How much money would you give as a wedding gift?

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My goddaughter is getting married and has asked all the guests For money to pay for her honeymoon.

How much would you give? I suggested £50 but my DP says it should be atleast £100.

I am not sure if it’s petty of me but we never get even an acknowledgment or thank you when we send gifts for the children so don’t feel majorly inclined to send them loads of money for their honeymoon.

How much would you send?

My standard is usually £50 for friends and £100 for family.

£100 pp for family

£50

When you said goddaughter I thought £100. Then when you said they don't acknowledge gifts, I downgraded to £50

However much you’d have spent on a gift.

Asking for money is rude and crass.

I would never give money if asked.
Give a gift instead.

For my goddaughter I would give at least £250

30 quid and a nice card. 100 quid indeed. No wonder people ask for money if that's the expectation.

She already has kids with her soon to be husband. It isn't a honeymoon in that case it is just another holiday.

She never says thank you for presents for her children. I wouldn't bother to be honest. Going or giving money

It depends. If it was a plush wedding I'd give more. But if it was a budget do £50 is plenty.

@speakout

Asking for money is rude and crass.

I would never give money if asked.
Give a gift instead.

Why would you give a gift they don't want?

£50 because of the rest of your post, you don't sound that close to her

£50

If it was close family then £100

I also thought £200 when I read goddaughter, but given the info, I'd say £50 is fine.

I have the same dilemma OP, wedding coming up shortly of a friend’s son. As I’ll be going as a single person, I’m thinking £50. Been asking around lots of people and most think that’s reasonable, obviously more if you’re attending as a couple (almost like paying for admission isn’t it?

I think what you can afford and how close you are comes into.

I wouldn't expect anyone to give me more than £50.

Are you going to the wedding? You and DH or more of your family?

£100 as a minimum more if it is more than 2 of you attending.

I would have said £50 but that’s from just me so maybe £100 from a couple.

The two of us are going. No dc invited to reduce costs.

Whatever you can afford should be accepted with grace.

I'd usually say £100. However I can't stand not getting a thank you. So if you think £50 then that's fine. Not like you're likely to get a thank you anyway!

I went to a cousins wedding a few years ago and gave £100 as we were there for the full day, at the time just me and dh. I didn't get a thank you card. I asked my mum and she said she didn't get one either which I thought was shocking. It's pretty standard these days to get cards done with a pic from your wedding day. Even a text would have done though. I was going to send a gift when their baby was born but then I remembered I didn't get a thanks so I thought hmmm I'm not going to bother. My mum and dad did and yet again no thank you.

If you are attending I try and make it at least how much I think they spent on my for the champagne toasts, meal etc. So they are not out of pocket so to speak.

If they are close I’d give them extra so they can put it towards something rather than just pay off debt they’ve accrued for my meal.

Definitely £50 in those circumstances.

For someone I was really close to £100 and a bottle of something fizzy but £50 fine here.

I wouldn't send any money if someone cannot be arsed to say thanks!

£250 for someone as close as a goddaughter