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What are your “Rules For Life?”

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Topia · 29/08/2021 12:47

I’ve got Jordan B Peterson’s book “12 Rules For Life,” & some resonate, others not so much. But it got me thinking - everyone has a set of rules they adhere to, whether subconsciously or consciously. What are your “Rules For Life?” Mine;

Simplify simplify simplify. Otherwise I get stressed & don’t enjoy what I’m doing.

Keep out of other people’s business as it doesn’t enrich your life to be nosey/interfering & others don’t appreciate a busybody.

Save money.

Sacrifice today for tomorrow - in other words work hard now, reap the benefits later.

Show your kids affection & love. Everything else comes second, or can right itself in time.

Own your decisions.

And lastly, don’t sacrifice real life for work. Work is important but it shouldn’t trump your happiness, or your desire to do the things that you will regret not doing when you’re older.

What about others?

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joystir59 · 29/08/2021 18:23

Love with all your heart
Live with all your being
Because you WILL die one day

Helocariad · 29/08/2021 18:23

Don't tolerate abusive behaviour. Don't be an enabler to abusive people.

Votrrrer · 29/08/2021 18:23

My rules are connected with my kids

  1. eat a balance diet which includes no hidden vegs or fruits. I want them to see what they are eating so I don’t hide any of these. Chocolate/ice cream/crisps all in moderation. They can have whatever they want, I don’t control them. We stick to making good choices which makes us grow nicely

  2. exercise daily

  3. do homework

  4. not too much screen/ more listening to radio

  5. look after our teeth/hair/body

  6. good sleeping habit.

The one that I go by with my husband is to have a good healthy sex life which makes us both happy.

felulageller · 29/08/2021 18:24

Take care of yourself first

Reach for the stars- if you fail you could still land on the moon

Nurture friendships

Don't sweat the small stuff

Enjoy life

Stop to smell the flowers

joystir59 · 29/08/2021 18:24

Believe people who disclose historic child sexual abuse- disclosing is an unimaginably courageous and hard won thing

joystir59 · 29/08/2021 18:26

It's ok to save your time and energy for the people and activities that nourish you.

joystir59 · 29/08/2021 18:27

Generosity is never wrong

joystir59 · 29/08/2021 18:27

Don't be a whinger!

TheVolturi · 29/08/2021 18:30

I always think this was some good advice 😂

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97
Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine

Don't worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying
Is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life
Are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours

Floss

Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements

Stretch

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life
The most interesting people I know
Didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get
The more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Travel

Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And children respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run out

Don't mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will look 85

Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth

But trust me on the sunscreen

QuattroFormaggi · 29/08/2021 18:32
  1. Listen/read what lots of different people have to say (yes, even Jordan Peterson). That way you can form your own balanced opinions without being stuck in your own echo-chamber). Listening to or reading someone does not mean you agree with them. Remember that even a broken clock is right twice a day.
  1. Live for today. Don't plan stuff for "when I retire" or "when the kids are older" etc. Happiness ain't at the end of the road: Happiness IS the road. If you can afford it and it won't dent your life, DO IT NOW.
  1. Every day is a new day. A chance to finish what we started, or made a mess of, yesterday. A chance to reset the grumpy child, the difficult colleague, or the dick you married Grin
Zelvinka · 29/08/2021 18:42

My life rules are to make life more pleasant & enjoyable, especially remembering that you only have one life & life is short.

Only do a job / have a career you actually enjoy. You spend a lot of your life at work so don't waste your time being miserable.

Don't waste time on a relationship that doesn't enhance your life.

Spend every spare day off as if you were on holiday! (Ok a self catering holiday).. Go to a coffee shop, walk somewhere pleasant, rest & relax, see friends, play loud music, just enjoy life!!

Behave in a pleasant, caring way, don't bitch. Be kind to other people & animals. Be assertive & confident without being nasty & aggressive.

Bluebellsinparadise · 29/08/2021 18:49

Be yourself, everyone else is taken.

Love people, use things. Not the other way around.

Do not stay in the same job or organisation for years and years ... loyalty does not pay nowadays and generally does you more harm than good (obviously there are exceptions, but in my working life this has proven true for me and others).

Don’t dwell on things too much. Ask yourself whether the issue/ person taking up so much space will matter in 5 years.

Always make time for your children and exercise. No excuses.

Shout about your professional accomplishments.... don’t assume people will notice them by chance. You won’t get on without selling yourself.

Your job and you career are two separate things. Just doing your job, will not ensure career success. It’s frustrating that your professional results will often not speak for themselves and you need to actively manage your career like a second job.

