What are your “Rules For Life?”

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I’ve got Jordan B Peterson’s book “12 Rules For Life,” & some resonate, others not so much. But it got me thinking - everyone has a set of rules they adhere to, whether subconsciously or consciously. What are your “Rules For Life?” Mine;

Simplify simplify simplify. Otherwise I get stressed & don’t enjoy what I’m doing.

Keep out of other people’s business as it doesn’t enrich your life to be nosey/interfering & others don’t appreciate a busybody.

Save money.

Sacrifice today for tomorrow - in other words work hard now, reap the benefits later.

Show your kids affection & love. Everything else comes second, or can right itself in time.

Own your decisions.

And lastly, don’t sacrifice real life for work. Work is important but it shouldn’t trump your happiness, or your desire to do the things that you will regret not doing when you’re older.

What about others?

Never go to bed angry. Even if I don't resolve the issue I take time to calm myself and relax so I don't go to bed angry.

Pick your battles. Sometimes if all your kid wants to eat is a cheese butty when you've lovingly slaved over a roast dinner, so what?

Follow your instincts

Only listen to the advice you ask for

Also, don't eat anything bigger than your head. I make an exception for pizza - it's wider than my face, it it's only 2 dimensions so doesn't count.

Let it go and don't sweat the small stuff

I learnt the first after my DH died suddenly. Life is way too short to harbor grudges/angst on petty stuff. So much drama these days, such little time to live.

@Musmerian

Don’t take advice from a dangerous misogynist would be pretty high up on my agenda. He’s a pretty despicable human OP - perhaps you should research him further, also 5 and 9 contradict each other.

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Think what my mother would have done and then do the opposite (when dealing with my adult daughters)

Just making these up now, but I probably do live by them.

1. Never be a slave to a piece of furniture or a house. If looking after it is breaking you, get rid of it and move on. If your partner insists on meals at the table and you're feeling so tense you can't eat, go and eat on the settee. Because eating as a family doesn't have to happen at a table.

1. You'll never regret brushing your teeth.

1. Use a thing and put it back where it lives = 2 jobs. Use a thing, put it somewhere else, then put it back where it lives = 3 jobs. Don't increase your workload by 33%.

Does anyone eat a whole watermelon though in one sitting? A large watermelon surpasses the size of one’s head but surely you cut the melon into segments and eat those!! Rather than the whole melon

"Never eat anything bigger than your head" was the title of a book, IIRC.

Its better to do something and regret it than regret not doing it.

Never rely solely on others. Obviously most people need some sort of help from time to time whether its watch the DCs or help to carry something, but never expect it.

Only give what you can afford (time, money, experience etc) and never expect it back. If it comes back then its good, but don't expect it.

Never ever ever bitch about someone behind their back no matter how horrible you think they are.

There are some excellent ideas on this thread.

Let it go and don't sweat the small stuff

Or, as we say in my family "Don't sweat the petty stuff and don't pet the sweaty stuff".

"Its better to do something and regret it than regret not doing it."

Depends what it is.

Be true to yourself.
If it feels wrong, it probably is.
Don't make promises you can't keep.

1. Treat everyone like I want to be treated until they show me they don't deserve it.
2. Be careful what you focus on because what you focus on grows, positive AND negative. (Wish I followed this more carefully)
3. Keep life simple, don't skip important due diligence because of impatience and wanting something.
4. Choose carefully the people you surround yourself with. Drama is of zero interest to me.
5. Care for people who need it (but try not to place yourself in others pain, it's not yours!).
6. Always have a safe place you can be when needing comfort.
7. Your kids are not you and deserve respect and freedom to be themselves.
8. You don't have to be perfect, just not do anything that unfairly impacts other people (husband, kids, friends etc).

Oh and the most important, be bloody careful what man you tie yourself to with marriage or worse, kids. How he treats you will decide the happiness of the rest of your life.

I only have 2 rules

1. Don't tell people everything you know

Do no harm
Be kind
Don't judge other people
Be true to yourself
Live in the moment
Value friendship

Just felt the need to share this

@ufucoffee

I only have 2 rules

1. Don't tell people everything you know

Brilliant

As Pam Ayres says, ‘look after your teeth’.

Don't worry about what others think of you or say about you

Does your number 7 not contradict your number 4 🤔

Give if you can afford to: don't lend.

Keep an open mind.
Never say never
Nurture your inner child and never let go of it
Feel anxious but still get on and do it!

Another one. If a victim of abuse tells you what happened to them, believe them and don't try to pressure them into disclosing to anyone else, not even the police.