Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

[GloomyWaters]

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

@MargosKaftan a will is a legal document. I am not going to go against my late father's wishes. And frankly your posts on this are now quite offensive.

We live together and I've seen the messages from other girls, he goes out and can't explain where he's going. I don't know why I can't leave him when this isn't the kind of relationship I want, everything other than his cheating is perfect for us.

@leprintemps Honour your fathers wishes, and his legal will. It’s the legal and moral thing to do. I can only imagine those advising otherwise would ‘prefer’ to have known if it was themselves to be so lucky. But as someone who is writing a will right now, finding it difficult indeed, such clauses are not in there for no cause.

@MargosKaftan It’s not her money until she reaches 25.

@Bard6817 thank you for that. I can see that it would be a dilemma if she were wanting to buy a house now, but at nearly 23, and still a student, that's not an option right now.

I'm holding a grudge against someone and I wish I could let it go but I can't.

@callaird
Please ask your GP for help and support. Really sorry you’re feeling like this. Please do talk to your GP. sending love and a hug xx

When I was 13 I had a crush on our town's bus driver. He and dad knew each other and he hired me to do some cleaning/hanging out his washing on the weekends. We kind of had a 'relationship' if you could possibly call it that, and one day he said he would buy me some of the bike pants I used to wear. He got me to put on a pair of his underwear to check my size. Not even my mother, father, best friend etc knows. Only me (and him, but he's now dead). Too embarrassed to tell anyone I wore a 50+ man's budgie briefs for around one minute while he looked. Never told my goldfish or cat or boyfriends/husband.
No one knows but me. And now you all.

@NotMineToTell

I've name changed to share this one... An ultra-religious, powerful political couple in my country had a scandal several years ago when the wife of the couple was exposed for having an affair.

The part of the story that was kept out of the papers due to an injunction was that several months before the story broke the wife had received a blackmail demand for several thousand pounds along with pictures of her kissing her lover. She paid up. The blackmailers went to the press anyway. Following which her husband beat her and sent her to a private mental health facility.

@NotMineToTell - one of them wasn't a 'lockkeeper' per chance?

I've had an eating disorder for over twenty years. It's been pretty bad and I was hospitalised at one point. No one (friends/ family) knews until a month ago when I told DH and he said he'd suspected but didn't know what to do so ignored it. Now he pretends it doesn't exist. It's pretty sad really. It's made me choose not to tell anyone else.
I've just sought help for first time ever.

@GrandmasCat I agree. My daughter is actually very good with money, has always worked while being a student, and has managed to save. She's actually far more sensible than I was with money at her age. If she had said she was wanting to buy a house, (not possible as she is still a student and couldn't get a mortgage) we would have had to perhaps rethink the situation, but it's not an issue at the moment. She knows the value of money, and although she spent some of the money she inherited at 18, she's saved the majority. I think my father would be proud of the lovely young woman she has become.

I've done fetish porn, and similar sex work. Mostly because I enjoyed it.

I think I'm more gay than I've been letting myself acknowledge.

If I knew the bastard who abused my brother, I would want to kill him. Painfully.

My Uncle is leaving his farm in Wales.
It's a stables and Stud... only to me and my two brothers are having... nothing.
He is 90 now. He and my aunt had no children

They never see him or ring him or hang out with him but just expect that they will be included.
I see him a lot and take him out and have done for years because I like him.
I wouldn't care if he left it to an animal charity but I would care A Lot if my idle brothers benefitted.

I've faked every orgasm I've ever 'had' with a partner, including my DH of 16 years 😔

I had nothing from my father or mother when they died but then I knew I wouldn’t,

I’m in the same boat, but I want to see him in his coffin. He’s an alcoholic so time won’t be long....

I never went and picked up my A level results at school. I always have told people I got a B B C but honestly have no idea, I imagine three U's. I never went back to find out

One of the child guests at my first wedding is now really famous.

Once found some x rated Polaroid pics of my dm with her dodgy bf.
No way would I tell anyone irl. Wish I could bleach my eyes.

I have chosen sensible over what / who I really want.

My reply was deleted by Munster because apparently I’m having a hard time of it when actually I’m not, I was just telling the truth about something happening to me.

Everyone thinks I'm recovered from the depression that I suffered from for many years, but I'm not. I have no interest in anything, and do things for a quiet life rather than because I want to.
What I want to do is lie in bed and eat all day and I struggle every day to get past that.
I'm sick of feeling like this, but nothing I've ever tried has helped and I hate the thought people worry about it, so I've just got better at hiding it.

My dad died in January & when me and my sisters were clearing his house out we found women's clothing & boots in his size. Clearly belonging to him. I feel sad that he never told us or maybe felt the burden of this huge secret alone - I would NEVER have judged him.

I'm having an affair with a married man. He thinks we are exclusive. Little does he know I've shagged another 14 men since we've been together

How can he think you’re exclusive when he’s married.

@CokeDrinker

When I was 13 I had a crush on our town's bus driver. He and dad knew each other and he hired me to do some cleaning/hanging out his washing on the weekends. We kind of had a 'relationship' if you could possibly call it that, and one day he said he would buy me some of the bike pants I used to wear. He got me to put on a pair of his underwear to check my size. Not even my mother, father, best friend etc knows. Only me (and him, but he's now dead). Too embarrassed to tell anyone I wore a 50+ man's budgie briefs for around one minute while he looked. Never told my goldfish or cat or boyfriends/husband. No one knows but me. And now you all.

hope you're ok CokeDrinker. might be good to talk to someone professional about this one day? Just to get it out of your head? Good on you sharing here though x