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Things you want to get off your chest but can't

125 replies

Neonorchid · 12/08/2021 19:13

Spill it here...

I'll start! I love you to bits but my word you are spoiled. Every sentence does not have to start with I want.

OP posts:
DoubleShotEspresso · 12/08/2021 23:17

You honestly believe I never knew. I've known for three years.
What you'll never know is it's forgiven but I'll never forget not a chance ever.

TokyoSushi · 12/08/2021 23:20

You might just tell it how it is, but you come across as really, really rude.

The reason I'm not particularly affectionate is because you always want to turn it into something more.

HealthKick2021 · 12/08/2021 23:21

I love you unconditionally because we are blood related but I'm honestly happier without you in my life. I know deep down the next time we see one another, will be at one of our parents funerals.
I wish you every happiness.

OldTinHat · 12/08/2021 23:24

I miss you bean, so, so much. My heart is broken. You know she has done this but I will always be your mum and I will never not love you.

RickOShay · 12/08/2021 23:25

I find you so difficult to be around. You have so many issues. You are negative, disapproving, manipulative, smug, boring, petty, self obsessed, miserable and unbelievably tight. You bend the truth to suit you and enjoy other people’s pain and then hate yourself for it. Your unresolved issues have impacted my family and I too much.
I will not play your games any more. I will only see you on my terms. I will not allow you to make me feel shit about myself any more. You are not perfect and yet your judgements are like they come from on high.

I don’t want to be around you. You suck any joy. And your attitude towards children is actually chilling and slightly twisted.
You are one fucked up person. You really are.
I see you, and you kind of know it. I think that makes you worse.

Dramalady52 · 12/08/2021 23:25

I don't understand why you want my attention so much? I'm so much older than you.

purplebatbear · 12/08/2021 23:27
  1. I wish you'd just get on with it and leave. Dragging this out isn't helping anyone and I feel like I'm suffocating.
  1. Please stop drinking and look after yourself better.
  1. I'll never forgive you for ghosting me. Stop trying to befriend me again. You were a callous bitch when I needed you the most & caused my post natal depression through your behaviour. I don't want you in my life. Back off and go away.
  1. I feel empty and very very alone.
Madamswearsalot · 12/08/2021 23:55

And so you go round the cycle again, despairing at how you feel, fighting against the work you have to do, sinking into the self doubt. Except for you it's almost like it's never happened before - you think it's a new thing and you don't understand why it's happening.

It happens EVERY FEW MONTHS. The work cycle happens every time you have a piece of paid work. The disappearing into yourself happens frequently.

You think it's new. It's been over a decade.

CiaoForNiao · 13/08/2021 00:07

Stop fucking moaning about how much help you apparently don't get. You are a 2 adult household. Between the 2 sets of parents you have at least 1 child free night per week (averaged out) and dc3 spends more time at Granny's house than she does yours. Yes our Mum had my dc a lot, because I was a single parent working 16 hour days. You aren't. You have 2 of you at home. One doesn't work so you don't need "childcare" in the same way. And no one cares that you don't have a "social life". Welcome to parenthood. Also see above. You have plenty of childcare.

WildUnknown · 13/08/2021 00:07

No one disputes your child had a difficult start, but the reality is she is cheeky and spoiled, and you are half arsing the parenting thing, relying heavily on your ageing DM, and basically treating your kid like a hobby you can pass up when bored. She can't articulate it yet but she knows, what with all the threats to leave her if she's naughty. Guess what? Your child's biggest trigger is your behaviour.

I'm not crying into my cornflakes about our friendship. You were a user and I was trying to break free. I feel embarrassed for you.

I am pretending to be sorry you are leaving. But You have been in fact a bad shit stirrer and are the last of the Bitchy Girls to go. I think you are going because you miss the bitching

WildUnknown · 13/08/2021 00:12

Oh and

  1. Stop enabling your absolute piece of shit sister because you had a fraught relationship with your late DM and you think its what she wanted.

Your sister is one of the most oddly soulless people I have ever met. Sinister in fact

Forgive yourself and walk away.

Pinkpoptarts · 13/08/2021 00:23

You're not the person I met 14 years ago, you don't have anything I find attractive about you anymore, you're lazy with our dc and you're a lying cheating arsehole who broke my heart and have continued to do so ever since and if I'm being honest I hate that you have another dc, my heart sinks everytime I think of you with her and your child and I wish that I could unmeet you.
Yet even though you have no redeeming qualities why do I still want you? I certainly don't love you anymore.

NannyOggsward · 13/08/2021 00:28

I didn’t consent, even if you think you’re off free I’m fighting like hell to see you in jail. Just wait.

GNCQ · 13/08/2021 00:38

I'm deeply envious of people who could have more than one child and I've let my son down because he's an only child.

Holothane · 13/08/2021 00:41

Tired of carrying the mental load, organiser, the moaning, the grumps, the sexless (but that not a problem now) just can’t be bothered at least you’ve been a bit kinder this last fortnight, the selective memory, the studio money wasted again,

Susannahmoody · 13/08/2021 00:44

I fancy my boss

Haven't even met him in person!

MadgeMidgerson · 13/08/2021 00:44

i am going to be alone til i die. i feel empty sometimes, it scares me that i am so hollow now. without even trying, you ruined me.

Alieninmybody · 13/08/2021 00:47

I wish you well and I wish whatever is causing you such unhappiness would just go away. You deserve to be happy and care free.

Zandra123 · 13/08/2021 00:48

You were my big bro you should have been my protector not abuser, you took away my childhood and my decisions even in adulthood have been affected by the experiences. Bastard.

FloofyHeckonChonker · 13/08/2021 00:50

I should have given birth to you today. Sorry I couldn't keep you safe. Tell grandad Bernard I said hello Star

ThanksMateThanksMate · 13/08/2021 00:59

You didn't deserve the lives you created.
You shouldn't create then destroy.
That's the reason.
No, family isn't "everything".
Decency and respect is everything.
That's the reason.
We are in charge.

Ifonlyidknownthen · 13/08/2021 01:04

I asked you to get me the job but now I wish to God I hadn't

Hidehi4 · 13/08/2021 01:18

I know when you have had a drink (everyone does including your kid) but when you don’t get out of bed everyday til the afternoon as you say you have had such a shit sleep it’s because you are hungover love.

pinkpapaya · 13/08/2021 01:23

You keep telling me that your marriage isn't all that. You are unhappy, unfulfilled etc. Your kids are grown. Why are you still there? You are my dear friend and I love you to bits but please put up or shut up!

SpicyTinkle · 13/08/2021 01:28

  1. Have some bloody respect for yourself. Yes you ARE being manipulated. Raise your bar fgs.

  2. I am horrified by what you confessed and I feel like I'll be carrying this terrible, shameful secret and worrying about it for the rest of my life now. I'm so sad and disappointed and I don't know how to be around you anymore.