Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

This the most amazing thread! I've not seen it before.
I have so many worries at the minute but I'm almost too scared to write them down. Clinging on & trying to keep my family together like we used to be.xx

lizzie

Pass your worries here lass. They can remain nameless. I don’t mind anonymous worries.

I just need to know that they can be pummelled into cushion shape.

If you are clinging on still, then you still have hope. If you have to let go? Then we have got you for as long as you need.

🌻 x

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

lizzie

Pass your worries here lass. They can remain nameless. I don’t mind anonymous worries.

I just need to know that they can be pummelled into cushion shape.

If you are clinging on still, then you still have hope. If you have to let go? Then we have got you for as long as you need.

🌻 x

Your message is so lovely it made me cry! Thank you.

We used to be such a lovely, happy family - I almost can't look at the photos around the house.

My daughter had a breakdown/burnout last year that saw her in a children's mental health unit. She's 11. It breaks my heart that her childhood is being torn apart. She's been diagnosed with ASD and anxiety and it like someone has flicked a switch- she's a completely different child. The stresses are tearing my family apart - the tension is unbearable.

She worked so hard to get back to school & we're so, so proud of her. However she has deteriorated over the summer break and I'm now 99% convinced she won't start high school. She won't leave the house. She used to love all our days out. I feel like I'm her full time carer.

We're all so sad & worried about her future.

@LizzieBet14 you poor things ❤️

Park as much of it as you can, right here . @SheldonesqueTheBstard is on it , and her squishing of all worries is renowned, far and wide . I shall be fielding, lest any escape . We shall hold your fears for your lovely DD tenderly and fiercely.

You can just let it all go for now. Just be. No more fretting 💐

[quote 2018SoFarSoGreat]@LizzieBet14 you poor things ❤️

Park as much of it as you can, right here . @SheldonesqueTheBstard is on it , and her squishing of all worries is renowned, far and wide . I shall be fielding, lest any escape . We shall hold your fears for your lovely DD tenderly and fiercely.

You can just let it all go for now. Just be. No more fretting 💐[/quote]
Oh goodness me - thank you. Why is it when people are nice to you, it makes you cry??

My mum & dad only know a watered down version. They honestly couldn't cope with the truth. They almost fall apart if either of the kids have a stomach bug. We hide so much from them & it's exhausting.

Thanks for listening ❤️xx

Ththankyou Hawkeye and Anne
Worries well minded! Things seem a little bit better this morning!

My heart breaks for your dd and for you. Showing my age but gone are the days when a bike and a TinyTears were all you needed to make you happy.

There are so many pressures and images reminding you that you just aren’t ‘enough’ or you don’t quite have it all - it is destabilising for an adult let alone a bairn. And even harder in these times of unrest and Covid. Anxiety is bad enough. It seems almost cruel to have a condition that also can upset your sense of self in this world or indeed contribute to or cause the anxiety.

Forgive my ignorance as I don’t really know about ASD so if I’ve spoken out of turn or said something bad, please know that no offence was meant and it came from a place of compassion.

The anxiety I know of.

With the benefit of age you can see or realise that no matter who or what you are, we bring our own little bit of special to the table. All it takes is love and time to know that you shine. Everyone does.

I will send love and light your way while I sit heavily (10 tonne sheld here) on your troubles.

We can’t make it all go away but we can march alongside you on your path.

With sleep and an outlet to talk, things often don’t feel so very bleak.

There is always someone here to soothe. (Shifts and time zones permitting). If you throw something our way, it will nestle where it lands.

Allow us to carry you for as long as you need. 🌻 x

Shine on lizzie and lizziedd✨ ✨

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

My heart breaks for your dd and for you. Showing my age but gone are the days when a bike and a TinyTears were all you needed to make you happy.

