What petty resentment are you holding on to years later?

[ClumpingBambooIsALie]

Mine is that I was put in for Foundation level GCSE Double Science despite having good grades on my coursework, only found out when I got into my exam and saw the Foundation paper in front of me, and was therefore capped at a CC. Twenty years ago 😂

What's yours?

In Rainbows you could hire the tabard uniform or buy one. My mum bought mine but on the last day the leader cut my badge off and took my tabard refusing to believe it was mine. My dad wouldn't go back into the hall to help me get it back when he picked me up

In Brownies the oldest Brownie got to play the main role in a play. I was the oldest Brownie and the part went to someone a month younger. She knew she was younger and refused to admit it.

Also in Brownies we were on camp and tea was egg mayonnaise sandwiches. I asked for mine without mayonnaise because I didn't like it. Was given it after much huffing and puffing and just as I started eating a leader said "you'd never know it had mayonnaise on it, would you?" I couldn't eat it, it started the whole camp off badly.

Approached a mini roundabout and indicated to turn right.

A woman drove up from the right indicating to go down the road I was coming from, so I moved off but she was actually going straight over and we had a near miss.

She was going ballistic about 'her right of way' which was correct.......but she was bloody indicating!!!!

She screamed over me and I couldn't get her to understand what the mix up was.

She drove off still indicating all the way up the road.

I think about this more often than I really should.

@BeanyBops what a barefaced CF!!

Torque: "I never even got given any dinner money....".

How were you supposed to eat?

@HappyTimeTunnelDinosaur
What a horrible man he was
for you x

Another one from the other day that still plays on my mind! Coming up to a long bridge section in a road which was narrowed across the bridge to single track. My way had the right of way over the bridge, this was clearly sign posted both ways. I proceeded on and was 1/4 of the way across when a guy in a large van came from the other direction, clearly seeing me already part way across. He sarcastically gave me a slow hand clap, so I mouthed "it's my right of way" and pointed at the sign at his end. He was furious, probably at his own stupidity (I hope) but as I had a car which was smaller I began to reverse until he slammed his van into reverse and sped backwards to let me through. He then had the audacity to call me a twat! I just laughed as I went past, I was 100% in the right and he knew it.

My DM took DSis to Goa for her 21st Birthday. 10 days All Inclusive. I got a bottle of perfume for my 21st.

DM & DF paid a significant chunk towards DSis & BIL's wedding. DH & I got nothing.

DM & DSis are cut from the same cloth, DF just does anything for a quiet life.

Like a PP it's really opened my eyes about my family and slowly but surely I'm pulling back from them for my own sanity.

A grading for my sport. Passed most of it, but was told to come back and do one part, upon which I would pass.

The sensei then proved impossible to get hold of. Then, when he was eventually reached, asked that I call him, which I did.

Then he denied both offering to let me come back and retake the one part I failed, and that he'd asked me to call him. He called me disrespectful, and then put a bunch of ridiculous conditions on my going for the grading again, not least of which was another £175 fee.

An email of complaint to the body he is head of went unanswered, obviously.

He is on my Hit List for life

Thanks @BettyBlueCheese

I didn't get into "Advanced Tell the Time Club" at school when I was 7. I could tell the time (analogue, digital and 24-hour) perfectly but I'd been at a music lesson for half of the test on it. You had to get 18 out of 20, and I'd only got 14, but I'd only answered the first 14 questions!

(Advanced Tell the Time Club got to do puzzles relating to time for the lesson while everybody else had to draw clock faces and write times down.)

I have several. At primary school I was chosen to play The Angel Gabriel in the school nativity. We all had costumes made out of old sheets. Then one girl got her mum to trim her costume with tinsel, because she now had a fancy costume which stood out from the others she was given the main part.
My sister who was one year older got fancy matching earrings, necklace and bracelet set from Auntie one Christmas . I got matching vest and pants.
The thing that hurt the most was when at secondary school. They used to take those long whole school photos every other year. When my sister was in year 7 they took the school photo and my parents bought it. They skipped them a year later when I was in year 7 and took them the following year when I was in year 8 and sister was in year 9. I asked my parents if they were going to buy one , and Mum said no because we already have one. I replied "But I'm not in that one." To which Mum replied "It's not all about you dear". That is when I realised that she was right and it was , in fact all about my sister. They could easily have waited a year as there would have still have been two years when we would both have been included.

I had a 6th birthday party and the cake was white with a plastic ballerina figurine and one beautiful iced flower (it was a plain cake except for the ballerina and flower). After I blew out the candles my Mum started walking back to the kitchen to cut the cake when my friend stopped and asked for the flower - my mum said yes and she plucked it off the cake right there and ate it.

I remember being so upset, I thought the birthday girl should get the pretty flower from the cake??

(We are still friends and while at her engagement party a few years back she saved the iced Lily from the cake for me)

My mum was away on an extended holiday when it was my 18th birthday. She sent a card but told me that 18 isn't really a special birthday, it's 21 that's important. A month later I was told I could choose a present from the Avon book. When it was delivered 2 weeks later I had to pay as mum had no money on her. Never did get the money back.
On my 21st got told no one really celebrates their 21st now because they do it on their 18th!

I am in hospital having just given birth to my DD, two days beforehand. My SIL and BIL come to visit, and SIL spends the entire visit talking about her daughter's wedding, which I knew all about because I had been to the month before thank you very much. She ignored me entirely.

I was in too much of a state - long birth, feeding problems - to say anything at all and now if I said something I would seem like a loon. But I still resent her for it with every fibre of my being.

