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How much money would you give as a wedding gift?

76 replies

Orangedots · 11/07/2021 17:10

My goddaughter is getting married and has asked all the guests For money to pay for her honeymoon.

How much would you give? I suggested £50 but my DP says it should be atleast £100.

I am not sure if it’s petty of me but we never get even an acknowledgment or thank you when we send gifts for the children so don’t feel majorly inclined to send them loads of money for their honeymoon. Blush

How much would you send?

OP posts:
CrouchEndTiger12 · 11/07/2021 18:36

@Lisamonwesaa

£250 for someone as close as a goddaughter
She isn't close. She can't be arsed to say thank you to her godmother for gifts for her children.
Bargebill19 · 11/07/2021 18:40

I would go with whatever you would have spent on a gift. So if that was £10, that’s what they get. The cash equivalent of whatever gift you would have bought.
Me being petty - zero as they never say thank you.

BakedTattie · 11/07/2021 18:42

For goddaughter I’d give £120

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Pinknoise · 11/07/2021 18:45

I would say what first poster said, £50 for friends, £100 for family.

thefirstmrsrochester · 11/07/2021 18:46

Pinkandwrinkly

Whatever you can afford should be accepted with grace

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Libertyfree · 11/07/2021 20:16

£250 and a little momento to keep.

woodhill · 11/07/2021 20:20

£50, no more. Terrible she did not thank you for gifts in the past

nothanksbarb · 11/07/2021 20:25

We were given £50 as a wedding gift by a few of our family members and I thought it was incredibly generous.

Simbacatisback · 11/07/2021 20:28

£100 plus an Emma Bridgewater jug for friends
£200 plus above family
£400 plus above siblings

Vetyveriohohoh · 11/07/2021 20:31

Normally £100 if just us, £150 if our kids are included and £200ish if it’s someone we really love.

Only time I give less is if wedding is costing us a fortune to go to

LaurieFairyCake · 11/07/2021 20:33

£250 for family (generally Irish people give more though)

Chloemol · 11/07/2021 20:48

None, I don’t send money, it’s grabby, especially to pay for a honeymoon

They get a small gift and lump it

boringcreation · 11/07/2021 22:11

Jesus lads ye wouldn't last a day in Ireland! And are you only giving gifts to get thanked for it? We got up early in the morning the day after our wedding and made sure to thank everyone we met for coming (we thanked everyone on their way out of the church too). Thank you cards are IMO an absolute waste of money.

If you're going on your own it's 100 euros, if there are two of you then 150 euros. If you are close with the couple then 200 euros and for family then 400 plus euros. At the very very least you should give enough to pay for your meal.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 11/07/2021 22:14

£100. I'd stop sending gifts to her kids.

Topzone · 11/07/2021 22:14

£0 for people who never said thank you in the past

osbertthesyrianhamster · 11/07/2021 22:15

Well, the OP doesn't live in Ireland. Why not just charge admission, it'd be more honest.

motogogo · 11/07/2021 22:16

Depends on your means, £50 is a lot to some, for others £250 is nothing

M0rT · 11/07/2021 22:22

I gave my goddaughter €500 when she got married. But we are close and she married young and poor.
Also I'm in Ireland and I think we give a lot more as standard than in the UK.
I would give €100-150 to a friend/family member and €250 to a sibling.

woodhill · 11/07/2021 22:24

@boringcreation

Jesus lads ye wouldn't last a day in Ireland! And are you only giving gifts to get thanked for it? We got up early in the morning the day after our wedding and made sure to thank everyone we met for coming (we thanked everyone on their way out of the church too). Thank you cards are IMO an absolute waste of money.

If you're going on your own it's 100 euros, if there are two of you then 150 euros. If you are close with the couple then 200 euros and for family then 400 plus euros. At the very very least you should give enough to pay for your meal.

What if people are on a tight budget. It costs a lot to attend a wedding Isn't it because you want people at your wedding not what they can provide you with materially
osbertthesyrianhamster · 11/07/2021 22:29

What if people are on a tight budget. It costs a lot to attend a wedding Isn't it because you want people at your wedding not what they can provide you with materially

I've asked this question several times. Never had a good response. You're supposed to magically save for it or go without so you can throw money you don't have at them to save face. On MN the whole 'cover your plate' gets slagged off for being 'American' but it's not. It's Irish from the sounds of it.

FlossyTeacakes · 11/07/2021 22:45

In the circumstances you describe, with never an acknowledgment regarding your gifts for their children, then I would give them £30. I initially thought £50-£100 but now I feel £30 feels right for what you describe

MagicMatilda · 11/07/2021 22:47

We always give £100-£150 but give what you think and can afford. We did ask for anything and were grateful for everything we got and appreciated people’s generosity.

ConsuelaHammock · 11/07/2021 22:49

Minimum of £100

speakout · 12/07/2021 06:03

Asking for gifts is rude in any situation.

ElderMillennial · 12/07/2021 06:26

Maybe 50 or nothing if she doesn't even usually thank you!