Did I handle this right with DD?

[Chocolateemergency]

Was sitting on the floor changing DD2’s nappy, DD1 (3) asked for a snack and I said yep no problem let me just finish this. Carried on with what I was doing and DD1 walked over to me and smacked me round the head.

I asked her why she had done that, she said she didn’t know so I sent her to her bedroom. I followed straight up, quickly put DD2 in her cot, then went into DD1 and explained that she was having a 3 minute time out in her room to think about why she hit mummy.

I stood outside her bedroom door the whole time, she was crying and shouting for me to let her out. She could have opened the door herself the whole time.

According to DH I’m a bad mum and she’s going to hate me when she grows up.

@Chocolateemergency

DD got up this morning, came into me and completely off her own back said sorry for yesterday and gave me a big hug. Melted my heart and me feel like I am doing something right!

That is good it shows that when her emotions arent overwhelming her she can be rational about it. She recognises she shouldnt do it when she is outside.

Now she just needs to manage her emotions at the time and that is a difficult one.

Your role here is to as much as possible avoid situations (hunger is a MASSIVE trigger for tantrums) so with the snack make sure her hunger levels are managed so it doesnt kick off like that.

But also recognise that you cant always avoid and just let her safely get her emotions out when she can

And talk to your husband - the fact that he is on the sidelines rather than helping