Liz Jones' ex husband, Nirwal Dhaliwal, writes excoriating account of marriage to Liz Jones

[FreshFreesias]

Liz Jones's ex wrote a pulverising article about their marriage yesterday.

I couldn't blame him really, as she writes about him nearly every week in really dismissive terms, and there are always 2 sides to a story.
She always describes lavishing him with expensive gifts and how rotten, lazy and ungrateful he was, but he actually walked away with no money at all - to his credit as at that time she was very well paid.

He writes: My ex is the newspaper columnist Liz Jones who, during our time together, turned her one-sided take on our relationship into a lucrative industry, churning out thousands of articles. I still appear in her work now, despite not speaking to her in 12 years.<br /> I came to live in a gilded Islington cage, lavished with unrequested gifts, and holidays as Liz spent some of the fortune she made from writing about me – mostly derisively – no doubt in the hope that I wouldn’t leave.
Our marriage was doomed from our wedding day: an occasion I felt swindled into, having never proposed. She arranged it without my knowledge; I found out when I discovered a receipt for the country estate. Confronted with it, she declared she’d already told the world in her column – which I no longer read – and would look a fool. She then broke down in tears, robbing me of my anger as I comforted her and agreed.
Having been depicted as little more than a gigolo, I forwent a small fortune that would have given me stability, and have lived a financially precarious life since. Naively, I had hoped she would stop pouring scorn on me in print, but she has continued to do so, banking cheque after cheque in the process.

Her writing, of course, never gave any sense of my vulnerability. The working-class product of an immigrant home wracked by alcoholism, violence and insolvency, I was, in my 20s, always going to fall under the spell of a wealthy older woman who promised me a lifestyle and security that I’d never imagined for myself'.

Just goes to show that there are always 2 sides to every story, and while Jones always portrays herself as a victim, the truth is more nuanced.

www.telegraph.co.uk/family/relationships/toxic-truth-age-gap-relationship-older-women-escape-moral/

[FlorrieLindley]

She had a breast reduction in her 20s, and for some time referred to it as a mastectomy, until outraged readers called her out on it.

[Thoughtsfortheday]

@FreshFreesias

I just looked up the Nellie the horse story and am appalled.

I can’t find this, can anyone link or explain?

[ToffeeNotCoffee]

@PearlFriday

Did she report what david had said to her?

Yes she did. In her column. She had booked a table at a big deal restaurant. Made a huge fuss getting ready i.e. endless beauty treatments and infinite detail regarding her outfit. As usual.

Shortly after arriving they were having a glass of wine. As he was drinking on an empty stomach, it went straight to his head and he just let rip.

[FreshFreesias]

A copy of a post from Nellie's owner:

^"Despite you assuring me that Nellie would be kept alone, she was put in with other horses who ran her ragged, despite this, you kept her in with the ponies, one of which bullied her quite badly. You and your vet subjected her to many unnecessary invasive treatments.

You NEVER had to purchase feed for her, despite your lies to the contrary. Every time I visited I brought more than enough....that goes for the bute and riaflex she was having, I brought DOUBLE the amount that she needed. But you've conveniently forgotten that too.

I offered to bring a trailer load of the bedding I was using for her but you told me NOT TO and that you wanted her on straw. I offered to pay for livery & you said not to worry, she'd keep Dream company because Dream had to come in during the summer months because of her laminitus.

2 £40 plants in 2 £50 pots are NOT tiny....not all of us can shop at Harrods garden center sweetie. Neither is my leaving over £2000 worth of rugs and equipment for you to use with your horses. If you're that skint, ebay them.

Also why on earth did a healthy horse arrive at your yard only to be dead less than 4 months later? She was in full work and as fit as a flea. You were going to ride her because you were scared of your own horse which is the only reason you had her saddle in the first place. Yes that saddle that when I picked it up was green with mould.
Whilst I'm grateful that you provided a "perfect" home for her, you ignored her needs and the perfect home was far from such. I blame YOU 100% for her death.

And finally;
Not once did you ask if I minded if you wrote all about my horse and her subsequent death in your column, I read about how she was put to sleep in a bloody rag of a newspaper."^

It was a year ago Friday that my mare died. Why she waited a year almost to the day to publish a complete pack of lies I don't know. But I will be seeing a solicitor this week regarding defamation of my character as well as tarnishing the memory of my horse unless she apologises PUBLICLY in the meantime.

and

She doesn't need to reply here. I've complained to the press complaints commission & they are looking at my complaint. I want a written published apology, an insincere reply to a post on facebook isn't going to do it.

The PPC found for the owner.

[PearlFriday]

[quote ToffeeNotCoffee]@PearlFriday

Did she report what david had said to her?

Yes she did. In her column. She had booked a table at a big deal restaurant. Made a huge fuss getting ready i.e. endless beauty treatments and infinite detail regarding her outfit. As usual.

Shortly after arriving they were having a glass of wine. As he was drinking on an empty stomach, it went straight to his head and he just let rip.[/quote]
oh right, I'd thought he was too good to be true the way she wrote about him, although she dismissed qualities that seemed kind and decent.

[VangogohsEar]

Never heard of this person, let me guess, The Daily Heil?

[butterpuffed]

Yes it is, she does a column in You magazine which comes with it.

I think she's wired in a different way to the rest of us, she has a different 'take' on conversations, very irritating !

