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Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

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GloomyWaters · 04/06/2021 00:23

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

OP posts:
santabetterwashhishands · 04/06/2021 20:15

I'm having a friends with benefits relationship with my neighbour and nobody knows ,they think we are both straight.

ShovellyJoe · 04/06/2021 20:15

I have a relation who had a terrible, terrible time and endured some quite awful events and as a result, had her baby adopted. The baby was adopted by a celebrity couple.

PurpleSproutingSomething · 04/06/2021 20:17

I have a huge crush on/feel madly in love with my best friend's ex.
It's been 8 years.

LindaEllen · 04/06/2021 20:21

When I was 14 I pretended to be someone else for a while online because I hated myself and my life. No harm done but I wish someone had seen me crying out for help.

billybear · 04/06/2021 20:22

give me tips i want a divorce off mine

CornflowerBlue62 · 04/06/2021 20:25

My godfather was a bit of a celebrity with a saintly reputation. When he died quite suddenly, his family received a letter from the queen saying how sorry she was to hear the news. That sort of person.

No one knows of the afternoon when I was 15 and he stuck his hand down my knickers.

You can’t trust anyone.

DeblockadeEuropa · 04/06/2021 20:25

I wiped a used sanitary pad over the mouth section of an open bottle of a former flat mate who was a bully and would constantly steal my food, drinks, items left in my cupboard and break anything of mine he could get his hands on.

It turns out that I had an sti at the time, which I didn’t know... He caught it. He then passed it on to his girlfriend and also his piece on the side. The “mistress” went on to slash his girlfriend’s tires.

He was a terrible person and deserved it.

RideaCockHorseOfCourse · 04/06/2021 20:26

Wow, Sideorderofchips can you tell us your plan?

crazemaze · 04/06/2021 20:31

[quote StarlightLady]@crazemaze - Do you feel shit inside about him not knowing? Or shit inside about doing it?

I participate regularly. And proud of it! It’s a different need. Nothing to be a secret about! It’s normal.[/quote]
I guess more that he doesn't know about it. One time he found one of my toys and I was so ashamed and embarrassed but when I am feeling stressed ot having alone time, its like the best thing ever and I feel bad that I feel that way

crazemaze · 04/06/2021 20:32

[quote Gameofbones]@crazemaze

DH doesn't know I like to masterbate (I feel really shit inside about it)

It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Completely normal behaviour. I do it all the time. Blush[/quote]
I guess its more the fact he doesn't know

dyslek · 04/06/2021 20:33

Iv pritty much forgotten all my deep dark secrets...guess they were'nt that interesting.

Holothane · 04/06/2021 20:33

My fantasy dreams give me the best ever orgasms, even better than with dh we’re sexless now due to ill health meds, but I love Saturday nights he know I enjoy my films just not how much, there’s one comes out Saturday nights so I glow all night,

dyslek · 04/06/2021 20:34

Oh, also Im dyslec...cant spell.
But I dont think anyone has noticed Hmm

rosefrancescabell · 04/06/2021 20:34

NC as I can't believe I'm going to admit this..

This time last year I had everything lined up ready to leave my DH. He is a wonderful man, kind, caring etc. However, he bores the arse off me. I feel insanely frustrated with his lack of ambition work wise. He never asks for pay increases and will sit in a job so long as he doesn't have to think too hard. He's holding my life back and I resent it. I could go back to work full time, but he would be a crap SAHP and us both being FT isn't worth the childcare cost, thanks to DH's shit wage.

I love him, but I'm not in love with him.

We have young DC, and this time last year I discovered I was pregnant. It was the 3rd time that year I'd had sex with him, and I was on the pill. I was too scared to have an abortion, so went ahead with it, and the leave fund turned into a baby fund.

I've no idea how much longer we will last. There is nothing wrong with the relationship per se. I just don't want to be married any more.

I look back and know I made the wrong call. I should have gone ahead with the plan to leave with DC.

I also found out my DF had a child just before he met my mum. I asked about it and was forbidden to look for my half sibling. Little does DF know, I've been searching for my half sibling ever since. (It's surprisingly difficult to track someone down!)

