What are your “Rules For Life?”

[Topia]

I’ve got Jordan B Peterson’s book “12 Rules For Life,” & some resonate, others not so much. But it got me thinking - everyone has a set of rules they adhere to, whether subconsciously or consciously. What are your “Rules For Life?” Mine;

Simplify simplify simplify. Otherwise I get stressed & don’t enjoy what I’m doing.

Keep out of other people’s business as it doesn’t enrich your life to be nosey/interfering & others don’t appreciate a busybody.

Save money.

Sacrifice today for tomorrow - in other words work hard now, reap the benefits later.

Show your kids affection & love. Everything else comes second, or can right itself in time.

Own your decisions.

And lastly, don’t sacrifice real life for work. Work is important but it shouldn’t trump your happiness, or your desire to do the things that you will regret not doing when you’re older.

What about others?

Never order the house wine

Don't be a dick

Time is the single most important thing I have. So I try not to waste time. I try to relax and view rest as time well spent. I love spending time with my kids. Time on my own, time with my husband, time with my sister.

You can't get time back.

Dont tolerate cunts

Work hard.

Prioritise the people you love.

Look after your health.

Have your own life/interests/ambitions and don't try to live through others.

Treat other people with respect, even if you don't like them.

Do as much as you can to help and boost other people, without necessarily expecting anything in return.

Build community.

I don't have any, but I disagree with a few of yours.

Don't be nosey - no, don't really agree, curiosity is good.

Sacrifice today for tomorrow - in other words work hard now, reap the benefits later.
Nope. You never know what the future will bring. Don't have a shit life now when you may be dead tomorrow. Don't go completely to the other extreme either of course.

I suppose I do have some rules, but I can't think what they are for the moment...

@Givemethatknife

Never order the house wine

Ha ha. Mine is to always order the house wine. More expensive doesn't mean better.

Make the bed every day, its a good habit and sets the tone for the day.

Work before fun.

Keep within your budget.

Tell DH and SC that I love them every day.

Also, prioritise experiences over stuff.

I'm just going to make some up now

1 - Do it now. Today is for living.
2 - Keep in touch with people. Invest in friends.
3 - Time is more important than money. Give your time.
4 - Integrity above all. Be a good person. Don't do things for show. Just do the right thing.
5 - Don't complain about something you haven't tried to change.
6 - Be you. No one else has to be you, they don't know what it is like. So don't try to be like them.
7 - Be adventurous. Life is for living, discovering. Be brave and take risks. Otherwise what are you doing?
8 - Never be a big fish in a small pond. If you are at the top of your game, change it. Move about and put yourself in uncomfortable positions. Find out who you really are and be humble.

Time is your greatest currency
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Breathe

Be nice and work hard.

Get comfortable within yourself so you don't have to be shitty to others.

Always order the house wine. The sommelier has chosen that wine to be at an affordable price point balanced with good quality.

@Topia do you know he's really right wing?

Do your best.
Good manners and education are two things that no one can ever take away from you.
Put your hand up when you've made a mistake and take responsibility for it.
Don't get in the mud with a pig. You'll only get dirty and the pig will enjoy it.
Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do.

[quote Flatdisco]@Topia do you know he's really right wing?[/quote]
So?

@AlfonsoTheMango some people don't like wildly misogynistic right wing men, so I thought it was worth putting out there. Obviously some people think those views are fine. One of my rules for life is to avoid people like that.

"Good manners and education are two things that no one can ever take away from you."

Not really true. The standards for manners and education change all the time. A person considered well educated 50 years ago wouldn't be now.

Don't poke a lion with a pointed stick.

I've never done this and I'm OK so it seems to be a pretty good rule of life.

You can't find time, you have to make it

Everything has a consequence

Don't spend so much time thinking of tomorrow you don't enjoy today (the opposite of your sacrifice one! I don't live with no regards to the future, see #2, but I don't see the point in sacrificing today for some future that might never happen.)

Communicate openly and honestly, even if you're the only one doing so. I find most things in life that cause problems are down to misunderstandings. So long I know I've been as open and honest as I can ice done my best to solve what I can.

If you died tomorrow, your job would be advertised and filled within a month, if not a week. They don't care about you, so be careful how much you care about them. And on the same line, all those extra half an hour's tacked onto your working day are evenings with your family and friends you will never get back. To your company they're just numbers on a page. Which is more important.

Value your own time and respect the time of others.
Always be honest.
Always be curious.
Compromise doesn't mean being unhappy.
Life is in the planning.
If you aren't sure about a man, he's the wrong one.
Love your children unconditionally.
Everything in moderation, including the sun.
If you can't pay cash, you can't afford it (notwithstanding emergencies - tyres, washing machine etc).

Tell the truth
Tell the truth
Tell the truth
Tell the truth

If your child comes to you, the first thing they should see is that you love them.

Be prepared.

The only things I really stick to are;

-never bitch about someone behind their back (unless to DH who usually is not listening)

-Never pass on gossip.

The rule of life I would like to pay more attention to is;

have more fun'.