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To wonder why people are like this

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DuckyMcDuck · 15/07/2021 19:24

DS2 (13) currently plays cricket at county level. He is the only squad member who doesn't go to a private school and all of his kit, bat, bag etc aren't one of the top brands and some comes from Sports Direct.

He's mentioned a few times that some of the boys make barbed comments about this and have teased him in the past about the fact he hasn't ever been skiing or hasn't got the newest trainers but we've always told him to ignore, that children can be mean etc and to Ds's credit, he hasn't seemed overly bothered.

So I went to collect him from training last night as DH was working and stood waiting with the other parents. As DS came out, two women and a man who, obviously not recognising me, were saying some really nasty things about him, along the lines of 'well here comes the charity case' and very obviously laughing at him.

They went very quiet when they realised who I was and did have the grace to look sheepish but I honestly don't understand why they feel the need to be so mean about a child. It's obvious they must say stuff at home which has been picked by by their children.

I'm not sure why I'm posting really as I'm not sure that anyone is going to admit being like that towards a child and so I won't get an answer my question.

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MaMelon · 16/07/2021 17:22

Anyway, sorry - that's not what the OP was asking about Smile

Moomala · 16/07/2021 17:25

Stuck up snobs. Yes it's obvious where some the other kids are getting it from. Sad reflection on them really, shows money obviously doesn't if they feel they have to put a child down to make them feel good about their own lives. Im not sure I would of been as mature as you op, well done.

MaMelon · 16/07/2021 17:25

No-one is sneering - what an odd thing to say. However, when you come out with nonsense like 'just don't have a holiday or buy a new car - it's just a case of priorities, people' you're going to have to accept that posters will respond to that.

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PoppyFern · 16/07/2021 17:28

@MaMelon

No-one is sneering - what an odd thing to say. However, when you come out with nonsense like 'just don't have a holiday or buy a new car - it's just a case of priorities, people' you're going to have to accept that posters will respond to that.
I accepted I worded that wrongly as you'd know if you actually read my posts. It was a question of priorities for ME. I can't afford nice house, car and holiday AND fees like some people assume.
peaceanddove · 16/07/2021 17:32

Ah yes, The Very Recently Affluent. They still feel the ghost of their very average upbringings nipping at their heels and they're utterly insecure and utterly terrified of losing their place on the Nouveau Riche social ladder.

If it's any consolation the private schools around here are filled with the kids who weren't clever enough to get into our (free) grammar schools. The private school carpark is filled to the brim with white Range Rover Evoques and flashy Audis. The grammar school carpark is filled to the brim with 10 year old Volvo's and dusty Peugeot's.

MaMelon · 16/07/2021 17:36

Oh, I read your posts. I'm glad we agree that for the majority of the country who can't afford nice houses, cars and fees it's moot.

BurningRed · 16/07/2021 17:36

I agree with @peaceanddove…

This story is a perfect reminder of how often money cannot buy you class or good manners.

Unfortunately it’s a life lesson for your poor DS. Teach him to hold his head high and ignore these insufferable, insecure snobs. He’ll be a far better man than them at the end of it.

BrozTito · 16/07/2021 17:38

Im glad your son isnt too bothered, he really will realise what scum they were when hes older. Leave him some das kapital to find around the house maybe.

BrozTito · 16/07/2021 17:43

This is a way these animals keep poorer people and minorities out of education, sports, army, politics and certain jobs so they can tell themselves they are the natural elite.

Raaaaaaarr · 16/07/2021 17:54

What complete losers. Obviously they have massive insecurities in life to behave like that.

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DuckyMcDuck · 16/07/2021 18:02

Wow, didn't so many answers - to those saying it's not all private school kids/adults, I am of course aware of that. The squad is about 20 strong, so 19 from private school and there are only about 4/5 mean boys.

I also have friends whose kids go private and they are lovely (wouldn't be friends with them otherwise Smile)

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LadyEloise · 16/07/2021 18:09

OMG - that is horrendous.
Did your ds hear it too ?
How dare they.
He's obviously better at cricket than their dc Smile
I would have to report it.
Surely there is a person in charge of safeguarding the children ?
That is abusive bullying behaviour.
It needs to be reported.
A more vulnerable child and there could be very serious consequences.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/07/2021 19:30

They are utterly pathetic, and not worth a moment of your concern.

We have a neighbour who judges people’s worth by their cars and other possessions. She is a horrible woman who has royally screwed all her kids up.

I hope your ds will not let this sort of pathetic crap upset him. Rise above it!

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DuckyMcDuck · 12/09/2021 17:55

UPDATE

We had the end of season awards ceremony last night and as well as winning an award, DS has also been nominated for a national award by the Coaches.

When this was announced, the Head Coach stressed that the nomination was not just for playing ability but that sportsmanship, personal resilience and being a team player was just as important and he was looking directly at the mean mums as he said this.

When DS and I went to say goodbye to the Coach later, he reiterated what a good season DS has had and mentioned that next season there is going to be a questionnaire sent to everyone involved in the club re sportsmanship/diversity etc it's something they are going to focus on as they are areas they can certainly improve in.

I'm aware this is totally outing so I'm going to have to name change now!

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RubySlippers123 · 12/09/2021 18:11

They should be ashamed OP.
What awful humans!
Make like Michelle Obama & when they go low. You go high.

RubySlippers123 · 12/09/2021 18:11

@drpet49

I would alert the club to these comments. That is disgusting behaviour from the parents.
Yes me too.
RubySlippers123 · 12/09/2021 18:11

@WhereDoILook

Next time....'well I guess you can't buy class'
This!
RubySlippers123 · 12/09/2021 18:12

@DuckyMcDuck

UPDATE

We had the end of season awards ceremony last night and as well as winning an award, DS has also been nominated for a national award by the Coaches.

When this was announced, the Head Coach stressed that the nomination was not just for playing ability but that sportsmanship, personal resilience and being a team player was just as important and he was looking directly at the mean mums as he said this.

When DS and I went to say goodbye to the Coach later, he reiterated what a good season DS has had and mentioned that next season there is going to be a questionnaire sent to everyone involved in the club re sportsmanship/diversity etc it's something they are going to focus on as they are areas they can certainly improve in.

I'm aware this is totally outing so I'm going to have to name change now!

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BlankTimes · 13/09/2021 03:47

What a wonderful update that is OP, your son is a credit to you and the Club and he deserves to go far, that's an excellent outcome.

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