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Poster I often think about...

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CamperVan79 · 23/08/2021 01:00

It's the lady from the chutney threads. I read all her threads and kept up with her son being born and all the other things that happened and I often think of her and wonder if she's ok. He must be at least 8 by now

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Dragon50 · 24/08/2021 07:50

@VeryLongBeeeeep another BESH here!

Took me 8 years, many cycles and MC but we got there! Off soon for a final FET.

lunar1 · 24/08/2021 07:50

I wonder about the lady who's husband had a completely locked room in their house that she'd never even peeked in.

I also wonder if Lou's husband ever had Karma bite him in the ass, if he's still with the OW, there was also a lady posted on those threads who's ex husband was a similar asshole, he and the ow used to tread the dd appalling but she still had to be send for contact. I'm sure her name had sky in it.

CaveMum · 24/08/2021 08:11

@VeryLongBeeeeep

Members of the BESH from the Conception board. I was a long time lurker, willing them all on to win their baybees. I sometimes see Eurochick and CaveMum still posting, but I often wonder about how some of the others like Ginhag, Ariesgirl, MadameBoo, LauraPalmer, CockDodger and others are getting on.
Wotcha @VeryLongBeeeeep! A few of us moved over to Facebook, though I’ve lost track of what everyone’s usernames were so can’t quite piece together real names to MN names!

I know a few of them lurk on here so will give them a nudge Wink

TacoSunday · 24/08/2021 08:15

Has CogitoErgoSometimes been mentioned? She posted regularly on the relationships board giving people advice and helping them process their feelings. When my marriage was breaking down she replied to my post and I still think about her. I hope she is a counsellor because she had a real gift for it.

disco123 · 24/08/2021 08:15

@Winterjoy

I think I know the one you mean and if so, the last I read was social services/family courts had agreed that the father was not to have any contact any longer

Thanks @disco123. I hope it's the same one and that her nightmare ended. All I can remember is that the username had Baby in it somewhere.

Yes, that was the one. Baby name change . Her later threads are gone now - I guess with the 30 days thing.
nettie434 · 24/08/2021 08:15

I'd never seen EMIN's posts which were long before I joined. Thanks for that link BoreofWhabylon. What an incredible life and it's amazing to think how many babies who are now adults she helped.

I also found gojetters' posts incredibly moving - what an amazing family. Less emotional, and I'm not sure how it ended, I think about the person who had a relative to stay for weeks - possibly a sister in law - who stayed in bed all day.

Somebody revived a zombie thread from eyebrows who had posted about her decision to leave her husband and she replied. She had made a new start and things were better for all of them now, so that was good.

A thread that made me sad was from someone who was getting married. She and her about to be husband had very limited incomes and the plan was to have a small restaurant meal for close friends and family. She posted asking if she would be AIBU to pay for guests' meals and ask them to pay for drinks. Even though it was clear that everyone who would be there would be a close friend/family member, she got so many replies saying she was cheap, should pay for drinks etc. I felt so sorry for her.

A more jolly wedding thread was from someone who was having a very small wedding in Scotland. She did not have any family with whom she was in touch and she had invited two mumsnetters to be the witnesses. Everything went well and the bride posted a lovely photo of her wedding wellies (necessary apparently) and the bottom of her dress taken when she was walking to the remote Scottish venue where they got married.

CaveMum · 24/08/2021 08:26

Finally read the whole thread after posting excitedly at the first mention of the BESH! So lovely to see lots of old ESH as well as former lurkers.

Fish slaps for all the hags!

WTFIsTheAnswerToThis · 24/08/2021 08:31

The only person I think who hasn't been mentioned (I think) was Gglimpo (sp?) and Mile for Maud. I think we could buy MN bags and mugs then too?

I don't miss this poster, but does anyone remember DaftPunk - she is the only MNer to actually make me cry in a bad way, when she said no one will say it, but no one secretly wants their DC to sit next to an SN DC at school. I think I got deleted for calling her a cunt, which still rankles, although I think she was finally banned.

Geamhradh · 24/08/2021 08:41

@WTFIsTheAnswerToThis

The only person I think who hasn't been mentioned (I think) was Gglimpo (sp?) and Mile for Maud. I think we could buy MN bags and mugs then too?

I don't miss this poster, but does anyone remember DaftPunk - she is the only MNer to actually make me cry in a bad way, when she said no one will say it, but no one secretly wants their DC to sit next to an SN DC at school. I think I got deleted for calling her a cunt, which still rankles, although I think she was finally banned.

Yes! And I remember that exact thread. She started the thread saying something like she'd heard that there were going to be a "lot" of "SN" kids at her son's school and what should she do. Wide eyed fucking innocent fascist disablist troll. What always amazed me was that back in the day she had quite a solid group of well known "mates" on MN and iirc went to meet-ups and everything, and everyone would say "awww she's so lovely when you meet her" I used to set the timer for how long it would take for her sock "friend" Harleydavidson to come into a thread and a) agree with her extremist offensive views b) attack anyone saying "don't you think you're being offensive

Yuck.

JadeSeahorse · 24/08/2021 08:43

I often think about PurpleUnicorn and her family. 😢

I spotted her original post about feeling unwell by accident and followed it the whole way through. Turns out she had cervical cancer which became terminal but the poor girl suffered terribly before she died less than 2 years after her initial post.