There are so many pressures and images reminding you that you just aren’t ‘enough’ or you don’t quite have it all - it is destabilising for an adult let alone a bairn. And even harder in these times of unrest and Covid. Anxiety is bad enough. It seems almost cruel to have a condition that also can upset your sense of self in this world or indeed contribute to or cause the anxiety.

Forgive my ignorance as I don’t really know about ASD so if I’ve spoken out of turn or said something bad, please know that no offence was meant and it came from a place of compassion.

The anxiety I know of.

With the benefit of age you can see or realise that no matter who or what you are, we bring our own little bit of special to the table. All it takes is love and time to know that you shine. Everyone does.

I will send love and light your way while I sit heavily (10 tonne sheld here) on your troubles.

We can’t make it all go away but we can march alongside you on your path.

With sleep and an outlet to talk, things often don’t feel so very bleak.

There is always someone here to soothe. (Shifts and time zones permitting). If you throw something our way, it will nestle where it lands.

Allow us to carry you for as long as you need. 🌻 x

Shine on lizzie and lizziedd✨ ✨

Thank you for sitting heavily on my troubles- I love that idea! No offence taken regarding ASD - I should have explained- it's Autistic spectrum disorder. She hid it so well for so long (at school especially). She said the other day, "I've tried to be perfect for years and I'm not doing it anymore". She's only 11 and I feel like she is dealing with adult worries. I'm so worried about all the schooling she has missed and will continue to miss. We have done our best to fill some of the gaps. She's on another downward spiral and I feel powerless to stop it - we love her so much & she deserves to enjoy her life.

Of course she deserves to enjoy her life. What a shame she was under such a burden to be perfect when we are all anything but.

I love the phrase perfectly imperfect and I hope your little lass can come to embrace it.

I don’t know if the spiral can be halted or if you have to wait until she bounces back.

No child should feel they have to carry a load that an adult would struggle with.

If only we could send worry balloons to her 🎈 🎈 🎈 🎈 to lift her.

You poor things x

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

Of course she deserves to enjoy her life. What a shame she was under such a burden to be perfect when we are all anything but.

I love the phrase perfectly imperfect and I hope your little lass can come to embrace it.

I don’t know if the spiral can be halted or if you have to wait until she bounces back.

No child should feel they have to carry a load that an adult would struggle with.

If only we could send worry balloons to her 🎈 🎈 🎈 🎈 to lift her.

You poor things x

Everyone should have a set of worry balloons 😊. It was hard to see her 'story' in writing on here because somehow it makes everything more real. It's sad how quickly some things become your normal. Thank you for listening- it means a lot. Just popping out to get her a chocolate muffin- not the answer of course but it will cheer her up for a few minutes.xx

There is little that can’t be lifted for a wee while with some balloons, some chocolate and a mother’s love.

Especially the last one. 💕

Enjoy x

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

There is little that can’t be lifted for a wee while with some balloons, some chocolate and a mother’s love.

Especially the last one. 💕

Enjoy x

❤️

If somebody could suffocate my worries about my daughter I'll be most grateful.

I've posted about her before here a few days ago. Last night and tonight she has been able to see the lots of her "friends" are at parties that she didn't get invited to. She's just so sad and lonely, there are other issues at school as well and I just don't know how to help her... Feel helpless because as well as being her mum I'm also a teacher! All I can think of is that I need to get in touch with her school, and explain what is going on. She can't carry on like this because her anxiety is through the roof. She had invited a friend round this weekend, they were busy – she now knows they were busy at a party that she wasn't invited to. She feels that she's spent all bank holiday weekend at home whilst everyone else has had fun. I usually stay strong in front of her, but tonight it just got too much and I cried as well. I'm not proud of that because I feel like that I showing my emotions and I've been making her even worse, I just don't know She's now saying she won't tell me about any future problems because she doesn't want to worry me, that's the last thing I want because she needs to express her feelings and I'm pleased that I'm her safe person that she can talk to

Ah @BeautifulTulips poor wee thing. I'll hold that worry and make sure it does not surface. I'm sorry. It's so hard being young ❤️

@BeautifulTulips I hit post too soon.

