Has MN changed?

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Do you think MN had changed since you joined? How did it used to be?

I have been here several years. A few years back it seemed quite nasty In places .but it seems better now. Does not seem to be so many attacks on posters or bun fights . Seems to be better debates without it getting overly nasty.

I think it used to be funnier, ye gods there was some cracking threads.

Nowadays MN seems to be full of the professionally offended, trolls, those that can't be arsed to Google and so many people using 'anxiety' as an excuse for everything.

There are less cliques now which I like.

@mylovelydd

Since lockdown there are so many male posters posing as women and telling women to STFU and tolerate shit behaviour from their H. On every thread about cheating, porn or just general shit behaviour. They always say how cool they would be with it and how the OP is dramatic or hard work.

It's so painfully obvious too.

I have suspected this as well. Is it best to ignore their post (not giving it oxygen) or call it out? Do they keep the same name? If so any suspects?

I've always been an unknown (because I've nc'ed regularly it's not really surprising ) and I remember once or twice posting something on a thread for it to be completely ignored, but if a well-known poster then posted something similar a few posts later there would be a round of applause and three cheers with much arse-lickery and back-slapping thrown in for good measure.

So true. Still happens now on some of the more specific topics/threads. Post on a thread where there are a bunch of regulars and you will be could be---- completely ignored.

As many have already said, the number of posters who don't bother to RTFT and continue to post their very original, no one could possibly have thought of, opinion. A recent thread about a MIL turning up at a holiday home, people were posting what the OP should do long after MIL had gone home and the whole thing had been sorted amicably. A few attempted to tell them to RTFT but it's pointless as they don't read any comments at all. Infuriating but happens more now than ever.

And who starts the 'who's your favourite poster' threads? Really.

Things have definitely changed around here. Jeffery, penis beaker and the D and C thread finished off the old MN which obviously had its faults but had a lot more heart.
I name change a lot so no one would know me but I miss a lot of the old threads and posters.

[quote ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]@Sparklingbrook
the only in crowd you need is Woolly Hugs!
we had 2 meet ups (in 2017 & 2018), open invite.
I had met a small bunch of Woolly Huggers before that and all the way up to March '19. They are the very best.❤
See you at the next one?[/quote]
Yes Woolly Hugs is one of the really good things about MN. I'm not sure about going to a meet up, but let me know. Thank you.
I am actually thinking of taking up knitting because of all the talk re Tom Daley doing it. There's a thread about it but it's a bit full of holes because of derailers.

Sparkling when was the last Meet Up?

I went to at least 2 Christmas parties / meet ups, but that was years ago.

The old Friday Night Drunk threads used to be good, there were some Usual Suspects on there 😊

Still some good crowds though, TV threads and communities are friendly. Love the Strictly crowd.

I think there are more Fun Sponges than there used to be, taking offence or derailing lighthearted threads, I also see a lot more attacks on OPs for how they have phrased their OP or the entire thread descend into a pile on because the OP has broken an unspoken rule. Seems to be less having a laugh and more spoiling for a row.

I completely agree @EineReiseDurchDieZeit. Too many bitchploppers posting yawn or posters spoiling for a fight, for really funny threads to get going.

A Friday night Drunk Thread would elicit pursed lips and contact details for Al Anon.

You are not wrong there! It was the reverse of AA, made us all feel better about our drinking as there was always someone more pissed 😂

I really enjoyed the Friday night drunk threads.
My DP used to work a lot of night shifts when my dts were babies.
I only lurked on them but the drunk threads got me through 2 colic / reflux nannies.

Babies, not nannies.
A couple of nannies would have made the whole thing a lot easier.

@Classica

A Friday night Drunk Thread would elicit pursed lips and contact details for Al Anon.

Yes!!!

@Oblomov21

Sparkling when was the last Meet Up?

I went to at least 2 Christmas parties / meet ups, but that was years ago.

Not sure. I remember talk of them quite soon after I joined so 10 years ago they were still a thing then.

@Hepzibar

The old Friday Night Drunk threads used to be good, there were some Usual Suspects on there 😊

Still some good crowds though, TV threads and communities are friendly. Love the Strictly crowd.

Oh yes the Friday Drunk thread used to run to pages. It was fun.

I loved the BGT threads, most threads where everyone's watching along are great fun. The Olympic 2012 opening ceremony ran into about ten threads and was absolutely brilliant.

It’s changed lots since I joined.
People take themselves far too seriously now!

I used to love the X Factor threads. They were often hilarious and that's what I associate BoF with

@echt

Been here since 2006.

A marked increase in dumbass, googleable enquiries.
Lots of stuff in AIBU which in the past would be Relationships. And I'd rather it was.
Right-wing trolls, particularly in Covid times.

Not RTFT, but does anyone remember the poster who lived in Paris?

I think people probably ask thing that could be goggled . To make conversation. They could be lonely. Struggling a bit so it's their was of starting up a conversation.

I had forgotten the drunk threads, they were good fun

Possibly my favourite thread ever on here was from around 2009, I think. It was a woman whose partner wanted to 'find himself' by going on a motorbike tour around the mountains of Pakistan/Afghanistan, leaving her with 2 young children and not providing any financial support. It became a bit of a monster thread - advice was really on the money and it was also very, very funny.

I joined in 2006, but often just read posts.
The trolls, including men pretending to be women, are like wasps...an annoyance to be ignored.
I love the honesty from women and have learnt so much from MN.

The watch-along threads used to be great, I fondly remember the Downton threads with Lord 6 and Pickles. And I probably wouldn't have made it through Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell without the thread!

Now you can stream programmes whenever suits you, so people aren't always watching in real time and it isn't quite the same.

I’d say I’m a medium term member - definitely posts about the old days. I still find some fun on the site. The division over Brexit, Covid and royal threads have I think polarised. The only times I hear about MN outside is about Trans issues - I’ve hidden it now, not because I don’t agree, Because I feel powerless and so it is a bit overwhelming.

To some of the longer standing members did anybody stick to the topics in the past or was there always posting for traffic? I posted in MH once needing a handhold and after a couple of hours a mod actually suggested I post to somewhere else so it can really be genuine.

'Yes Woolly Hugs is one of the really good things about MN. I'm not sure about going to a meet up, but let me know. Thank you.
I am actually thinking of taking up knitting because of all the talk re Tom Daley doing it. There's a thread about it but it's a bit full of holes because of derailers. '

Arf at a knitting thread being full of holes

@MilesJuppIsMyBitch

'Yes Woolly Hugs is one of the really good things about MN. I'm not sure about going to a meet up, but let me know. Thank you. I am actually thinking of taking up knitting because of all the talk re Tom Daley doing it. There's a thread about it but it's a bit full of holes because of derailers. '

Arf at a knitting thread being full of holes

I think even darning can't fix it now.

I’ve been around since 2007, with a gazillion name changes.
I miss the detailed, well-reasoned discussions. The Feminist boards seem to be the only places that still seem familiar.
However, the occasionally weird and fascinating threads are still popping up, the analysis of news is interesting and the yowling and squabbling and descriptions of other people’s partners fill my need for soap opera and drama.
I drop in a couple of times a week, recognise almost no one and use MN mostly for entertainment.