Where in West Yorkshire is posh?

[worktrip]

Moving to this area but have a fairly wide area to choose from. We need to have a clear run in the mornings to Sheffield for work so want to avoid the A1 (which is why North Yorkshire is out) so it looks like the M1 South and possibly the M62 is best. Work journey is currently 45 minutes and I don't want it longer. South yorks is out too because we have family in Wakefield.

Want a nice smallish village with lots of countryside, but not too far out in the sticks. Good senior school and nice standard of living. Leeds is too big and road networks too busy in the mornings.

We have £800K + available for the house. Thanks x

Good God @worktrip. DH is from the arse end of Leeds and MIL was deputy head at a school in an even more arse end bit of Leeds.

Bullying happens across the social strata. It even happened at the dc's elite London day schools. Funnily enough coming from what you would consider to be a dreadful area did not stop DH going to Oxford and becoming a leader in his field. Might have built up a bit of grit and resilience to help him on his way though.

Yorkshire people really needn't let themselves down like this I am sorry but since when is having an egalitarian approach to life been letting yourself down? Perhaps those people you have met are lovely and welcoming because of it.

I grew up in a very diverse village socially with some high levels of deprivation alongside affluent housing but we all played together on the Rec and I think that made us all more accepting of difference not less.

Both DDs went to private London day schools and had to cope with some truly horrendous exclusive behaviour from some of the girls who excluded anyone who wasn’t blonde, below a size 8 and in possession of a lot of social and economic capital. Thankfully they found friends who like them had no time for exclusive behaviour, not surprisingly many had roots in cultures other than the Home Counties.

I can quite understand wanting to live in a country village and not wanting to move to the estate next to the LRI but I really don’t understand why it has to be “posh” which for me implies an exclusive culture, like the WAG towns around Wetherby, where you would need to be getting your kitchen changed every two years to keep up.

Sheffield is the biggest village in England. Not ‘big city’ at all.

And indeed those WAG towns that are known to have unusually high levels of mental illness and suicide.

My mum gets around this problem by telling people that her part of Sheffield is “basically the Peak District” (it isn’t). Would that work for you, OP?

@Emilyontmoor I used the word posh as shorthand for pleasant, friendly, welcoming, inclusive, non judgemental, educated, diverse and relaxed.

Title would have been too long otherwise 🤣. I certainly don't want WAG/footballers territory, but neither do I want drug dealers. Just middle of the road, normal.

I don't really care about the MPs colours.

@Boood

My mum gets around this problem by telling people that her part of Sheffield is “basically the Peak District” (it isn’t). Would that work for you, OP?

Concerned that Sheffield has one if the worse air qualities in the country and littlest DS is asthmatic. ☹️

[quote worktrip]@Emilyontmoor I used the word posh as shorthand for pleasant, friendly, welcoming, inclusive, non judgemental, educated, diverse and relaxed.

Title would have been too long otherwise 🤣. I certainly don't want WAG/footballers territory, but neither do I want drug dealers. Just middle of the road, normal.

I don't really care about the MPs colours. [/quote]
I honestly don't understand posh to mean any of those things. And I'm really not being mean here. It's just a really strange word to use in the context that you meant.

'Friendly and diverse' would have been a clear and concise way of expressing that. You said 'posh' was shorthand for 'naice' upthread...I think we all know what you meant.

How is “posh” synonymous with “diverse”?!

Other than drug addicts, I don’t think anyone wants drug dealers in an area, do they? Generally goes without saying in “where should we move to” threads that people want somewhere pleasant and not next door to a crack den, and clear that your budget is for a so-called “leafy” neighbourhood, without the strange word usage and further doubling down that only wealthy areas are accepting of disabilities (???).

worktrip To me also “posh* means the opposite of those qualities. I also think you are more likely to find communities with those qualities in the suburbs and towns than in villages, unless they are commuter dormitories, which brings its own issues.

Op I grew up in West Yorkshire and until recently was raising my kids there.

I am a higher earner and lived in a nice part of West Yorkshire. I have also been piss poor and lived in normal and not so nice parts.

Bullying happens in all those areas and all the schools regardless of how posh the area or the people attending. I don't blame you for wanting to live in area with low crime, good commute, nice picturesque village.

But, honestly, bullying isn't worse in cheaper areas. I would actually say the schools in the worst areas, are better at dealing with it. In my experience.

My dd attended one of the best secondary schools in the area. The bullying, physical assault and sexual assault cases there were horrifying. We ended up removing her.

Bits of LS12 should do then op

Part of Sheffield is indeed in the Peak District. I live near it.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheffield

In the posh suburbs there is no air quality issues. They’re very very rural.

We want 'posh' because we feel, rightly or wrongly, that DD will be more accepted into the community, as she is at the moment.

Yeah ‘cause people with more money are less likely to bully disabled people than the plebs. 🙄
As a fellow mother of a disabled DD, your snobbery is showing.

@SunshineSum

Dewsbury.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

Part of Sheffield is indeed in the Peak District. I live near it.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheffield

In the posh suburbs there is no air quality issues. They’re very very rural.

Part of it is. Including Broomhill in that is something of a stretch, imo.

Also the M62 is a fucking nightmare in rush hour.

Op,
You don’t have to justify why you don’t want to live in Sheffield or anywhere else.
If you need to commute to Wakefield and Sheffield then Holmfirth is your best bet.
It’s lovely there with really good links.
Maybe have a trip up and have a look around, see how you feel about it.
It’s rural enough to have that village community feel but not so rural that there’s nothing there for your children.

@KingdomScrolls

My friend's parents live in Dore and that's quite posh not sure if it's villagey enough for you though. I know nothing about Yorkshire I've just visited them a few times

That’s South Yorkshire

Yeah Broomhill’s not

[quote worktrip]@Emilyontmoor I used the word posh as shorthand for pleasant, friendly, welcoming, inclusive, non judgemental, educated, diverse and relaxed.

Title would have been too long otherwise 🤣. I certainly don't want WAG/footballers territory, but neither do I want drug dealers. Just middle of the road, normal.

I don't really care about the MPs colours. [/quote]
I don't think 'posh' means what you want it to.

@Trevsadick is quite right. Having grown up in West Yorkshire, I'd say that the qualities you're looking for are often inversely proportional to the wealth of the area, although there are good and bad people to be found anywhere.

@Maireas - I thought exactly the same! it would look very different inside if it were mine

I think rather than using the word ‘posh’ it’s affluent areas you’re looking for. You’ll almost certainly have issues with bullying ect however where ever you live, and perhaps more so if you live in the sticks.

In fact some of the rudest most entitled people I’ve met are the people who you probably deem as being posh..... rural areas from my experience don’t embrace change and differences.