I knew my relationship was over when.........

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We went camping, there was a huge storm, he packed up his car and left me with 3 children, a huge tent to take down and everything still to pack in the lashing rain and wind because 'his stuff was packed'. I was still there an hour later and a man from a neighbouring tent couldn't even believe he had gone and just left me to struggle on my own.

Your turn...

Your comment with my post doesn't make it any better @cuparfull.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

Yes, for financial or "other" benefit is exactly what he meant by ....
"You are sitting on a goldmine"
At aged 13 yrs, you learn to laugh it off but the emotional fallout never leaves. I couldn't wait to shed myself of his malign influence.

And now I have a respectful partner whom I treat as I wish to be treated.

But this thread has reinforced my intention that Women & Children Refuges will benefit in my will.

He asked me how much longer I would be in labour with our son because he was tired!

Something really small - they'd taken my photo down from the desk. I'd had my inkling before then...

When his dick accidentally went in the wrong woman

When he was off sick and couldn't get any help as he was self employed. I worked every hour I could at 2 jobs for weeks. Cried about paying bills and was told to shut the f... up. Then I found out he was getting money. That the was the final straw. I put up with alot of crap over the years and I finally came to my senses. To watch me cry when he could've helped is something I can't forgive. 2 years down the line I'm sooooo much happier. Single at 52 and loving life and he is trying to get back. Realised toi little too late what he had xx

When he made me so unhappy I turned into a woman who put laxatives in his dinner just for a laugh
To be fair the results were hilarious because he pissed off down the pub after eating

When he emptied the food from the freezer onto the floor because he didn’t know what he wanted for dinner then threw a pint mug at my face breaking my cheekbone because I didn’t jump up and help him choose what he wanted oh and our 18 month old son was on my lap

@BeyondMyWits

When I came home from a work trip away to find the bedding drying on the washing line. I just knew.

In some cases that might just be a nice welcome home? Depends how long the work trip was I suppose, as well as gut feeling

@mariominder you think she didn't know her partner?!

When I caught him lounging on our bed in the middle of the day while the house was full of his family, and he was happily partaking in online unfaithful activities on his third secret phone. That was it. Game over

We swapped cars because his was more economical and my work was further away so it made sense. We didn’t swap the tax direct debits so I still paid on my car and he paid on his car. One day he called and asked me to phone the DVLA to pay his tax as well. I did and they said the car had to have six months tax paid as the direct debit had failed 3 times. He knew this but didn’t tell me. So when I refused to pay he called his mum to let her know I had been stopped by the police with an untaxed car. A complete lie so she would pay the tax! Also he did a wee in the kitchen sink all over our toddlers plate and cutlery.

Ooh, I've got a good one for this!! I knew it was over when he took the money i'd saved up for the dogs cancer removal operation and took it to the bookies. Wasted the lot on the roulette machine then tried to convince both me and the vet that the op could wait another two weeks until I got paid again... He'd always been a grade a twat but that was the last straw.

Also he did a wee in the kitchen sink all over our toddlers plate and cutlery.

Disgusting! Why? You and your DC deserve better.

When I said I wanted to go to uni and get my degree and he replied " and you want to work in McDonalds because...?"

This 90 second film gives some useful tips on how to tell when a relationship is over
www.depict.org/2003/how-to-tell-when-a-relationship-is-over/

When he told me I "needed to get rid of DS if I wanted our relationship to progress".

It took me less than a nanosecond to make that choice. Bye then!

When he shouted at me that I had no right to say no to him in bed.
He was really terrifying.

When he was enthusiastic about me getting a second job so he didn't have to get a job (meaning I would be working all week)... and I then cheated on him.

When I was 9 months pregnant and saw in plain sight on his computer a conversation with another women telling her he “wishes he was there to make her smile.”
When he slept through the birth of our daughter.
When he didn’t go to a single doctor’s appointment.
When he made no effort to mend our trust, on the contrary continued to have multiple emotional affairs with women online.
When he stayed shut in a room as I took care of our newborn on my own.
When he called our daughter’s physical therapy appointment “a silly family thing he has to do” online
When he purposely stayed up all night while my daughter and I slept so he could talk to people online and slept while we were awake.
When he lied about taking our daughter outside, cooking her food, or bathing her. I can tell she’s dirty and hungry and her outdoor shoes have not moved...
When I found dirty pics of another woman on his phone and when I confronted him he raised his voice and said I was “psycho and invading his privacy.”
When I found out that he had been “microdosing” ketamine (a horse tranquilizer) without informing me.

The list could go on and on... and on....

@Mintjulia omg that's fucking ridiculous ,what a bellend !

@Solasta

When he took my bank card from the hospital when I had given birth and cleared my bank account

Next day all the other Dads/husbands were waiting at the door to come in and see their wives/new borns. He strolled in hours later with the mother of all hangovers.

He then proceed to go out the next 10 consecutive nights. I had a deposit down on another flat within the month and left the following month.

My daughter's father did this too. I remember being so sad seeing all the other new dads excitedly waiting to be let in at visiting time and he was nowhere to be seen. He turned up hours later, hungover and without the hospital bag I'd asked him to bring. Sadly it took another 4 years of him letting us down before I found the strength to leave. My now husband couldn't be any different, and it still surprises me that it's normal to be able to rely on your partner and not have to worry he'll let you down.

When he walked in front of me when we were out. His words I look much younger then my age and he doesn’t want people to know we are together:

When I slept with his mate (now dh) and didnt care. Been with DH for 12 years now and he's amazing

Some of these are incredibly awful, most in fact. The stuff you've had to endure! In the 80s I had a bad boyfriend - due to alcohol of course. On our last day he came staggering in from the pub and I asked him to leave (it was my flat thank God). He tried to strangle me but was too drunk. I got his brother to come round and take him back to his Mum's! Never saw him again. He rang a few weeks later to say he missed me and wanted to come back - shudder. I'd met my DH by then.