This thread is an eye opener - so much of who we are stems from our upbringing. Thank God for my parents.
I was born in 1959 - my parents had been married for 11 years and really wanted kids. I always remember my Dad telling me 'you can do anything you want to'. My brother was told the same. As was tradition, when they had been married for a little while, Dad wanted Mum to stop working - she didn't. Their compromise was to buy a little corner shop, where she worked harder than ever. Working his way from the shop floor of a steelworks through the main board director of a quoted company, he was always the first to tell us that Mum 'was the clever one'.
I left school at 18 and chose not to go to university. I au-paired in Germany for a while, then at 19 started my first job. Also got my first credit card - so they were available to single women! I also bought my flat when I was 22 - again, my own mortgage. My Dad was right - I could do anything I chose - because I was brought up to believe that!
I tell the girls at work some of the things that were said and done to me during my earlier working life, and they can't believe that people (men) could get away with that sort of behaviour towards women. Suggestive, personal comments were the norm. Fortunately I was able to brush it to one side, and not let it affect my confidence nor entitlement.
DH and I met and married in 1985 - but I looked after my own taxes. We started our business in 1988 - 50% for each of us, and that has been the way everything has been since.
I knew this hit to pension was coming, but knew that we would be able to cope with it. I know people who struggle, and who have had to carry on working when it's really pushed them, because they need the income. I can't help but feel sad for them.
My DC were born when I was 32 and 34 - they're now adults living their own lives, and I'm very proud of both of them. They too can do anything they choose.
I really can see how bloody lucky I have been with my family and the men in my life. They have always known that women are their equals, and treated us as such.