Be honest…do you have a favourite DC?

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I’d gladly take a bullet for any of my DC. Wouldn’t give it a second thought. I know I love them equally. I love spending time with all of them, they make me laugh (or cry!) in equal measure. But if I’m 100% honest there is one I feel I have a better connection with. I don’t know if that makes them a favourite? Does anyone else feel the same about one of their children?

Yes but it changes by the day, hour or even minute!

My human children know that the dog is my favourite child.

My Mum did, and it clearly wasn't me. In retrospect, I think that subconsciously influenced my decision to only have one child. I wouldn't want another child to feel the way I did.

Don't get me wrong, Mum was never cruel or deliberately hurtful, I was just very aware that I was the third wheel ( Mum was a single parent).

Not at all. 3 kids with difficult and delightful personalities. Could never choose one over the others. They amaze and irritate me in equal measure!

I need a cat

There is one I "get" more and is emotionally easier. His issues tend to be easier to manage (so far...) He is more like me.

The other has needed more input and I have to adapt to him more. He's generally more socially self-sufficient, but needs me more when he needs me. He's needed me to fight for him more and life is less simple for him.

I love and respect different attributes in the pair of them.

I joke that the best behaved one is my favourite for the next 30s. It tends to balance out. I hope they think it balances too.

Yes I do, my only DC!! He is awesome.

Yea but I've only got one to choose from

No, they are both equally annoying 😊

I have b/g twins. Both raised the same but completely different children. I don’t have a favourite, (I think they’re both awesome kids with equal arsehole tendencies) but I DS is the easier of the two and we are more similar in many ways. DD grabs life by the balls and is adorably terrifying, but we do have things in common.

I’m not planning on having more, so I tell them that they’re my favourite girl/boy

Yes. DD's best friend, She is lovely, and chats to me while I cook.

Deadringer

No, but i have a least favourite

This I have a child going through the awful teenagers years. Who's awful towards me its a struggle although I love him I don't like him at the moment he constantly talks down to me.

I've thought about this a lot. I don't have a favourite but they are still quite young. I might feel differently once they are older and more defined in their personalities.

I have 6 DDs and adore them all, of course. I don’t have a ‘favourite’ at all but DD1 and I have a connection that feels different to the others. I can’t explain it, maybe it’s because she was the only one I ever had as one, if you see what I mean. I’ve often pondered it because I love my girls all equally, without a doubt.

No I don’t think I do. In the past I might have said that I had a better connection with my eldest but that was mainly because my youngest was so much hard work when he was younger. I’ve always loved them both the same.

They are both my life but DS has asd and it’s very challenging especially with dd who is very confident, bossy, outspoken, they wind each other up and I always have to tell dd to leave him alone for her own safety as when anxious and nervous he can become aggressive and she doesn’t know when to stop talking which add more fuel to the fire. To her she probably thinks I’m closer with him but that isn’t the case at all...

Both my girls say my favourite is the other which I find really rude and offensive and they clearly don't listen to me otherwise they would know by now I dislike them both equally haha erm love yes that's it I mean love 😂😂😂. I of course jest but they are in their 20s now and when they want something it's always muuummmm u know how I'm your favourite haha erm yes course of course that's how parenting works darling child of mine lol and anyway I thought u said your sis is my favourite haha 😂😂🙈

Yes but only because I have an only child

I have two. Big age gap. The eldest is difficult with everything, friendships, emotionally, school work, hobbies. He takes a lot of energy and sometimes I just want him to be easy. I love him of course, I worry about him constantly.

Youngest I'm not sure yet, too little to know. They're at that age of wanting mum all the time and happy to see me. I feel really guilty but the thought does pop into my head that I hope he's easier.

I have ones I find to be easier company at a certain time but favourite? No.

No I only have one adult DC so I guess he's the best.

No. I genuinely love them all equally.

@QueenAdreena

I don’t have favourites, but there are days when some are easier than others and I feel more positively connected with them. Depends on their behaviour, and what’s going on in our lives really and can change daily (or even hourly!). Love them all equally and endlessly though.

This

No. They can all be arseholes annoying at times and bloody wonderful at others.

My DM has a favourite (it ain’t me!) but they’re codependent and that’s a slice of pie I’d happily miss out on

@LeonoraFlorence 6 DDs is incredible - hats off to you!

No, just no. They are both different and just as beautiful.