She goes on lots of dates , not sure whether imagined or not, and always mentions the name of the designer clothes and bags that she uses. Maybe she is paid for doing that or perhaps just bragging as she hasn't learned from being made bankrupt.

I read her articles for the comments, some of them are very funny

[BronwenFrideswide]

I recall her regaling how she wouldn't have her mother to stay with her or live with them because her mother's wheelchair would leave marks on the floor of her Georgian house and how shocked and appalled Nirwal was by her callous attitude.

This is the woman who sneered at her mother in print because her mother brought some Rich Tea biscuits with her to the hotel where Liz had her wedding. Her writing about her mother because her mother didn't work and instead stayed at home raising children is so nasty, judgemental and dismissive it's repulsive.

The story about Nellie, the fact she owed vets and feed suppliers thousands and yet expected them to jump to her tune and continue to provide services and goods free gratis because she was Liz Jones don't you know.

Liz is not an animal lover she is a collector, all her animals are trophies to her. In my opinion she does not look after them well at all they all appear to be out of control, her Border Collies in particular. Border Collies need a way more than they are being given by her and that's why hers behave the way they do.

[FadoFado]

LJ has always come across as a deeply damaged person. Utterly self-obsessed and I’m sure awful to be around, but my overriding emotion towards her is pity.

Her ex seems a bit of a tit though. He’s long since wrung all there is to wring out of his long since ended relationship with Jones. Move on, you moaning Minnie.

[Niceicebaby]

Her podcast is unpleasant and bitch.
Her column in thes unpleasant and bitchy.
Her new book is badly written with an unpleasant racist undertone even if the fatshaming is ignored.
Looks like the Tattle thread on her is right having read this on here.

[FullMoonInsomnia]

I think she’s like Katie Hopkins . Neither seem to care at all what people think of them. They seem to feed off attention and need to be provocative. Both seem in some perverse way to enjoy being disliked. They are both very strange people.

[Niceicebaby]

Very damaged but also very damaging, yes.

[dworky]

Nah, she might be self absorbed & chronically insecure but he is a total prick.

[BronwenFrideswide]

I am sure she will make at least one column out of this thread, LJ is not a fan of MN, the full I'm a victim of those nasty mummies will be trotted out endlessly.

[justasking111]

@BronwenFrideswide

I am sure she will make at least one column out of this thread, LJ is not a fan of MN, the full I'm a victim of those nasty mummies will be trotted out endlessly.

😂😂

[FreshFreesias]

Despite what I've written, I just listened to the podcast, some of which was about how many thousands of horses (many of them ex race horses) have gone to slaughter since 2019, and thought it was pretty good as well as educational.
I do think she is self-absorbed, won't admit she's ever done anything wrong and is fairly misanthropic, but I do think she has a good side.

[BronwenFrideswide]

but I do think she has a good side.

Disagree, she tries to give the impression she has a good side.

[SquirryTheSquirrel]

the latest with her wearing a fat suit

I saw that article and thought it was a bit 'off'. 'I now know what it's like to be morbidly obese because I've worn a fat suit for half a day' - er, no, you don't.

I do sympathise with her because she suffers from an eating disorder but she would be better placed writing from her own perspective, rather than trying to appropriate obesity.

[Earthling2000]

Squirry. I agree re the fat suit. It’s like blindfolding yourself so you know what blind people’s lives are like or putting on a hijab so you know what it’s like to face Islamaphobia. It doesn’t work and is insulting to blind people or Islamic women or whoever you are trying to imitate. Far better to write about her own experiences - anorexia, women in the media, menopause or whatever.

[Clarice99]

I've always felt sorry for LJ. She's a sad character, lots of 'mental baggage', comes across as quite neurotic and this makes her vulnerable.

I have no sympathy for her ex Nirpal. He knew what LJ was like when he married her. He's good at playing the victim, I'll give him that.

[BronwenFrideswide]

The similar 'old' woman one was awful, I know a lot of woman of the age Liz was supposed to be portraying in that article and not one single one of them looks or behaves anything like she did, it was so insulting and ageist.

The fact Liz cannot see or doesn't care when she does these offensive stunts is a pretty accurate insight into her character.

[AuntMasha]

Didn’t Liz write about how her hypnotherapist diagnosed Liz’s sister as having a Cluster B personality disorder?

When most people fall out with a sibling, they tend to have a civilised discussion, arrive at a workable compromise and make up. Liz gets some unqualified practitioner to label you with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

[TooBigForMyBoots]

When most people fall out with a sibling, they tend to have a civilised discussion, arrive at a workable compromise and make up. Liz gets some unqualified practitioner to label you with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

She must be a Mnetter.

[AdaThorne]

@TooBigForMyBoots

When most people fall out with a sibling, they tend to have a civilised discussion, arrive at a workable compromise and make up. Liz gets some unqualified practitioner to label you with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

She must be a Mnetter.

I would bet money she lurks around here reading what everyone is posting about her.

I actually met her through work a few years ago and she was weirdly disappointing. I've read her columns for a long time so knew what a vacuous, self-obsessed, self-important snob she was. But the columns almost have a self awareness or self mockery to them. and I was hopeful she might not be as atrocious as she seemed, that it was a kind of persona. Sadly nope. She was just horrible to everyone she met behind the scenes but switched on the knowing self deprecating persona for the crowd of baying women at the event she was appearing at.

[Niceicebaby]

Didn't she actually wear a hijab for a day for an article as well?