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Be honest…do you have a favourite DC?

115 replies

Eastie77Returns · 19/08/2021 10:41

I’d gladly take a bullet for any of my DC. Wouldn’t give it a second thought. I know I love them equally. I love spending time with all of them, they make me laugh (or cry!) in equal measure. But if I’m 100% honest there is one I feel I have a better connection with. I don’t know if that makes them a favourite? Does anyone else feel the same about one of their children?

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RosesandPumpkins · 19/08/2021 11:03

@MulanIsChinese

Nope, I don't like either of them! Grin
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RosesandPumpkins · 19/08/2021 11:04

I do and it pains me. Due to their age at a certain traumatic life experience I bonded with one in a deeper way than the other. However I’m hoping it’ll right itself as they age. I love them both dearly and they’re both very different.

Darkchocolateandcoffee · 19/08/2021 11:05

No. I love them all differently for different reasons.

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Yourstupidityexhaustsme · 19/08/2021 11:06

Depends which day of the week/hour of the day/minute of the hour… basically who is being less of the mitherer in that very moment 😂

But no I don’t. I get one with them in different ways because they are different people. But I love, like and adore them equally.

BABSYA · 19/08/2021 11:11

NO not at all. We had a situation when they were 4 years old and a 4 months to re schooling where one may be disadvantaged re childcare and me going to work. I remember saying to my husband I cant choose one over the other. Luckily we were able to resolve with the help of family. I hope that never happens again to me.

Now they are teenagers no I love them both and I am happy they love each other so much and gang up against me so when Im gone they hopefully will look out for each other and their respective families.

I have seen at a very initmate level favouritism by parents and the long term consequnces that ripple through the family, both the intial and any new family created. It is very sad, but it is life.

ILiveInSalemsLot · 19/08/2021 11:13

No I don’t. They’re just amazing, fascinating and beautiful to me in their own ways.

OhWhyNot · 19/08/2021 11:22

I only have one

But sometimes prefer the cats company

I think this question needs to be asked to family and friends they will nearly always come up with the answer on who appears to be the favourite

CaptainSpirit · 19/08/2021 11:23

No definitely not, I love them both so deeply for many different reasons unique to them.
I'm due my third next month as well and I already adore her too.

Createdjustforthis · 19/08/2021 11:28

Whichever one is being the best behaved at any typical moment tbh.

Or the cat.

Bonnie90x · 19/08/2021 11:30

@MulanIsChinese

Nope, I don't like either of them! Grin
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MinesAMassiveSalad · 19/08/2021 11:31

No.
I think I'm lucky because I can see how it could happen.

ParentingDilemmas · 19/08/2021 11:39

Whichever is giving me less trouble at the time is my favourite

Danoodle · 19/08/2021 11:58

Yes, the dog Grin

Peanutsandchilli · 19/08/2021 12:01

No, I have 5 and I like them all the same. Sure, I can prefer one to another if they're playing up or have gone off in a teenage huff, but I can genuinely say I don't favour any of them.

EscapingSoon · 19/08/2021 12:01

Not usually, but I do today! Angry

Bufffy · 19/08/2021 12:02

I don’t think I have an actual favourite as in I love them all equally, treat them exactly the same and would never favour one over the others but my middle Ds is autistic and he’s such a pure little sole. He’s the sunshine in my days. Because of his autism we spend a lot of time together and there is just something about his pureness that really touches me

aliensprig · 19/08/2021 12:04

I only have one and he's my favourite 😊

springbabs · 19/08/2021 12:05

Yes, I do! Go on, shoot me down now. There is no way I would admit it to anyone in the family, however and I treat them both as if they were the favourite. They are both adults now but I have had a favourite since they were young and no, it's not the "easier" one

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Eastie77Returns · 19/08/2021 12:07

The one I think I have the better ‘connection’ with is the one who seems most similar to me personality-wise. They often struggle socially in ways that really resonate with me. We also seem to share the same daft sense of humour. I have felt a bit guilty at times and wondered if I’ve subconsciously given the impression I prefer them when in fact I find each of my DC fascinating and love spending time with them all. The responses on this thread have made me feel better as I see many parents may feel a different kind of rapport with one child vs another but it doesn’t translate into ‘that child is the favourite’.

Similar to a PP, I definitely have a favourite nephew thoughGrin. I don’t think any of my nieces or other nephews have the slightest idea thankfully (I overcompensate and spoil them all!)

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HappyGoPlucky · 19/08/2021 12:09

I think it's possible to love equally but it's only natural that you may find one child easier or you may have a child you've more in common with. I have a child that can be quite hard work and a child who is easier and less of a worry but I adore them both.
I prefer not to dwell on stuff like that to be honest! There's enough in life to feel guilty about. I have enough love to go round.

saraclara · 19/08/2021 12:11

One of mine is really easy company and very accepting of me. The other is more intense and struggles with my imperfections. But I know which one I would trust with my life. They're chalk and cheese but I love them equally.

springbabs · 19/08/2021 12:14

I forgot to add, the favourite and I are probably on the autistic spectrum so we understand each other better than most people

Deadringer · 19/08/2021 12:17

No, but i have a least favourite.

bookh · 19/08/2021 12:50

This worried me a great deal when I fell with baby two unexpectedly. DD1 I waited fifteen years for and suffered many losses. I was told I would never have children. The I carried to term and there she was. I had, have chronic post natal anxiety around her. I was terrified a second would never be equal because they never had that fight. But the second is just an extension of her, they are like one big entity. I adore them both. And the second wouldn't be here without the first either so those sort of fears went away.

AnonymousCheerleader · 19/08/2021 12:59

I have a five year old and I'm pregnant with my second and in all honesty I don't like either of the fuckers today.

I like my dog, though.