Husband's employee has taken/stolen my pain medication

[6demandingchildren]

This is a message expanding what happened today, it's from me to a good friend as it saves me typing it all out again, sorry it's long and probably complicated.
This is the message
I'm so angry right now and I was going to chat tomorrow but in too much pain to sleep.
Obviously we only have 1 week until holiday so we need to try and make some extra money as we won't be able to earn anything while we are away and we need money while away so the pressure is on.
We decided to go into work today to list as much as we can to sell on eBay.
Dh then had to go to the building site as the tree surgeon was going to be their early as he needs to do his bit before we can get the electrics in, so I said I would go to the warehouse on my own.
I have run out of tramadol at home but knew I had 6 at work so decided to wait until I got there as I'm in so much pain and the co-codamol isn't touching the pain.
I get to work and do a few things before settling down to a cuppa and 2 pills.
I go to get my tablets and they are gone, I look round and can't find them so go to the car and as I knew nothing in there so I phone dh who said employee pinched 1 tablet and they are on her desk.
I look everywhere and can't find them so phone employee and she said she has them in her bag.
I have spent the day in agony and I was also angry at dh as I thought he had given them all to her.
Met dh at home and he is also angry with her as he said she could have one then a bit later saw the strip on her desk and questioned why she wanted one when she had a strip she said they were the ones he said she could have and he said no, he explained that he said she could have 1 not all of them and to put them back on my desk as I need them.
But instead of putting them on my desk she put them in her bag and took them home and I doubt she will return them as she will of taken them all.
I'm so angry as she has stolen from me.
Sorry that was so long but I need to vent.

For context she knows I have 3 prolapsed disks and a spinal fracture as well as other medical issues, but she is also a family friend.

I am in so much pain I can't sleep and it's worse as I have not kept up with the pain relief.

Aibu to be so angry or could it be a honest mistake? (But I honestly can't see how)

[6demandingchildren]

In the messages between them it proves he didn't allow her any, she stole them he confronted her about the theft. I did think it was strange as he is quite anti medication.
I was there alone as we need to make some extra money for our holiday and dh got called away.

[Mandalay246]

Even if she did steal them - it's hard to tell, the story keeps changing - you should not have them sitting in a drawer in your desk. The whole thing sounds very odd - why do you need someone to administer the medication for a start? You also seem rather vague about your medication - if you need it so badly why did you get to the stage where you ran out of it at home? Why did your DH originally lie?

[Datingandnoideahowto]

The drawer isn’t locked. It’s not the same as nurses medication trolleys.

[Datingandnoideahowto]

If you need someone else who needs to be able to administer medication in an emergency, why were you on your own? That sounds so dangerous for you.

And you need to lock your desk. Or get a locked medicine box. If your DH has a key on him it won’t take long to unlock.

[SunSunSunshine]

[quote girlmom21]@SunSunSunshine that's not the same as him physically giving it to her and saying 'take this, it'll help'. He wouldn't get a bloody manslaughter charge for it like you're claiming [/quote]
He is the employer he offered his employee a controlled drug. If she dies from taking it yes he could be up on a manslaughter charge.

[nimbuscloud]

When you spoke to her on the phone did you not ask her to bring them straight back to you?

[6demandingchildren]

This is what I keep them in and other medication, I have 3 of these, 1 for work one at home and one at my caravan.
But she knows the code to get into it as she has to. But she could of taken the whole bag but she went in my drawer and took what she wanted and stole from me.
Dh will be speaking to her later.

[daisypond]

I can’t believe people are saying you are overreacting. You definitely are not.

[Datingandnoideahowto]

Something about this is just so confused.

[LemonTT]

@6demandingchildren

SHE WAS NOT GIVEN THEM IT TURNS OUT SHE STOLE THEM.
please if you can't read all the posts at least read mine for updates.
Only 3 people can get into my office, me dh and her, she knows where I keep my medication as she might have to administer some if DH is not around.

I think you need to consider things a bit more.

By your own admission your husband has lied about a very serious matter. He has sacked someone and you are publicly accusing her of theft and being a drug user. Based on the story of your husband who has lied.

Your husband better hope that this friend isn’t a drug seeker. Because someone like that would be willing to lie and say he at least gave them to her and at worst sold them to her. Because that would be what a drug seeker would do. A sacked and disgruntled employee might do the same thing.

All you know at the moment is that your drugs went missing and your husband lied about his role in it.

[Datingandnoideahowto]

Has she been appropriately trained to administer your medication? Has she taken on that role voluntarily? Is it documented and recorded that she isrequired to give you meds !?

[Datingandnoideahowto]

And yeah. As PP says. Your husband is lying.

[iloveeverykindofcat]

I'm completely confused. He didn't offer, but she knows the code? You might need them in an emergency, but they don't really work and you don't use the full prescription, but you don't have spares? None of this makes sense.

[Jakethekid]

@Datingandnoideahowto

Something about this is just so confused.

I thought the same. Theres a lot going on in this scenario

[Datingandnoideahowto]

@iloveeverykindofcat

I'm completely confused. He didn't offer, but she knows the code? You might need them in an emergency, but they don't really work and you don't use the full prescription, but you don't have spares? None of this makes sense.

That’s what I mean too.

You can’t be left alone because you need someone to administer emergency meds but you can be left alone.

[6demandingchildren]

To be honest I was shocked she took them and I know her and I know their is no way she would of brought them back to me as it was over 24 hours and their would be none left.
I'm leaving dh to deal with her as I just need some sleep.

[gogohm]

You need to lock controlled prescription meds away, fine to give your husband the code but nobody else, you admitted they were in an unlocked drawer for ease of access. What if your child got hold of them? Coded bag or safe is perfect for work too

[SunSunSunshine]

@6demandingchildren

SHE WAS NOT GIVEN THEM IT TURNS OUT SHE STOLE THEM.
please if you can't read all the posts at least read mine for updates.
Only 3 people can get into my office, me dh and her, she knows where I keep my medication as she might have to administer some if DH is not around.

Your story keeps changing....

[6demandingchildren]

Yes she is trained to administer my injections when I need them as is DH my daughter and one of my sons.
I think the confusion lies with me as I'm rather muddled with my sentences.

[Jakethekid]

If you know her, know shes been on the medication before but isnt now and know thay within 24 hours she would have taken the whole lot why would you have trusted her in the first place to know where you keep them? Very confusing

[6demandingchildren]

SunSunSunshine you have obviously missed a few posts.

[5zeds]

Are you sure your husband didn’t sell them?

I’m assuming the other medication is the emergency medication the employee needs access to and you just keep the pain meds with it? Don’t do that.

[SunSunSunshine]

@6demandingchildren

SunSunSunshine you have obviously missed a few posts.

No I think you've realised your husband has screwed up big time and you are now trying to change the story so he doesn't get into any trouble.

[DeathMetalMum]

I agree it doesn't make sense. Even knowingly leaving yourself with only six tablets when you know how difficult it is to get in touch with the GP for a prescription right before the weekend. You probably would have ran out over the weekend anyway regardless of them being stolen.

You also need to store them more securely than in a drawer in the office.

[LemonTT]

@6demandingchildren

To be honest I was shocked she took them and I know her and I know their is no way she would of brought them back to me as it was over 24 hours and their would be none left.
I'm leaving dh to deal with her as I just need some sleep.

Tablets as per the OP or injections?