Many years ago (over 45 years !) I took two of our guinea-pigs to a local petshow .
There were about 5-6 in the show . Ours were very nicely presented glossy fur , well trimmed claws , clean .

The 'judge' gave the prize to the oldest piggie there even though it wasn't as well kept as ours .. purely because it was the oldest .
It stung !

When I took the 11 plus you took 3 papers - English, Maths and General Knowledge. I failed. One of my former teachers who upgraded to the school I attended was astonished that I had failed and looked into my marks. The rule then was that you had to pass each paper. I had failed maths by 2%, If I had been rated on aggregate I would have passed easily. The next year they changed the regulations. I always resented that.

Whenever I was revising for my GCE my father made me put my books away and go and help my mother in the kitchen. I had to revise in my grandmothers house. As a result I have always loathed anything to do with housework and I employ a cleaner now. My father did not want me to get on because it was "posh" and "stuck up" to work in a profession. I went to uni later as a mature student and gained a doctorate only a few years before he died. I dont think he ever really valued it.

I was the second youngest in the year. The youngest was 10 days younger than me, but everything she ever did was better because with ‘she’s the youngest’. I found out when I had my DCs (age 32) that I was actually prem so adjusted age i was actually the youngest.

I also held a bitter grudge against the oldest in the year as her birthday was the first week of September and two months after mine. As soon as I turned whatever age, we’d break up for holidays then when we came back she was bloody older.

Mind you, I was a bit smug when she turned 50 nearly a year before me.

@SoundBar thank you for validating me

@RuthW

When I was 12 I was in last year at middle school (I'm 53 now) and we had a new headmaster.

We did an hour long sponsored silence in the hall. Five mins before the end he threw me out for talking, however I did not say a word or make a sound. I have never forgotten it. It really upset me.

I had to go and stand outside the head's office for talking during silent time. It wasn't me, it was the girl behind who went on to marry the head's son. I declined her Facebook friend request years later for not admitting it was her. So, yes I'm petty too. (She was and still is a knob).

Yes !

I was asked to come to a meeting with my teacher and my mum , one day out of the blue , in year 6

When i got there , my teacher started shouting, saying i obviously never practiced my spellings because of the poor spelling , and my mum agreed , saying i had told her i did my homework at brake time - i never said any such thing !!!

She went on to accuse me of signing my mums name in my homework book, as it was in blue pencil. I remember my mum signing!! And her huffing because i couldn't find a pen for her .

Grrrrrrrrr

I have dyslexia which was discovered at college.

And i hope that year six teacher is ashamed of herself.

I dont have a really good relationship with my mum as an adult , not just because of the pencil crayon

Christmas assembly at primary school. We had all been practicing our Christmas songs and everyone was so excited. Fab Teacher did lots of musical activities with us in her own time, taught us guitar and the recorder. We were so proud of our recorder club! Anyway, we had joined the rest of the class sitting cross legged in the floor, singing all the Christmas hymns, and we were so happy swaying along with the music. The teacher whispered urgently for us to stop swaying.

Went back to class, and the headmaster appeared at the door. He was apoplectic with rage. Said we had ruined the concert, and hoped we all had a horrible Christmas!

We were all so upset, especially the recorder group who had practiced for months to make the concert special.

It still stings to this day. What a horrible man. Our teacher was horrified and almost cried.

Myself and an in law had milestone birthdays in the same year. Hers was first. She emailed us a gift wish list - nothing under £50. I was a bit 🙄.We ended up buying her the perfume/body lotion gift set she wanted for £75.... I got an oven glove from Tesco. 10 years later same thing... gift list full of wondrous things... She got a £20 John Lewis gift card. I got a mug with my initial on it 😂😂

Primary school.

Sent out of the classroom for knowing the answers because it upset the children who didn’t (no, I wasn’t shouting them out).

Secondary school.

Detention for shouting at the boy who was sexually assaulting me. I should have put up with it because he found the work hard and it wasn’t fair.

On my 18th birthday my mother came to visit me in the lodgings in London where I had been parked after my parents decided to move counties in the middle of my A levels. She told me solemnly that if I decided to go to University I should not expect to find my father alive when I came back, and watched as tears streamed down my face. (not sure why all the tears in retrospect but I did believe her at the time and was very shocked - however that's another story and he managed another 20 years so ah well). My 18th birthday present from both parents which she had brought with her on the train was six second hand dessert plates. Not dinner plates, which might have been some use, but some dessert plates suitable for all the fruit and cakes I might want to serve at all the dinner parties I might go on to have in the - at that time - very murky future.

I was reminded of the existence of the plates at a recent visit to mum's, and that I had told her "you might as well have these back" at the time, resulting in some comments about being ungrateful, because I was offered some food by my sister on one of them. The plates look to be in good condition. I care not really, now, as I choose whatever I like within my means and have reasonably nice things. Also relationship with mum has improved 10-fold since she started to need my input, and we are rock-steady now in terms of to-and-fro. She regularly gives me kind cash gifts which are utterly unprompted. Such a different set-up compared to then.

I've name changed for this as it is so outing and lots of people know the story

Aged about 14 or so I was staying with best best mate at her grannie's in the summer holiday and we were playing scrabble with her grannie and grannie's long term partner, a former headmaster and a very didactic pompous man. I used the word "id' and he said it wasn't a word. I told him what it means and where it came from and with great sanctimony he explained that it was only a game and I really didn't need to make things up. I was mortified and said it would be in the dictionary. I watched in horror as he fetched an ancient black leather volume of The King's English that dated from the early 1900s and of course it wasn't there.
I've never recovered and contrary to my temporary username I remain bitter.