12:14

I applied to go on Blockbusters but wasn't selected. My sister gave me the Blockbusters board game for Christmas last year. Turns out I am still bitter and fiercely competitive on the Gold Run.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 10/09/2021 12:14

Christ, all of them. It's exhausting Grin

RuthW · 10/09/2021 12:18

When I was 12 I was in last year at middle school (I'm 53 now) and we had a new headmaster.

We did an hour long sponsored silence in the hall. Five mins before the end he threw me out for talking, however I did not say a word or make a sound. I have never forgotten it. It really upset me.

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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 10/09/2021 12:20

@RuthW

When I was 12 I was in last year at middle school (I'm 53 now) and we had a new headmaster.

We did an hour long sponsored silence in the hall. Five mins before the end he threw me out for talking, however I did not say a word or make a sound. I have never forgotten it. It really upset me.

The injustice :(
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Shirleyphallus · 10/09/2021 12:24

Oh god LOADS

  1. I entered a writing competition and got to the final, a girl from school also did and we got to read our stories out. I went first and then when she went it was a complete rip off of a book I’d read (an American one, the characters all had the same names!). She bloody won it and when I asked her she tried to tell me that the competition was supposed to be inspired by another book. No it fucking wasn’t.
  2. A tennis competition where you were allocated a position 1-20 and paired up with the number next to you, then played a round and whoever won moved up a number and who lost moved down. It would have been fair if everyone had played all the rounds but they stopped the competition after about 7! I had started at place 18 or something so finished at 11 which was a fucking travesty. I would have won that thing

Still bitter about both

Bluenotgreenmilk · 10/09/2021 12:32

Not me but my daughter
She was walking to the shop and some old bloke came out of his garden and started screaming at her that she’d done a poo behind his wheelie bin
She protested her innocence but he refused to believe her
If that wasn’t bad enough,his grandson was in her class at school and the little fucker told everyone she’d done it
This was about 15 years ago and she’s still pissed off at the injustice of it-she can’t have done it-this was the first time she’d been out in days (she’d been ill) and as she tried to point out,had been toilet trained for years

Drinkingallthewine · 10/09/2021 12:33

Only child came over on a play date. Both her parents were professionals so were financially comfortable, mine were on benefits and I had loads of siblings so we had feck all. Their DD had a bedroom of any little girl's wildest dreams with all the latest toys.

We were playing with my 6" doll set. I think they were She-Ra and her warrior friends. Mum had got them at a jumble sale. They were second hand and cheap but really the only toys I had and I played with them endlessly. I adored them, particularly the one who had red hair like me and was too badass to be bullied over it like I was...anyway, we had lots of fun playing with them on the play date.

Mum, to impress the other mother, then insisted that I give these toys to this spoiled little kid when leaving "because she liked them". The kid who had a room fucking full of real barbie toys not the poundshop ones I occasionally got.

Still gutted and I'm 46.

DeeDimer · 10/09/2021 12:35

When I was about 9 I was asked to be a last minute stand in at a swimming gala because the 'star' swimmer was sick. I swam well and won my race.
At the awards I didn't get a medal as said 'star' deserved it as she'd been sick.
I'm 51 now maybe I should let it go??

Iloveginger · 10/09/2021 12:38

Easter egg decorating competition in primary school. Each kid submitted a decorated egg for school easter fair and visitors placed a coin on the egg they thought was the best.
I was a crafty kid and had made an egg family sat in a car, everyone kept telling me mine was the best and i had collected a lot of coin nominations, but kid with big family and bags of money, Kept putting more money on their child’s average offerings.
My family were poor, so we couldn’t compete with loadsa money family and so I lost.
It honestly was a lesson, aged 9, in how unfair life can be and money will always talk louder than talent, even in a primary school Easter egg competition.

Usual2usual · 10/09/2021 12:39

In primary one I wasn't allowed to play with the sticklebricks one afternoon because my handwriting wasn't neat enough during the morning lesson. I still remember crying watching the others play while I had to sit with my head down.

Also I have a cousin who is a year older than me, I remember her saying I couldn't play with her once during a family get together (when we were around 6/7) and I haven't spoken a word to her since, however much she may have tried. I still fucking hate her frankly.

They were both over 30 years ago, still hold a grudge.

Mischance · 10/09/2021 12:46

When I was 5, I was chosen to be Mary in the school nativity play - I was thrilled to bits. I then went off sick for a few weeks (I had hepatitis) and was mortified and terribly upset when I returned to school and found some other girl had been given the part. I was robbed! I will not tell you how many years ago this was!

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 10/09/2021 12:46

They didn’t make me Sixer of the Elves. 42 years ago.

Boobieboobieboobie · 10/09/2021 12:48

@torquewench

My sibling went to a private school and was encouraged to join in all sports and other activities/trips and then go to university, whilst I had to make do with the local comp which did zero extra curricular stuff in the 5 years I was there and gave "maybe you could be a hairdressser" as the sum total of career "advice" (not saying hairdressing's not a worthwhile career, my stylist is fantastic and I know I don't have the talent or personality for it). It was one of those green/white computerised printouts, not even a chat with anyone about career advice. Sibling now a high flyer with an interesting career. I'm doing OK but am equally as intelligent as them but was never afforded the oportunities the old school tie network gave them. It's been a lot harder for me to get where I am. Also, thinking about it, I never even got given any dinner money, whilst my parents spent thousands on one child's education. I don't really have any relationship with my sibling and get the impression that they view our parents and me as an embarrassment as we are all very much working class, whilst they're living it up in First Class.

As an aside, it probably doesn't take a genius to work out which sex my sibling is (I'm female).

This is horrible💐 especially the bit about no dinner money.Sad
wellerhugs5 · 10/09/2021 12:50

@Lobelian

I applied to go on Blockbusters but wasn't selected. My sister gave me the Blockbusters board game for Christmas last year. Turns out I am still bitter and fiercely competitive on the Gold Run.
That made me LOL 😆
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ClumpingBambooIsALie · 10/09/2021 12:53

I wasn't allowed to play with the sticklebricks one afternoon because my handwriting wasn't neat enough during the morning lesson

That's just cruel Angry I was a full member of the shitty handwriting club as a kid and feel your pain Sad

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