Rude kid or am I too sensitive?

[Wanderinstar80]

So DD age 6 had her classmate over for a playdate. We live in an affluent area but in the smaller houses in the area. DDs friend lives in a larger house. She is very chatty and commented that we "need to move house, your kitchen is tiny and you only have two bedrooms". She was also questioning us on where we sit to eat as no room anywhere for a dining table.

I felt like saying "it's rude to comment on how other people live" but instead said that moving house requires a magical element called money.

We definitely do need to move, we have a DD and DS sharing a room atm but it won't happen for a few more years as I'm a student so nowt we can do about it just now. I was annoyed at the comment but am I just being too sensitive?

Honestly-shes6&yelling it as she see's it-it probably only cuts as you'd like what she suggested,dnt worry about it..like u said,if you had a money tree...we've had large houses with dual living&currently a smaller ocean front apartment..we've never used a formal lounge or dining table unless "entertaining"and manage perfectly well on the recliners in front of tv or out on the balconywhats with the pretensions/wannabe class-thing that says meals are consumed in a formal setting around a dining table-i grew up in UK&dont understand the obsession tbh

A child in our family told my mother in law ‘wow your house is tiny’. Child lives in a house that could fit MILS entire house in their hallway. She was a similar age at the time. Just an observation I’d say. Children tell the truth as annoying as the comment may have been. I think meeting this with a response like there are all different sizes of houses and that’s ok helps children understand we are all different, even if there was a bit of snobbery picked up from parents.

I think OP's response was much rude who tries to put down a 6yo?

OP agrees with the child, the response is yes it would be nice to have a bigger house one day.

That's 6 year olds for you!

@ExpressDelivery rude children turn into rude adults because no one ever corrects the little darlings, personally I agree with the OP she sounds a right rude little madam (not the OP the child !!)

[quote lollipoprainbow]@ExpressDelivery rude children turn into rude adults because no one ever corrects the little darlings, personally I agree with the OP she sounds a right rude little madam (not the OP the child !!) [/quote]
I think it’s a bit much to expect six year olds to know the full nuances of what is ans is not rude. It would be very different if this was an older child. But at six, no I’d not expect them to understand every nuance of every conversation and how to comment.

I’m sure her parents would be mortified but really she was just stating fact and probably a fact she heard from the ops daughter.

It’s difficult for six year olds to fully understand it’s rude to tell someone the truth in some scenarios and not others.

[quote lollipoprainbow]@ExpressDelivery rude children turn into rude adults because no one ever corrects the little darlings, personally I agree with the OP she sounds a right rude little madam (not the OP the child !!) [/quote]
Yeah, if no one corrects her behaviour she might grow up to be the sort of adult who calls a 6 year old nasty names...

And I agree that someone should tell her that it's rude and explain why. Gently, not by making a sarcastic comment about magic money.

@NoKnit

Seriously how do you eat without a table?

Oh to have experienced such privilege that you can't imagine being able to eat without a dining table.

[quote lollipoprainbow]@ExpressDelivery rude children turn into rude adults because no one ever corrects the little darlings, personally I agree with the OP she sounds a right rude little madam (not the OP the child !!) [/quote]
But what OP did, didn't correct the "little madam" (nice casual sexism btw) at all. It just set a PA example, which probably went over the child's head. If OP had said "yes it would be nice to move, but it's rude to criticise someone else house", that would be different.

@ExpressDelivery sorry should i have said rude little man ?? How is saying madam sexist ?? Give me strength !!

@Winemewhynot and @NoKnit - pair of you really need to educate yourselves and in future think before you speak. Children can still eat well without a table, how do you think they managed back in the day before the luxury of dining tables and chairs? People would sit together on the floor, now we have sofas and so forth. It is doable you know so next time don’t make people feel like shit.

You wouldn't have said rude little man, that's the point.

@ExpressDelivery how do you know. ? Can you read minds.?!