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Be honest…do you have a favourite DC?

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Eastie77Returns · 19/08/2021 10:41

I’d gladly take a bullet for any of my DC. Wouldn’t give it a second thought. I know I love them equally. I love spending time with all of them, they make me laugh (or cry!) in equal measure. But if I’m 100% honest there is one I feel I have a better connection with. I don’t know if that makes them a favourite? Does anyone else feel the same about one of their children?

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GiantCheeseMonster · 19/08/2021 13:10

I don’t have a favourite, but I do have one who is much more like me and we have more similar interests, so I find him easier. I love DD just as much but she is more into dancing and things that I was useless at as a child - I love that she wants to do them, but it means we don’t have a strong shared interest (whereas DS and I are both really into board games and reading).

mistermagpie · 19/08/2021 13:14

Mine take it in turns really, I have three, and it's whichever one is annoying me the least!

My eldest is most like me though and I feel I really 'see' him, I know him so well because he's basically exactly how I was as a child. It doesn't make him my favourite, but we get each other.

My middle child is the opposite, for the first three years I was like 'who the hell are you?' even though he is 'the favourite' in the wider family because he's just so cute to look at and he's got a really outgoing personality. I fell like I've got to know him now though and I think he's amazing.

My daughter is my final child and somehow it does make her special, I have indulged her a bit more I suppose (she's still a baby really). What makes the difference with her is that I'm her favourite, which wasn't the case with my other two and makes me feel like we have a special connection.

So, in short, I love them all equally but differently!

Wizzbangfizz · 19/08/2021 15:23

No I've thought about this a lot as my parents had a clear favourite but no I definitely love them both equally.

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MyMagicStars · 19/08/2021 15:32

I have eight. My girls are the youngest four, and I feel like I spent more time with them, especially my youngest two, who are twins. DS2 is adopted, and I feel especially close now that he has DC of his own- I think I’ll always want to make up the years before he joined us, while still honouring my friend who is his birth mum. DD4 and DD3 have health worries which means I worry about them more, and DD4 is the one who loves being home the most, and who enjoys being with me just at home, while I love how DD3 is very independent and confident, as well as kind. DD1 is very independent, but when she’s here, I feel very honoured when she’s affectionate. DD2 is the most similar to me, and I’ve been accused of favouritism- she’s always been the best behaved of the lot and has been the easiest to parent. DS1 made me feel so happy to be a mother, and he is the one who calls the most. DS3 makes me laugh more than anyone else, and DS4 reminds me of my dad, which makes me so proud.

So, no, I don’t have a favourite- they’re a fab lot and I think the beauty of your children is that they’re all different!

theworldsbiggestcrocodile · 19/08/2021 15:39

I do at the moment. One dd is being an absolute nightmare at the minute (and for the last year and half really). I love her but I don't like her all the time at the moment. I hope she grows out of it. The other Dd is a pleasure to spend time with.
However when they were younger if anything it was the other way around so I'm hoping at some point they both come good at the same time and I will be golden!

pleasekeeptotheright · 19/08/2021 15:48

No I don't.

ACPC · 19/08/2021 15:55

Honestly no. They are very different though and there's a huge age gap so it's like comparing a orange with a cream egg.

Hemingwaycat · 19/08/2021 15:57

No. I have one child who drives me mad in a way the others don’t but I think it may be because we have a similar temperament. It doesn’t mean I like her any less though, she can just push my buttons more than the others. I love them all equally.

dogmandu · 19/08/2021 16:03

I have 3 children . Many years ago when they were small, I decided to do an experiment and ask each of them individually if they thought I had a favourite and if so, which one would it be.

They all answered 'me'.

JMAngel1 · 19/08/2021 16:04

I don't have a favourite but one has more of my genetic material. From the day she was born, holding her was and still is my comfort blanket, like coming home. I never feel skin or bone, just a huge sense of belonging, calm and peace as if she's part of me.
My other DD, I love her equally and she astonishes me every day as she is so different to me (in a good way) but when I hug or hold her, I am aware she is a separate body - not sure if that makes sense.

PhoboPhobia · 19/08/2021 16:04

@ACPC

Honestly no. They are very different though and there's a huge age gap so it's like comparing a orange with a cream egg.
Similar - not a huge gap but almost 8 years so DD is already well into adult hood and DS has only just left school.

DS is at home all the time and so I spend a lot of time with him (I wfh) and we have a lot of day to day chats. He's fun to be with. He's not very communicative about personal things so I have a comparitively light hearted relationship with him.

DD I obviously see less often but we are close and we also have lots of fun together but she is a complete open book and we talk about everything. I feel like I know her better.

DD would say DS is my favourite, DS would say the cat is my favourite!

SimonJT · 19/08/2021 16:06

@Byheckythump

Yes. The cat.
This.
Roselilly36 · 19/08/2021 16:17

I adore both of my DS’ DS1 is very easy going, calm, polite DS2 is the complete opposite he’s noisy, outspoken, a total leader. I connect better was DS1. DS2 connects better with DH. But neither of us have a favourite, they are treated and loved equally. I wouldn’t change either of them.

Bettyboop3 · 19/08/2021 16:24

I have 3, grown up now, and they all insist they are my favourite so i'm happy thinking i must make them all feel very loved ❤

Dogoodfeelgood · 19/08/2021 16:25

@JaninaDuszejko

As I tell my children, I do have a favourite, but it keeps changing. They sometimes compete to be the least favourite which presumably mean I've gone wrong somewhere Grin.
😂😂😂
DeadButDelicious · 19/08/2021 16:43

I definitely think the dog is my favourite. She talks less. Grin

Disrespected · 19/08/2021 16:54

Not favourite. But one pisses me off less than the others haha

FreeBritnee · 19/08/2021 16:55

Currently o have one who hits me regularly and one who doesn’t. Currently I prefer the one who
doesn’t.

Flowersinamilkbottle · 19/08/2021 17:01

No, but I was worried I would when I was pregnant with DC2. I really had a preference as to whether I had a girl or boy in my first pregnancy and felt I had to hide that, and thought I might have to hide my feelings over who was the favourite when DC2 was born. But nope. Genuinely no favourite, which is lovely!

Ihaveaskedyouthrice · 19/08/2021 17:04

I have 3, all quite young. Middle child is far and away the easiest so while she's not my favourite she's definitely the one I prefer spending time with.

robotcollision · 19/08/2021 17:08

I definitely don't but I am closer to one than the other, as one of them is far needier, so I have to take great care that the very independent one doesn't end up feeling ignored or that he has to handle life's problems alone. I sometimes lovebomb him when he gets a bit cool towards us because I sense him feeling that his younger brother gets all the attention. And it works. They are both so different and I love them in different ways but not one more than the other.

GoodnightGrandma · 19/08/2021 17:09

@ThePlantsitter

No, I absolutely don't. But I do have a better connection with each of them at different times. They sort of take it in turns.
This is how I’d describe it.
Bumpsadaisie · 19/08/2021 17:24

I tell mine that whoever has opened their window, made their bed, hung up their towel, put their breakfast dishes in the dishwasher, done hands face and teeth and got dressed - is my favourite for the day 🤩

trappedsincesundaymorn · 19/08/2021 17:30

I used to tell DD that of all my DC's she was my favourite. She never took it as a compliment though as she's my only DC. Grin

Loyaultemelie · 19/08/2021 18:20

I definitely have a favourite. He has 4 legs, is furry and purrs. The 2 with 2 legs are equally annoying Grin

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