What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?

[ApolloandDaphne]

I have to attend a family funeral soon and plan to go and get my current colour (bright pink) changed to a more suitable colour. I mentioned it to my DM yesterday and she asked what I would have to changed to. She was aghast when I said probably a dark, muted red. She thought I would go for a natural/nude type colour. These colours look terrible on me. Is dark red so bad?

@DiscoDown21

I can’t say I’ve noticed anyone nails or make up at a funeral. Some people also ask for some brighter colours worn etc. If it’s been mentioned then maybe change it if you feel more comfortable.

Agree.

The only time anything is noticeable at a funeral is if something has been specifically requested by family such as wearing bright colours etc.

@ApolloandDaphne. Who'd have thought eh?! Red is a classic colour, you really can't go wrong with it (despite some nutters on here saying otherwise). If someone asked I'd say I think the fluro or the pale blue/green/yellow fun colours might not be appropriate, but at an actual funeral I doubt I'd notice!!

I have sadly been to more funerals than I care to count, and cannot remember if I wore np or not- let alone what colour! Not what anyone else was wearing (except those who turned up in totally inappropriate clothing (dirty ripped jeans).

At my Dads I possibly would have noticed someone turning up naked, but beyond that...nope. Nails could have been painted in a rainbow for all I'd have cared !!

Ps the hot pop pink is nice!

This is my FILs funeral. DH doesn't care what colour my nails are.

Quite.

The last funeral I went to was late October and I had gel nails done for a Halloween event which were black with ghosts on

(despite some nutters on here saying otherwise)

Thanks.

A classic red, fine. An oxblood gothic vibe red, I wouldn't. Again. Not deeply utterly offensive but I'd avoid deathy vibes.

@StarDrawers

(despite some nutters on here saying otherwise)

Thanks.

A classic red, fine. An oxblood gothic vibe red, I wouldn't. Again. Not deeply utterly offensive but I'd avoid deathy vibes.

Surely something with deathly vibes is utterly appropriate for a funeral?

I think it's a bit try hard personally, like you've thought Ah! Death, ill choose a gothy deathy colour.

@StarDrawers

I think it's a bit try hard personally, like you've thought Ah! Death, ill choose a gothy deathy colour.

Like the typically black attire? It genuinely wouldn’t raise an eyebrow from me what colour the nails of a mourner were.

@StarDrawers

I think it's a bit try hard personally, like you've thought Ah! Death, ill choose a gothy deathy colour.

Or she just picked the nail colour not specifically for this one event? Manicures don't only last one day. What if she had an award ceremony the night before? Must be a minefield if everyone at every event assumes you customized your nails just for that one day.

Like the typically black attire? no that's required very little thought, it's usually just I need something smart and black. Nothing try hard about that at all.

I meant the “gothy deathy colour” rather than the try hard comment.

Or she just picked the nail colour not specifically for this one event? But OP is asking because she is picking a nail colour specificially for this one event? Or have I misunderstood something? (Very possible, if so sorry!)

@HannaHat

I meant the “gothy deathy colour” rather than the try hard comment.

I see. This is true but unless it's all gothic lacing style it won't look like she's gone for a death theme.

I didn't notice the colour of anyone's nails at my mum's funeral. But I did notice that one of my closest friends wore trousers with very high perspex shoes. I remember struggling to keep myself together and really focussing on these shoes and they made me so mad because my mum would have thought them so inappropriate, as she would have considered her wearing trousers inappropriate. Utter nonsense of course, as my friend was there to support me and pay her respects, she had known my mum a long time. I don't know why it affected me the way it did, grief I suppose. Makes you feel strange things.

@StarDrawers

Or she just picked the nail colour not specifically for this one event? But OP is asking because she is picking a nail colour specificially for this one event? Or have I misunderstood something? (Very possible, if so sorry!)

Yes, but regardless of that it's really excessive that people even notice or care.

@aSofaNearYou I guess but OP is asking so she cares?

To clarify. I want the colour to be good for the funeral but I am going away for a weeks holiday before the funeral so I want it to look nice for that too. The dark red covers all that I think.

Is it a beach holiday? Pale pastel nails look quite nice for summer? A pastel pinky nude?

LordOfTheThings
Situations like yours are exactly why I think it's best to err on the side of simple at funerals. When people are grieving and highly emotional they notice things that the rest of the time they'd think would never bother them.
As a general rule if I stop and think "do you think this would be appropriate for a funeral" then I don't do it. For me it isn't worth the risk of inadvertently causing hurt to someone I care about.

Or a subtle gold shimmer? Not blingy gold.

@StarDrawers

Is it a beach holiday? Pale pastel nails look quite nice for summer? A pastel pinky nude?

No it is a city holiday - London.

Sorry for your loss OP. Ignore previous posters who are slating you, I don't see deciding about nail colour as any different from deciding what shoes, bag etc to wear. I don't think I've ever noticed the colour anyone had on their nails at a funeral and I've been to more than my fair share. It's the paying your respects to your relative, attendance and being there for the immediate family/mourners that counts - if anyone has a problem with your nails then it's their problem, you do you!

@ApolloandDaphne

To clarify. I want the colour to be good for the funeral but I am going away for a weeks holiday before the funeral so I want it to look nice for that too. The dark red covers all that I think.

My thoughts exactly! People just get their nails painted for a while, it's stupid to assume it's been done for each individual occasion.

Hmm maybe a more classic red then? Or a slate/pewter with an hint of sparkle.

[quote StarDrawers]@aSofaNearYou I guess but OP is asking so she cares?[/quote]
It sounded to me like she was getting them done anyway and just thought "oh suppose I best go for something muted". That would be an appropriate level of caring. It's the reaction from her mum and a lot of the comments here that I think are really excessive.