JurorNumberThirteen · 04/06/2021 20:35

I used to work in an academy where a very senior member of staff was alleged to have had sex with a child at the school. It was 'consensual' (obviously not but you know what I mean) and the pupil didn't tell anyone, but there were concerns among staff and pupils and the school had solid evidence that there was at the very least an inappropriate relationship between them. The staff member was suspended and an investigation proceeded normally, police involved etc and they seemed to be on the verge of getting sacked.

Very suddenly the investigation was dropped, staff member was reinstated in their position and the evidence mysteriously disappeared. There was suspicion of other illegal practices (not sexual ones, more things like embezzlement) among academy trustees and I can only assume the staff member had something over on someone who was senior enough to get the investigation stopped. This all happened within the last ten years and as far as I know the person involved is still working there.

Obviously I'm not the only person in the world who knows about this, but it's not something I tend to bring up in conversation!

RideaCockHorseOfCourse · 04/06/2021 20:38

santabetterwashhishands

I'm having a friends with benefits relationship with my neighbour and nobody knows ,they think we are both straight.

How exciting, Santa how did it start?

AcrossthePond55 · 04/06/2021 20:39

Oh just remembered this one. I have a friend whose ex took her to the cleaners in the divorce. She married her 2nd husband strictly for his money. He's a nice man, but she doesn't love him and is not sexually attracted to him. She says her only 'real' feeling for him is gratitude for providing her with a financially secure life after living in virtual poverty after her divorce. She's not extravagant and doesn't waste 'his' money on a luxurious lifestyle for herself. It's enough to her that since the marriage she's never had to worry about how the bills got paid and that they now have a comfortable retirement.

He has no idea she doesn't love him. She has been faithful to him going on 20 years and has always treated him with affection, respect, and concern for his happiness. She feels that's keeping up her end of the bargain.

Ididntsleepwithdave · 04/06/2021 20:39

I fancy my boss.

My best friends brother attempted to sexually assault me when I was 14. I’ve never told anyone.

Beardie03 · 04/06/2021 20:39

@CornflowerBlue62

My godfather was a bit of a celebrity with a saintly reputation. When he died quite suddenly, his family received a letter from the queen saying how sorry she was to hear the news. That sort of person.

No one knows of the afternoon when I was 15 and he stuck his hand down my knickers.

You can’t trust anyone.

Omg...that's awful....
Poppy1968 · 04/06/2021 20:40

I am unhappily married, I reconnected with an ex fiancé last year (he lived 100 miles away so we never got to see each other), we both hoped to move forward this year, sadly he died at the beginning of the year, we never told anybody.

NegativelyPositive · 04/06/2021 20:40

I am putting on a brave face as i tested positive for covid today,
I've been crying on Facetime to friends, but, theres more to it I haven't told them - i also discovered i was miscarrying today anyway while going through an early termination.

I feel extremely lonely locked away in a room with no support. The confusion, sadness and shame is killing me, I am beside myself and ill on top of it all.

willieversleep · 04/06/2021 20:40

I believe I have ptsd and struggle with anxiety every day. No one knows not even my dh. My children are the reason I keep going.

irishoak · 04/06/2021 20:41

I've posted here about my abusive STBXH, and told bits to Women's Aid, some bits to friends or my family, but not the whole thing to anyone, because I'm so ashamed of what I put up with. I don't want people to think about these things when they look at me, or to pity me, but at the same time I want them to understand how awful it was.

One thing I've wanted to get off my chest but couldn't was that a few months before we split he said to me one day that I should count myself lucky that he doesn't rape me, like other husbands would. And looking back, I guess I was lucky, because it had clearly crossed his mind.

GrandmasCat · 04/06/2021 20:44

My flatmate was far from nice, never considerate and full of drama. She disappeared all the weekends leaving her cats unattended for days. I don’t like cats so I resented hugely having to clean the cat tray especially if I had also being away at the same time.

I managed to keep things even in my head until I moved out by using her toothbrush to clean the cats tray every time I found it over flowing.

Eggshausted · 04/06/2021 20:47

I married Dave...

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