She was only 35 with a teenage son and a new DH. Heartbreaking but she was so brave and so supportive of others who had just been diagnosed.

Fabuluce · 24/08/2021 08:43

Another BESHer here. I skipped to the end to quickly respond after a nudge from @CaveMum and now realise I need to read through and see how other former members are getting on! I had 6 rounds of IVF in the end, with 2 eshlet wins.

WTFIsTheAnswerToThis · 24/08/2021 08:46

Goodness, I just looked back and Mile for Maud was 2007. 15 years ago, I can't believe it.

Jng1 · 24/08/2021 08:49

If you’ve been around as long as I have (20+ years in different guises?) you’ll remember a poster called cod who was a prolific poster in the early days. I used to interact with her a lot and I felt we’d really get on if we ever met in real life!
Unfortunately she disappeared after the Moldies/Moldiegate breakaway (anyone remember that?)
I sometimes wonder who she was and what she’s doing now!

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 24/08/2021 08:57

I've been on MN for ages and my only deletions for "forthright" comments were my responses to Daft Punk.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 24/08/2021 08:59

Jng1 - I had half a suspicion that Cod was someone at MNHQ stirring things up - or should that be stiirrng thnigs up

Jng1 · 24/08/2021 09:03

@ChazsBrilliantAttitude

Jng1 - I had half a suspicion that Cod was someone at MNHQ stirring things up - or should that be stiirrng thnigs up
Yes, I wondered that too! Also there was something about her that had a journalistic style and I wonder if all the spelling mistakes were a ruse? It seems all her posts have now been withdrawn/deleted?
DottyHarmer · 24/08/2021 09:04

I've been here almost as long and, I must admit, was rather irritated by the fangirl thing about cod. And no one could type in that "Oh, I'm getting it all muddled up" way not on purpose. (I hope she's not here reading this!)

I didn't participate in the Moldies thing. I can imagine someone would be a bit upset if they were a "known" poster and hadn't received a secret invite over to the trendy forum. Just like being back at school.... I wasn't a prolific poster and name changed a few times, so that justifies why I didn't make the cut Hmm !!

lorca · 24/08/2021 09:06

Jng1 - I was just about to come on and remember iCod! She got tracked down in RL IIRC and had to disappear (think she was a Barrister) but had a very distinct posting style!

Also remember Onlyjoking and her DH, although I'm sure I saw her on MN only a few weeks ago. It must have been years ago we all ate pineapple one evening, for her dying DH. Sad

Remember WavesandSmiles who married the 'love of her life' who turned out to be a controlling bastard. I met her in RL, though she was pretty curt with me after that Hmm haven't seen her since.

How about TwittleBee? Not sure what happened with TwittleWood?
Someone called Lavender-something who fled Dubai with
her children, back to the UK.
Another (can't remember the name, lil-something) who also was encouraged to leave her bastard controlling Dp and he tracked her down and raped her. Her 'sister' came on and said she'd committed suicide - I really hope she was a troll. She also had a distinctive posting style, and I think I've seen her about.

A few names from the distant past - LittleLapin, who became a Moderator I beleive. CountessDracula. Greensleeves was hilarious. SoupDragon.

I've namechanged a lot since then and maybe so have they.

Geamhradh · 24/08/2021 09:19

The mythology has it Cod was areal life friend or acquaintance of either Justine or Olivia back in the day. There was something about her being outed in real life (to do with her job iirc) which is probably why posts under that name were removed. Still here hidden in plain sight. Doesn't quite get the reactions she was used to back in her glory days. Maybe the MN "hive" has realised it's actually not very nice to slag off other women's style and beauty choices.

venusandmars · 24/08/2021 09:37

@nettie434 I was one of the witnesses. The bride, and both witnesses all doing well. It was a great day, very happy memories.

YellowMugPuffin · 24/08/2021 09:38

@imjustsoworried

I often think of cat and her daughter mini. I hope they're doing ok.
@imjustsoworried I know Catlady in real life. Mini's 6 now and just about to start Year 2, both doing well. No idea how she hasn't slapped her ExH or Ex-MIL yet but there you go. Mini is still as hilarious as ever.

She still posts under a name change and changes details.

Peridot1 · 24/08/2021 09:40

Cod was a magistrate not a barrister. She’s on Twitter now mostly with some other old MNers. She’s also a teacher.

rainbowstardrops · 24/08/2021 09:42

*Oh yes the ducks on the lake lady. I loved that thread too - does anyone have a link?

@ShellyShore* someone has already posted a link to the current thread. She is also on Instagram - 'A year on the pond' I think?
Love reading the updates!

Ourlady · 24/08/2021 10:08

I often think of Witches and Wizards. She posted so frequently about her awful situation in NZ then just disappeared.
I really hope she managed to get home to see her parents and that her situation improved.

weebarra · 24/08/2021 10:31

So many!
Biscuitsandbandages was diagnosed with cancer just after I was, also with a tiny baby. That was heartbreaking. Lots of others on the cancer threads, like Zombie, Leslie, wine and TwitterQueen who are all no longer with us.
Mrs DV and her beloved Billie who I know through other SM.
Dittany, expat, trazzletoes ❤️