Be honest…do you have a favourite DC?

[Eastie77Returns]

I’d gladly take a bullet for any of my DC. Wouldn’t give it a second thought. I know I love them equally. I love spending time with all of them, they make me laugh (or cry!) in equal measure. But if I’m 100% honest there is one I feel I have a better connection with. I don’t know if that makes them a favourite? Does anyone else feel the same about one of their children?

I love both of mine but one is easier to parent, I understand her, we have lots in common and time together is more fun and relaxed. So I suppose yes, I do have a favourite.

I have two sisters. My Dad always answers the phone and says ‘oh hello, it’s my favourite daughter’ and then after a brief chat calls out to my mother ‘June! is on the phone!’

I have three and I definitely have a least favourite but they are the one who causes a lot of grief. I still love them in my very bones but fuck me parenting that one is hard.

No

I have four..all with VERY different personalities.
I love them all deeply, would take a bullet in a heartbeat to protect them.
But I relate to each one differently because they are individuals..sometimes one needs me more than the others, sometimes they don't .
All adults now, living very different lives. My 'trickiest' one is now an incredible adult, saves lives daily..I'm so proud of her...but we couldn't live together because she experiences life at at the pace of someone with ADHD and I don't! . My youngest is autistic and will never leave home. No 3 is my 'closest' and as she's just had a baby, I am with her most for support. My no 2 is stuck in Australia and I miss him so much it is like a physical pain.
A favourite? Never (despite no 2 claiming he is !) But our relationships are unique between us, and that's fine.

I give them both the impression that secretly they are the favourite.

@BellaElla99

Yeah I do. I had PND with one and really struggled to bond. I’ve beaten myself up about it so much because I love them both so much but one is just easier. I’ve spoken to numerous people in real life about it because it was upsetting me and apparently, it is quite common.

@BellaElla99 I could have written this. I've also beaten myself up about it but I've now squared it myself that it's something I can't change and so long as I treat them the same and show the same amount of love, they never need to know how I feel inside.

Nope. They're like an elephant and a dolphin. Both endearing and lovely, but so different I couldn't possibly choose one. I've wondered sometimes myself, and paused to think about it, and I really don't. I think that's luck, more than anything.

Love them all the same. All are adults now. Over the years I have had ones I preferred over the others. They have all had their turn as "favorite". It's fluid and changes over time. But "favorite" just might mean getting along with best at the moment, or spending the most time with at that moment. Who knows. I love them all but they all have very different personalities.

I do and I really wish I didn't.

One dd is very like me and shares a tonne of interests and it's great because we do a lot of stuff together, especially now she's older. She's basically me as a child.

The other one is like her dad. Wild. Loud. Daring. Hyper. Outgoing. Hilarious. Just an absolute hurricane of a personality who lives for laughs and wants to shower you with affection at all times while simultaneously testing your patience and seeing how much they can get away with. She's a nightmare, and I left her dad because I couldn't stand those traits in a partner - the constant boundary pushing and attention seeking and needing everything to be 100mph - and yet somehow... she's my favourite.

It makes zero sense to me but it is what it is.

I have two very different personalities and needs.
Most days the dog is definitely my favourite

No.

No, but I know my daughter needs me more (due to her personality not her sex) I don’t think my son has needed anyone since he was about 5😂

As with others, I have an ‘easy’ child who just gets on with whatever life throws at them. Any issues that do arise are resolved with very little drama. They are just a happy and smiley person. Occasionally they need my support but for the most part they just figure things out themselves. What they mostly want from me is comfort and companionship.

I have another child who I have always referred to as ‘difficult’ or ‘challenging’. They have brought me no end of stress. They have their reasons and I have fought so hard to get them the help and support they need. The pandemic caused everything to fall apart, but once again I fought to put everything back in place. Life with them is just one battle after another. Despite being the eldest they are the one who needs my help the most. Outside of their struggles they are the kindest and most generous person ever, but their difficulties often cloud this.

My tolerance levels for one or the other is ever changing. However, I don’t have a favourite and would happily sacrifice myself for either one of them without giving it a second thought.

I have 2 DC and honestly don't have a favourite. One is very like me and we share a lot of interests, so conversation flows very easily when we are together. We also work in the same field, so understand when one is feeling stressed by work. The other is very different to me in a lot of ways but we just get on really well and share a lot of laughs together. I live spending time with both of them equally. The funny thing is, that each of them is convinced they are my favourite!

No I don't, but I don't think you can if you only have two, I guess with more it's easier to notice one you have a stronger bond with... We have 4 dogs, and I definitely have a favourite there!

My eldest child is by far the easier (so far anyway!) She's always been an easy going, delightful kid, and makes life so simple. The youngest is more spirited, and sometimes I do think "why can't you be like your sister?!" for ease of everything, but I kind of love her sassy, no shits given attitude, and I think it will serve her well, as she doesn't take any crap from anyone, and even though she's tiny, she will stand up for herself, always give her all, and it makes me proud. I worry about the older one far far more, as she is so passive, and will let others walk all over her. So then I end up thinking "I wish YOU were more like your sister!" I have a very strong bond with both, eldest will warm to anyone, and is very confident, where as younger one doesn't like strangers, and very particular about which close friends and family, she will let her guard down to, so maybe that bond feels more "special", more earned sometimes? She's very physically loving with me and her dad, loves a cuddle, which my eldest has never been like. But my eldest stole my heart the second she was born, made me a mum, and is the most genuinely lovely person I've ever met. She is the most empathetic, and kind child, and cares more about the planet and its future than most adults. I would say the love I have for them is so equal, yet so different on so many levels. I couldn't pick between the two in a burning building situation, they're both the absolute loves of my life. One makes my life easy, the other hard, but I adore them both the same.