You are a lovely mum. The fact that you empathized and cried is lovely. It shows get that you get it, that you feel it, and that it is real. Don't feel bad about that!

[quote 2018SoFarSoGreat]@BeautifulTulips I hit post too soon.

You are a lovely mum. The fact that you empathized and cried is lovely. It shows get that you get it, that you feel it, and that it is real. Don't feel bad about that!

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Thank you so much, I want her to tell me her worries and not to feel like she is burdening me. We've had a walk, tried to think about some strategies and I think crying helped us both. She has agreed that I can talk to school if things don't improve. I'm not sure what they can do but she can't be the first to go through this so maybe they will have support ...

I am out of the house for about 15 hours a day with work/commute.

If I could use another 5 every day to pack up the troubles of kids into tight unhoudini parcels I would do it.

Life shouldn’t be hard for little uns.it is beyond heartbreaking.

beautuful tulips you are in such good hands with 2018 I am yowling (can’t sing - sorry) your name to the tune of beautiful dreamer 🎶

Wishing you both peaceful sleeps and beautiful dreams. It’ll make the days slightly more bearable till things get better. 🌻 x

lizzie

I have your worries this evening. I will huff and puff and send some eco balloons to you both 🎈 🎈

May your dreams be full of love and lightness till your days improve too.

Till then - chocolate muffins and mother daughter bosies will see you through the difficult bits.

We are here. We have got you. And we are hoping you feel our support so that you can let go and recharge. 🌻 x

Reporting for duty (although nowhere near as good as @2018SoFarSoGreat or @SheldonesqueTheBstard)!

@BeautifulTulips I’m so sorry your daughter is so sad and lonely. One day she will inevitably find her tribe (as she gets older) and she’ll see that these friendships were a bunch of bullshit anyway and she had a better time with her lovely mum. I know that doesn’t help right now - and kids can be cruel - but it’s all going to come right in the end. 😘

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

lizzie

I have your worries this evening. I will huff and puff and send some eco balloons to you both 🎈 🎈

May your dreams be full of love and lightness till your days improve too.

Till then - chocolate muffins and mother daughter bosies will see you through the difficult bits.

We are here. We have got you. And we are hoping you feel our support so that you can let go and recharge. 🌻 x

Thank you for still thinking of us! The chocolate muffin was well received and I enjoyed a couple of glasses of wine tonight.....

I'm taking my son out for the day tomorrow in
a bid to keep things as normal as possible.

Thanks again

Checking in to mind anyone’s worries and keep them safe till you’re ready to pick them up again. Or to dispose of them quietly under my friends new flower bed...

Hello midnight

I’m about too. Just watching a rubbishy horror film. Not sure how good a move that is but I could shake anyone’s woes into submission. Before you bury them in the border.

#nomercy 😉

Oh @OnceUponAMidnightBeery you posted at midnight. Well done!

I have eaten so much cheese this last week that I think I may resemble a wheel. Not a usual treat but oh, how I do love it in all its forms. So my new (returned!) rotundity shall squish all fears, worries and woes. Bring them on. I'm fueled and ready.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard oh I do love rubbishy horror films! The Horror channel is my secret guilty pleasure well, one of them 😂

Cheese is another guilty pleasure @2018SoFarSoGreat, I am very envious as waiting for payday and reduced to own brand cheddar for my fix 😱🤣

May I ask if you also get weird dreams after cheese? I always thought it was a myth... seems not! Can one thump worries in dreams? If so I’ll employ cheese as yet another weapon in the worry squad!

Patient Zero courtesy of the Horror Channel. Matt Smith going all ewe ess soja serviceman hardman.

Rabies infected violent zombie people.

And he has just serviced Natalie Dormer in the littlest room. It wasn’t romantic.

I’ve seen more rapturous expressions on folk when they’ve been troughing sprouts.