Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

Here’s my weekend update: I’m absolutely exhausted but I accomplished enough to feel productive and relieved. Cleaned out my brother’s storage unit, hung out with his former girlfriend and talked for hours which we both needed, made it back home in one piece though bruised and worn.

Mom and I had an awful row. We will survive.

I came home with only wanted things and no family albatross heirlooms. I threw away things without guilt! Also got rid of a few things today at my own house that I realized were not things I wanted or needed. (Cleaning out someone else’s stuff makes it easier to see how foolish it is to hang on to things you don’t care about.)

Thank you all for taking my worries and making them lighter.

Great advice @Hannayeah but sorry you had to learn that lesson. Well done.

Get some rest now. You've done yeoman's work! Go on. Just rest.

Here is a random fact for you:
"The Burj Khalifa is so tall you can see two sunsets from it in one day"

[quote 2018SoFarSoGreat]@TheSkatesOfCoachBombay well you need to leave that worry (and excitement) right here, cozy in, shut your eyes, and sleep. Two interviews - that is so exciting and I hope you smash them both, then have to come here with worry about which to accept.

Go on, just sleep. We've got you.[/quote]
2018 thank you for your kind words last night. I did really well and was called back withing 2 hours of one interview and offered an amazing career opportunity 😊 I am so happy!

@TheSkatesOfCoachBombay congratulations! I had such a good strong feeling about this - and you did it! I'm really pleased for you. Well done. Phew. Now you can sleep without worry, but come back should you need us. We're always here.

That’s wonderful @TheSkatesOfCoachBombay, congratulations!!

Here again with the crew for anyone who needs worries minded, cuddled, nibbled or otherwise looked after for the night...

@hannayeah you’ve done incredibly well and we’re all cheering you on.

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery

Thank you so much. I appreciate it!

I’m here with the rest of the worry warriors to keep guard over any problems.
I shall wrap them tightly in a blanket and the cat will keep them under close control.

Happy to join and sit on any troubles for tonight.

I have nothing furry, hairy, feathery or scaled for companionship or assistance. Just me and a roll or twelvety of fat.

Hoping that those who need a sleepy tonight will find happy dreams and peace easily. x 🌻

Hi
I'm new here. I think I am about to sabotage yet another relationship but unfortunately this time it is actually with someone decent. I am overcritical and too demanding and feel defective and vulnerable all the time. Pretty sure he will be sick of me soon. Worse thing is he was a friend before we got together so I may end up losing a friend too. I have become an insomniac in recent years and this isn't helping. I need to give him some space I think and stop overthinking things. If anyone is free to safekeep my worries for tonight I would be really grateful.

There's a whole crew here tonight, @tellmetologoffIamaMNaddict. We will hold your worries and fears so that you can just rest. It's OK. Just let it all go for now. We've got you. Sleep. Go on. It will be safe with us.

@2018SoFarSoGreat

There's a whole crew here tonight, *@tellmetologoffIamaMNaddict*. We will hold your worries and fears so that you can just rest. It's OK. Just let it all go for now. We've got you. Sleep. Go on. It will be safe with us.

Thank you so much. What a lovely thread

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

Happy to join and sit on any troubles for tonight.

I have nothing furry, hairy, feathery or scaled for companionship or assistance. Just me and a roll or twelvety of fat.

Hoping that those who need a sleepy tonight will find happy dreams and peace easily. x 🌻

Thank you @SheldonesqueTheBstard, I didn’t realise my multiple chins and belly rolls could be of assistance, but actually of course! They can keep any worries warm and cosy for the night, or smother them depending on the worriers wishes!

That’s if the terrierist doesn’t get to them first of course...

This is such a lovely thread btw, thank you all so much

I sometimes think about the worries as if they are just small anxious children who will behave and feel stronger and less worrisome after a visit to an auntie’s house, with something nice to eat and someone to tell them “there, there”. Perhaps a furry thing to pet or a movie to watch. Like maybe they won’t be so terrible and worrisome after a bit of attention from someone that didn’t conceive them nor nurture them.

I love that, @Hannayeah. I sometimes muse that they have (often suppressed) manners that force them to behave when out in public. Visiting etiquette.

