Mine is totally self absorbed. She just talks at us about her and her friends all the time. I bet if I asked her where I worked what I do then she wouldn’t have a clue.
She’d also manipulative and uses DH as a free taxi, meal ticket often. When we didn’t have a car for a short time she cried, who would take her shopping…the bus at the end of the road (she’s perfectly able bodied), a taxi, we’re happy to do an online order…,who would take her meter readings. She has no impairment that prevents her doing this, all the while sobbing and screeching. My DH was suddenly unemployed and we were trying to work out how not to lose our home ffs!
She kept phoning him and saying ‘you should ask Tesco for an application form! Get a mortgage holiday etc. A mortgage holiday would increase our payments later and jobs are now an online process and you can’t just hand in an application and be working in Tesco a week payer.
We didn’t tell her we had a new car for a while as we knew what would happen. One Friday she called ‘can you put credit on my mobile and fix my curtains!’ I suggested we do it that night as we were passing to go to the supermarket (we also offered to get her shopping at that time. She came outside looking passed off and said ‘so you won’t be coming tomorrow? I wanted to go to (local town)’ in other words she wanted to use his as a free taxi. To be fair he put her in her place ‘mum I don’t earn what I did and don’t have money to be running all over in the car!’ Also he was vulnerable due to his autoimmune disease and she demanded he he come inside to fix her curtains (it was one hook that had come loose, she doesn’t close them as she had blinds.) he said ‘I’m not meant to due to Covid…’ she then said’stop being so ridiculous it’s ok if it’s family’ no it’s not. She always tries to manipulate others. She kept forcing us to have his aunt and uncle over to our new house when we barely have any contact with them. ‘They are just desperate to see the house!’ They were embarrassed when we told them and his aunt (who I’d love as mil) said ‘that’s your mother just sticking her nose in as usual’.
We don’t tell her if we’re on annual leave as we used to make that mistake and she’d try and monopolise our time.
The latest one was her covid jab, he had just started at his new full time job and was in training. She demanded he drive her to her appointment during a time he had to be in training . When he said no she cried, screamed, tried to cajole him ‘can you not just take me?’ Over and over, called to demand the bus times and train times and made an utter show of herself. In the end a church volunteer got stuck with her. She couldn’t seem to understand he couldn’t leave his mandatory training at 11am, drive 20 minutes, take her to her appointment, drive back without being in trouble.
This is just some of the things she does but DH had got better at hIs boundaries. Although phantom illnesses come out the woodwork, the ‘shadow on her lung’ that the doctor can’t see on a chest x-Ray, the ‘suspected bowel cancer’ that was wind….