I really don't need a male, 24-year-old sports coach mansplaining exercise and weight loss to perimenopausal women, thank you very much

[Annoyance]

That is all.

He's not anyone I work with, just someone I got into a conversation with and he started giving me unsolicited "advice".

Just fuck off.

@Ozanj

If the advice was to move more and eat less it was probably good advice.

Oh and op couldn't have worked that out for herself?

So only elderly ladies are allowed to give exercise and weight loss advice to perimenopusal women. Got it.

Hurrah, the carb police have arrived

@Sparklingbrook

So only elderly ladies are allowed to give exercise and weight loss advice to perimenopusal women. Got it.

What are you talking about re elderly? The op said she was peri menopausal.

@Bryonyshcmyony
Are you in that camp yet? If that is your experience, crack on. But if not
it's a bit like telling a woman there's no such thing as period pain, or child birth is just mind over matter, because that's what it was like for you.

Yes @Neondisco but the advice giver was male and 24 years old...

Just to be on the safe side only take advice from those that have been through it personally.

@Bluntness100

Okdoke. Do you have a question?

This is not AIBU, she doesn't need a question.

[quote Timeforanewnamemethinks]@Bryonyshcmyony
Are you in that camp yet? If that is your experience, crack on. But if not
it's a bit like telling a woman there's no such thing as period pain, or child birth is just mind over matter, because that's what it was like for you.[/quote]
Yeah I'm 54, been on HRT for a few years, just stopped it. Gave up sugar 2 months ago at dds suggestion and feel better than I have for years.

I could understand if you were saying unsolicited or unprofessional advice, but seems odd to focus on the fact he is a man, as plenty of men if qualified are more knowledgeable about the biology of health and fitness in peri menopausal women than someone who has been through it just speaking anecdotally. Also of course female fitness coaches too, but you mentioned a bloke.

@Bagelsandbrie

Just because he’s young and a man doesn’t mean he can’t be knowledgeable about women’s issues. Would you feel the same about a male midwife or a male gynaecologist?

Yes, who wouldn't? The key word is unsolicited.

@Sparklingbrook

Yes *@Neondisco* but the advice giver was male and 24 years old...

Just to be on the safe side only take advice from those that have been through it personally.

Yeah, that'll be me. Not much thanks for my advice though 😅

Still waiting for OP to say what offended her....

The op stated it was unsolicited advice. This isn't about someone wanting to know and not appreciating the person giving the advice this is about a man deciding what she needed to know without her input.

This is not AIBU, she doesn't need a question

Even in Chat there tends to be some indication of what response the OP is after. Otherwise it's just a statement.

The worst symptom of perimenopause for me was often being too quick to take offence and often being utterly unreasonable. Just saying.

I think using the expression 'mansplaining' is the same (and as bad as) the term 'Karen'

@Sparklingbrook

This is not AIBU, she doesn't need a question

Even in Chat there tends to be some indication of what response the OP is after. Otherwise it's just a statement.

And yet, somehow, many people have managed to respond.

@MrsDThomas

Still waiting for OP to say what offended her....

It's in the title. Mansplaining.

@gardeninggirl68

I think using the expression 'mansplaining' is the same (and as bad as) the term 'Karen'

"Karen" is a way to talk down to women. So is mansplaining. That is how they are similar. Both patronising and irritating.

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A handy flow chart.

@Bryonyshcmyony

The worst symptom of perimenopause for me was often being too quick to take offence and often being utterly unreasonable. Just saying.

You know what I take offence at unsolicited advice that has nothing to do with the topic in hand. Say you are discussing a favourite holiday destination with a stranger in a queue and they suddenly said you know you really should pack in the chocolate and take up running. Who wouldn't be offended because it is fuck all to do with them.

@Bluntness100

Okdoke. Do you have a question?

Do you need a question in chat?

Is that what happened?

And yet, somehow, many people have managed to respond.

Asking for more info. Or just guessing what the OP wants to say.

@Bryonyshcmyony

Is that what happened?

There will be an elaborate drip feed to come I'm sure....