I would appreciate some perspective please because I'm so upset this morning but it appears I'm the only one who is.
My DSC have been dragged through hell over the past 18 months with police and social services involvement, they have only recently been downgraded from a child protection plan to a child in need one.
It emerged that their mothers step dad, so their 'grandad' is a convicted paedophile who served time in prison for abusing children he was in a position of trust with.
DSC mum believed it was all false allegations and facilitated a relationship between him and DSC, who are two young boys (like his victims were). She allowed the boys to go and visit her mum and step dad alone and stay over without her. I didn't know about any of this, it all came to light out of the blue one day when OH received a call from SS.
The police obtained information that this man was now talking inappropriately to children on the internet and his home was raided.
During the search they took his devices and uncovered inappropriate photos of DSC naked on one or more of these devices. He was arrested and is still on bail over a year later having been re-bailed.
His wife, DSC maternal grandmother, remains married to him and living with him.
DSC mum had to work with SS to show them that she understood the risk and would never allow DSC to be around him again, after quite some time they were satisfied and downgraded from CP to CIN.
The boys were traumatised by the investigations as they thought they were going to be taken away, the eldest developed awful anxiety and the youngest who is autistic is still having to have therapy in school now to deal with the emotional damage.
We were due to have them over tonight to stay but OH announced we'd probably be having them Saturday instead, when I asked why he said it's because his ex called this morning and said she wants him to see if he can swap his days at work and have them then so she can go and visit her mum and step dad.
I'm gob smacked and gutted that after everything the children have been through she still thinks it's appropriate to have anything to do with this man.
I went off on a bit of a tirade and all OH offered to the conversation was "well atleast she's not taking the kids"
So she says. But what if he can't get the night off work? She clearly sees nothing wrong in continuing to have a relationship and be around this bastard regardless of what he's done.
Am I over stepping the mark? Should I be minding my own business?
I just can't wrap my head round the stupidity and selfishness of DSC mum, and her mum, who care more about keeping a paedophile in their lives than they care about these poor fucking children.