My husband likes them done...

[ToomuchHeat]

Should this have annoyed me?
In salon for a facial (my choice cos my skin is messed up at the moment).

A lady getting her nails done just asked if she's come for a special occasion and she was like 'no my husband likes them done' jeez

@CaptSkippy

It's pretty sad if that is her only reason. I would at least hope he shows her the same consideration.

Yes he’s next door at the barbers having sequins stuck to his bollocks.

Eye roll.

I like my husband with a beard - he would prefer to be clean shaven, but keeps it for me. He likes my hair long and I would prefer it shorter but I keep it long because I know he likes it. There is a lot more to our relationship than physical attractiveness, but I don't see anything wrong with making an effort and looking nice for your partner, as well as for yourself.

@Galassia, I don't know if you intended it or not, but you made me laugh. Now I will not rest till I have seen a man with sequined balls.

God sake what is the problem - so she's getting her nails done because her husband likes them done, not as if she's cutting her bloody head off is it!

Fuck me.
A woman was asked if she was having her nails done for a special occasion and the woman replies no, she was having them done because her husband likes them done.
The woman who did the nails and the woman who had the nails done had this exchange today and have not had one single thought about it since and never will again.
The woman who had the nails done for her husband is at home now probably with the husband who likes her nails done admiring the nails. He knows nothing about today's conversation at the salon and never will. Do you know why? Because nobody in their house will ever even think about it again. Not even once probably. Well not unless it happens next time she has them done and then she will mentally reflect that she said that last time and cringe a bit inside or possibly laugh about it, truthfully I don't know which way it could go.

But you OP decided to create a nasty thead about her, mocking her marriage and her life.
A four page thread no less, where only about two posters agreed with your way of thinking.

@Keepitonthedownlow

If it was just the nails I might be OK but there’s a good chance she probably does her hair, fake tan, teeth whitening and no doubt anus bleaching "for him" too.

How the fuck do you know that some random stranger no doubt has their arsehole bleached? What a ridiculous comment.

@PurpleDaisies

Modern feminists don’ t seem to be interested in real issues nowadays but are hellbent on nitpicking anyone who has traditional values etc.

What a load of bollocks.

Agreed

I like to look nice for my husband, not just him of course, but I do live with him and the DC. I always ask how he thinks I look before I go out, if I really liked it and he didn't, I would still go for it, but it's nice to have a sounding board.

I can't see any problem with doing something so harmless because your partner finds it attractive. If she gets a great reaction every time she gets them done then of course she'll want to keep doing it - don't we all want to be attractive to our partners?

Of course if he was making her life difficult by insisting that she got various time consuming and uncomfortable things done then it would be a different story.

I do tend to think “ will he like it “ , a dress or hairstyle, whatever. I’m definitely in the ‘ do it for yourself ‘ camp, but, I like to think I look attractive for him. I wouldn’t take it to extremes, or do/ wear anything I hated and he wouldn’t expect me to.

I actually think it’s really refreshing to hear about a lady having her nails done for her hubby. What’s wrong with it? At least their relationship is alive and well in the sense she’s putting effort in for him and cares about his preferences. I wish I was more like this, can’t remember the last time I glammed up for my man and I know he’d love it if I did x

@ParentingDilemmas

I actually think it’s really refreshing to hear about a lady having her nails done for her hubby. What’s wrong with it? At least their relationship is alive and well in the sense she’s putting effort in for him and cares about his preferences. I wish I was more like this, can’t remember the last time I glammed up for my man and I know he’d love it if I did x

Why not start making an effort and have your bum hole bleached? Then if he likes it you could think about having your nails done.

I like to look nice for DP but also for myself , he always tells me that he loves how I still make an effort. He also makes an effort in his appearance and I don't think I would like it if he didn't.

Good for her.
It's nice that she and her man are interested in each other.

Shirleyphallus

Modern feminists don’ t seem to be interested in real issues nowadays but are hellbent on nitpicking anyone who has traditional values etc.

What the fuck?!! Ok

Modern feminists

Galassia

ParentingDilemmas
I actually think it’s really refreshing to hear about a lady having her nails done for her hubby.

And yes, that was my first thought. How refreshing it is.

My ex insisted I have toes and nails painted impeccably

He was abusive

He also had a very dirty foot feverish
Makes me feel ill thinking about it

I've never met a man who's into nails, I wonder if it's a kinky thing. Good that they're communicating with each other their likes and dislikes!

@Ionlydomassiveones

“Good for her. It's nice that she and her man are interested in each other.”

All that story tells you is that she cares what her husband thinks and he is ‘interested’ in her having nice nails.

Any bloke who is that over invested in his wife’s mani-pedi is down as a weirdo in my book. But then I’m very judgy. And, fuck me, hold on to your britches - a feminist. Whoooo. Get the ducking stool ready.

Why shouldn't she care that her husband likes it? Are feminists not allowed to care?

Not my take on feminism at all.

I'm not entirely sure what point you're trying to make, to be honest.

It pisses me off that the male equivalent of 'looking nice for their partner' tends to involve such little effort in comparison to the expectations of women. They just have to be beardless or not, and not have hairy nostrils or whatever. Women already have to shave their legs, armpits, the belly button line, their vagina area usually, pluck eyebrows, wax moustache and chin hairs, wash and condition and blow dry hair, moisturise, wear make up, wear less comfy clothes than men. And that's all before shit like getting nails done, paying for hair ups for special occasions and possibly make up, fake tan. And increasingly, hair extensions, Botox, fillers, other expensive shit. I know that nobody has to do any of these things but there is so much societal pressure to do most of it. I wish fashion would change and women could just be hairy and not have to bother and for that to be considered the norm, and men would instead take the burden of all the stuff women have to do routinely.

I do about one of those things, and always have done.

@acolderwar

It pisses me off that the male equivalent of 'looking nice for their partner' tends to involve such little effort in comparison to the expectations of women. They just have to be beardless or not, and not have hairy nostrils or whatever. Women already have to shave their legs, armpits, the belly button line, their vagina area usually, pluck eyebrows, wax moustache and chin hairs, wash and condition and blow dry hair, moisturise, wear make up, wear less comfy clothes than men. And that's all before shit like getting nails done, paying for hair ups for special occasions and possibly make up, fake tan. And increasingly, hair extensions, Botox, fillers, other expensive shit. I know that nobody has to do any of these things but there is so much societal pressure to do most of it. I wish fashion would change and women could just be hairy and not have to bother and for that to be considered the norm, and men would instead take the burden of all the stuff women have to do routinely.

I don't have to do any of this and my partner is perfectly happy!