Love it

Love that idea @hannayeah and @2018SoFarSoGreat, I hope mine are better behaved for others too!

Calling in early but I’m afraid I’m going to need you guys tonight.

2 colleagues I love working with have resigned. The boss has been nitpicking about little things and they’ve had enough. He doesn’t see all the things they do do, because he doesn’t work closely with them. Frankly I think they have a case to take to ACAS for effectively bullying them out of their jobs rather than make allowances for certain things they are not able to do (arthritis, hearing problems, depression and anxiety) It’s a family business and he very much cannot see things from anyone else’s point of view.

We’ve been one staff member down all year, now he’s pissed off 2 more.

Logically he’s right- if they can’t do the job, then I kind of understand why he gets frustrated.

Emotionally and morally he’s completely wrong. We work as a team, and compensate for each other’s weaknesses. That is worth far more than a team of perfect robots surely?

He also doesn’t take into account it’s a lot of job and responsibility for basic minimum wage pay 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s awkward hours and strangely there aren’t many queuing up for a job here.

Meanwhile we’re facing one of our busiest months on skeleton staff, holidays have been cancelled, no sign of anyone new joining... and I desperately want to bring all this up tomorrow but really really need the wage.

When I’m feeling better I will post in Legal, as I’m pretty sure he’s ignoring a lot of employment law, but I’ve rambled on enough as it is.

I’m so sorry it was so long.

TL:DR boss has alienated 2 staff members at our busiest time of year because he expects perfection from everyone, 24/7.

Sorry again

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery that sounds awful! Especially during this global pandemic, employers need to find ways to be gentler, more accommodating, wherever we can! I'm sorry you will carry the burden for his short sightedness.

We've got that worry for now, though. You can just park it right here, and it shall behave or else! You get some down time, don't let it intrude on your evening, and especially on your sleep. You will need to be strong and fresh for tomorrow.

Thank you so, so much @2018SoFarSoGreat

Struggling with my own MH right now, not sure how much more I can take before I explode and chuck it in too tbh, but I feel such loyalty to his Mum who started the business, and as I say, really need the wage...

I know it’s going to be brought up tomorrow

If we can park my worries where a tank or monster truck might run over it, I’ll turn a blind eye...

I just want to tell all of you - I had a baby in December 2019 and I was hit with the most extreme anxiety (most probably because I never slept) and the first time I came across one of your threads late at night with a baby that cling onto me at all times I was so taken by it that I cried big, sobbing tears at what a wonderful thing you were all doing.
I never handed over any worries myself (I clung on to them far too tightly for far too long) but my daughter ended up with undiagnosed milk allergies and would sob at night from the buildup of it (not that I knew that was why) and I remember so vividly rocking her and promising her she could give me all her worries and all her sadness and I would look after them while she slept so she could have some rest from them.
I know she didn't understand it, but my husband once heard me and told me it was the loveliest thing, he wished someone could do that for him too.
So I wanted to tell you how much the kindness on this thread touched me, just as an observer, and how very lovely you all are

@zaffa thank you. I read your post and it made me sob cry. Thank you for sharing that beautiful story. I so love that you've integrated this into your little one's life. I hope your anxiety is better 💐

I do feel this is such an honor and a gift to be part of. I'm so enormously touched that people continue to allow us to be of service. I love that our cohort is fluid and full of people who come and give and get support. It may be one of the most important things I get to participate in.

Thank you, all.

So touching reading these posts. I feel my issue is small in comparison but after making some big life changes (all good and positive, no regrets) I’m struggling to sleep most nights.
Wondered if I could give you my insomnia for the night?
I’m off to bed soon and it would be good to leave it behind.

What a lovely thread
Can I please leave something here for tonight?
I'm fine in the day, but as soon as I get into bed I cannot stop thinking about death. I think its because when I was younger my mum told me that dying is "just like going to sleep" but for years on and off I've had terrible anxiety thinking about it. Since I've had children it's got worse, some nignts I literally lie awake absolutely terrified, I have to force myself to stay awake as long as possible as every time I shut my eyes my brain goes into overdrive.
I hate it, it's exhausting and boring and depressing,
and it's been particularly bad the last month or so. I just want to go to bed and feel peaceful and happy.