If you hate having your photo taken because you think you look old/ fat... think about how grateful you’d feel to look like you do today in 15 years time. Take the photo!

tattymacduff · 29/08/2021 18:52

Don't waste time arguing with strangers on the internet...Blush

Look after your gums.

Mindyourbusiness22 · 29/08/2021 18:52
  1. Don’t stress about things out with your control.
  2. If you want something make it happen, do not rely on anyone else
  3. Don’t be a dick
  4. If you are a dick, recognise it, apologise, learn
SpecificPacific · 29/08/2021 18:55

DC will always be the main priority.

Buy best that I can afford/avoid cheap shit.

Always earn my own money/make sure I can walk away from my marriage if needed and be financially independent and secure. Install this ethos in DC.

Never eat anything that had to be slaughtered to end up on my plate.

Never watch reality TV or go on FB.

Read as much as possible.

Always consider other points of view. Always make kindness a priority but don’t put up with crap from anyone.

Never, ever get a caravan.

Marchingredsoldiers · 29/08/2021 18:57

never invade Russia in the winter

I love that. It reminds me of my first lecture in my chemistry degree. Tin changes structure at a certain temperature below zero to become a powder. Tin buttons holding uniforms together disintergrate in the russian winter.

SwimmingUnderwater · 29/08/2021 19:02

@3GreenPullups

Oh, on a previous similar thread someone posted that their rule was 'never invade Russia in the winter'.

That appeals enormously to my sense of humour. So maybe another rule should be 'laugh more'. :)

Mine too!

Mine are:

Be honest with others and with yourself

Don’t do things you don’t want to do to please other people. Unless it’s work related.

Tell your loved ones you love them frequently but more importantly, show them.

Don’t live your live through others. Have your own adventures , push your boundaries, get out of your comfort zone. Playing it safe is a recipe for regrets and bitterness.

If a man isn’t kind to his mother and his birth family , run a mile. Likewise, if he doesn’t like animals.

Be compassionate towards others. You don’t know their full sorry. Don’t hold grudges.

Don’t be a mug. Don’t let people use you or take advantage. At the same time be generous and kind.

Read , read, read. Listen to others. Really listen to them.

Do yoga.

AlfonsoTheMango · 29/08/2021 19:06

1. Listen/read what lots of different people have to say (yes, even Jordan Peterson). That way you can form your own balanced opinions without being stuck in your own echo-chamber). Listening to or reading someone does not mean you agree with them.

I agree with everything you said except "even a broken clock is right twice a day" (which is why I edited it out) because that conflates 'agreeing with' and 'being right'.

mistermagpie · 29/08/2021 19:23

I'll do my own personal ones:

It's ok to never see someone again, even if you are related to them.

Look after your body.

Enjoy your whole life, not just your holidays.

Have the baby, she will be worth it.

QuattroFormaggi · 29/08/2021 19:36

@AlfonsoTheMango

1. Listen/read what lots of different people have to say (yes, even Jordan Peterson). That way you can form your own balanced opinions without being stuck in your own echo-chamber). Listening to or reading someone does not mean you agree with them.

I agree with everything you said except "even a broken clock is right twice a day" (which is why I edited it out) because that conflates 'agreeing with' and 'being right'.

Yeah you're right, and I should have separated those two things! On the odd occasion that I concur with something Owen Jones says, I have to remind myself about broken clocks Grin Also "the important thing is to realise WHAT is right, rather than WHO is right"
3GreenPullups · 29/08/2021 19:43

Also;

Never discount a rebound as a longer term love.

Dh and I were each other's rebound relationships. He was newly divorced and I was newly dumped. We spent the first 6 months of our relationship crying on each others shoulders about our respective 'losses'.

18 years together, 14 years married, 2 DCs, 3 countries later and he is the love of my life. :)

paintedpanda · 29/08/2021 19:55

Don't argue with idiots.

Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice.

AlfonsoTheMango · 29/08/2021 20:05

I like your style, @QuattroFormaggi, as well as your username. A cheese lover, after my own heart.

QuattroFormaggi · 29/08/2021 20:36

@AlfonsoTheMango

I like your style, *@QuattroFormaggi*, as well as your username. A cheese lover, after my own heart.
Lols I can't bear mangos! Or blueberries. Which is ironic considering they are STBExH's fave fruits GrinGrin Quattro Formaggi was my favourite Pizza Express pizza before they were trendy and shrank their pizzas Oh, thought of another rule:

There is nothing that can't be improved by the addition of Reblochon

HelloMissus · 29/08/2021 20:41

You’ve got to be in it to win it.
Seriously, go for every opportunity no matter how unlikely.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Perfectionism is the enemy of achievement.
Don’t go to bed on an argument.
It’s all over too quickly.