Would you be annoyed if your 18 year old was claiming benefits?

[Annoyedandirritated]

My 18 yo dd has never really fit in or had any particular interests or passions.

She has been living with her dad since lockdown but before that was with me full time.

She’s dropped out of college, and for the last year has been working various dead end jobs on a part time basis. She’s now working part time and claiming universal credit. She has no intention of working full time, and is happy to sponge off the state.

I am really upset, I didn’t bring her up to be so lazy. She’s totally well, no disabilities or anything. She says she’s no intention of working full time, as why would she when she can get paid for doing nothing.

What would you do in this situation? She knows how I feel, and that I’m embarrassed by her lack of work ethic and willingness to claim benefits when she’s perfectly capable of working.

Am I being over the top? Should I just hope that she finds some direction? Her dads not bothered, he’s in and out of low paid jobs and doesn’t see an issue with it.

Tbh at not far off her age I was unemployed and felt no compulsion to get a job.
I was recovering from a breakdown caused by working

There were nearly 4 million unemployed and jobs I could do paid less than the dole and housing benefits plus my UB40 got me in to the leisure centre for free. It got me discounts on things like the local cinema and because my friend and I didn’t have to get up for work we were around before the lorry came to collect the past the sell by date fruit and veg and food that the supermarket wouldn’t sell to us.
Don’t know what your dd is doing but I had a really amazing time.

Then I got another job, then had another breakdown, then got another job, then had another breakdown.

Gave up trying to work and have just this week found that everything that was wrong or went wrong in my life was down to the fact I am ADHD.

Can't imagine any reason that she now lives with her Dad.

You have pretty much called her a lazy, benefit fraudster amongst other negative assumptions.

Nice.

@chickenyhead

Can't imagine any reason that she now lives with her Dad.

You have pretty much called her a lazy, benefit fraudster amongst other negative assumptions.

Nice.

Quite frankly OP has explained only what her DD has told her and seriously Catchphrase was a popular TV show simply because all you had to do was say what you see.

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck there’s nothing else to suggest it’s a hamster.

I have literally posted what she’s told me 🙄 thank you to all the people that have given advice, it’s given me a lot to think about